u/Comfortable-Set-1606

I (18M) have been dating my girlfriend (18F) for 6 months, but we’ve known each other for 2 years. We’re long distance and see each other about once a month. We’re both graduating high school in a few weeks.

Recently we talked about future plans and eventually living together. She said that if she moved to where I live, I would have to pay for most things like rent and utilities because she doesn’t really like my area and thinks there aren’t many opportunities here. But if I moved to where she lives, then she would want things split 50/50.

She says it’s because she plans on going to community college while I’d probably be working. She even mentioned that I could work 2 jobs if needed. The thing is, I don’t even really have a job right now and most of the money I make comes from selling things online.

A lot of the time I’m usually the one paying for stuff already too. For example, she’s coming to visit for 2 days and tomorrow we’re going out to eat. Originally she wanted Cheesecake Factory but that was way out of my budget, so I convinced her to go somewhere cheaper instead and I’m still paying for it. I don’t mind paying sometimes, but it’s been making me think more about the future stuff.

I also suggested that maybe if we can’t figure out moving in right away, we should just stay with our parents longer and keep doing long distance while we save money and figure our lives out first. But she said she doesn’t want to keep doing long distance and that she might want to break up if moving in together doesn’t happen.

I really do love her, and we weren’t arguing or anything, just talking seriously about the future, but afterwards it made me wonder if I’m overthinking this or if it actually sounds one-sided.

TL;DR: Girlfriend says if she moves to my area I’d need to pay for almost everything, but if I move to hers she wants 50/50. We’re both about to graduate high school and she also said she may not want to continue the relationship if we can’t move in together eventually.

I (18M) have been dating my girlfriend (18F) for 6 months, but we’ve known each other for 2 years. We’re long distance and see each other about once a month. We’re both graduating high school in a few weeks.

Recently we talked about future plans and eventually living together. She said that if she moved to where I live, I would have to pay for most things like rent and utilities because she doesn’t really like my area and thinks there aren’t many opportunities here. But if I moved to where she lives, then she would want things split 50/50.

She says it’s because she plans on going to community college while I’d probably be working. She even mentioned that I could work 2 jobs if needed. The thing is, I don’t even really have a job right now and most of the money I make comes from selling things online.

A lot of the time I’m usually the one paying for stuff already too. I really love her, and we weren’t arguing or anything, just talking seriously about the future, but afterwards it made me wonder if I’m overthinking this or if it actually sounds one-sided.

TL;DR: Girlfriend says if she moves to my area I’d need to pay for almost everything, but if I move to hers she wants 50/50. We’re both still in high school and I’m wondering if I’m overthinking it or if it sounds unfair.

I (18M) have been dating my girlfriend (18F) for 6 months, but we’ve known each other for 2 years. We’re long distance and see each other about once a month. We’re both still in high school and graduating in 3 weeks.

Recently we talked about future plans and eventually living together. She told me that if she moved to where I live, I’d have to pay for basically everything like rent and utilities because she thinks my area is boring and says there aren’t many opportunities here. But if I moved to where she lives, then she wants everything split 50/50.

She says it’s because she’ll be in community college while I’ll be working, and she even said I could just get 2 jobs. The thing is, I honestly still feel like a kid. I don’t even have a real job right now. Most of the money I get is from selling stuff on Facebook Marketplace, and a lot of the time that money ends up going toward her.

I usually pay for most things unless it’s something small like a matching keychain or little gifts. I really do love her a lot, so I don’t know if I’m just overthinking everything or if this actually sounds unfair from an outside perspective.

I (18M) have been dating my girlfriend (18F) for 6 months, but we’ve known each other for about 2 years. We’re long distance and we visit each other around once a month.

Recently we were talking about future plans and where we’d eventually live together. The issue is that she says if she moves to where I live, she would only do it if I fully pay for everything like rent and utilities because she thinks my area is boring and says there aren’t many opportunities there.

But if I move to where she lives, then she says everything should be 50/50.

That kinda bothered me because it feels uneven to me. I understand not wanting to move somewhere you don’t like, but at the same time it feels weird that the expectations change depending on whose city we live in.