u/Comfortable-Tooth934

I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m a 18yo student and I haven’t started college as I’ll be doing an extra semester of highschool, and as more context I don’t live in America. For the last couple of years my father started to get violent towards my mother. He’s got an affair and no one, not even my grandparents (my father’s parents) know what has gotten to him. Some days ago my father wanted my mother to amend things with her mom (my grandma) as they don’t have a good relationship. When he was met with no answer he pulled my mothers hair and threw money at her, to me that was enough, offered my mom a safe space in my bedroom and my dad followed her and we started having a screaming match. He legit wanted to hit me and my mother got between us, I had to call my grandparents to scold him and you all don’t know how embarrassing it is to do that. My father apologized to me but still thinks my mom is in the wrong. He’s always trying to justify himself and on how he behaves. At this point I’m worried about what he might do to me or specifically to my mother. I also can’t just leave because I still depend economically on him, unlike in America in my country I attend a private highschool that will help with my career path, in my country you can’t just drop out and expect to have a good life. If he stops paying my tuition my future will be cut short. I want to get me, my mom and my pets out of here. I believe him to be dangerous and I can’t find a good job that will pay me enough. Although my mom can help he still represents the main income. I hate him so much I hope he pays for everything he has done to me and my mother.

I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m a 18yo student and I haven’t started college as I’ll be doing an extra semester of highschool, and as more context I don’t live in America. For the last couple of years my father started to get violent towards my mother. He’s got an affair and no one, not even my grandparents (my father’s parents) know what has gotten to him. Some days ago my father wanted my mother to amend things with her mom (my grandma) as they don’t have a good relationship. When he was met with no answer he pulled my mothers hair and threw money at her, to me that was enough, offered my mom a safe space in my bedroom and my dad followed her and we started having a screaming match. He legit wanted to hit me and my mother got between us, I had to call my grandparents to scold him and you all don’t know how embarrassing it is to do that. My father apologized to me but still thinks my mom is in the wrong. He’s always trying to justify himself and on how he behaves. At this point I’m worried about what he might do to me or specifically to my mother. I also can’t just leave because I still depend economically on him, unlike in America in my country I attend a private highschool that will help with my career path, in my country you can’t just drop out and expect to have a good life. If he stops paying my tuition my future will be cut short. I want to get me, my mom and my pets out of here. I believe him to be dangerous and I can’t find a good job that will pay me enough. Although my mom can help he still represents the main income. I hate him so much I hope he pays for everything he has done to me and my mother.