u/CollagenRager

I know it’s gonna be subjective but how long do you spend time on talking stage, to first date to second date, etc to becoming exclusive? What is the general timeline?

I’ve been talking to this guy for about a month and we recently went on our first date. The date was honestly amazing, we spent hours together, had coffee, extended to having dinner, loads of banter but also deeper conversations about life and values etc. I feel like the more I talk to him, the more I understand him as a person and I’m genuinely getting attached.

Before meeting him, I had already deleted my dating apps about two weeks earlier because I was burnt out from dating apps and genuinely too busy with life/work to keep entertaining multiple conversations.

Now I’m torn about whether I should reinstall them and talk to other people again because I’m scared that if this connection doesn’t work out, I’ll be more hurt because I emotionally focused on one person. Part of me thinks maybe talking to other people would help me stay detached and protect myself emotionally.

Is this self sabotage?

I’m interested to continue seeing fella who I matched with on Hinge and we went on a date already but the distance is making me wonder. I feel like we really match each other’s energy and we could talk for hours which is both banter and also like get to know each other serious questions. I am invested but idk with the distance if I should invest further

I deleted the apps in mid-April because I was completely burnt out from dating. I kept in touch with a few people I’d already matched with through social media and recently I went on a genuinely great date.

We spent hours just talking, had drinks, got food, and the whole thing felt really easy and wholesome. We kissed at the end and I do want to see him again.

The only catch is he lives about 100 miles away so I honestly don’t know if it’ll turn into anything long term. But weirdly the date reminded me that good dates do still exist. I think I’d become so cynical from the apps that I forgot how nice it can feel to genuinely enjoy someone’s company.

Now I’m tempted to reinstall the apps again because the experience gave me hope that there are still people out there I could connect with like that who might be living closer. Should I?

What is the origin of this corporate slavery of setting up unrealistic timelines and deliverables?

I noticed guys that I went on dates with especially those that have been single for years find it difficult to get serious with anyone as they claim. They don’t know how to introduce someone new in their routine and their schedule and tends to be dating casually. Is my observation fair?