u/Commercial_Kale_4341

For SAHM’s who don’t work anymore, did you quit during pregnancy? Quit during maternity leave or return then quit?

I guess I’m just being a anxious FTM maybe but I’ll be returning to work September and basically I always said if my husbands income can cover us I won’t work until baby goes to school. One of our goals is to buy a home and we’re basically there except our household income is a bit too low with me on ML to actually get anything. Our deposit is good it’s just the income that’s holding us back.

I always said I don’t want him in daycare at all just because of the stories you hear and really I don’t trust anyone to care for him like me.

We’re blessed in the sense that he wouldn’t be there all week. I would work twice a week and my husband is home every fortnight so he’d only be in daycare two days per fortnight.

This would mean we could buy a home with my added income but I still just feel so sad. I would make enough to cover daycare and spare easily so it’s financially smarter I just hate that I’d be shipping him off somewhere.

We also EBF so I don’t know how that would work. He’d be 11 months when he goes

I need some advice about my situation right now. I am 6 months into my 12 month maternity leave and currently work 1 day a fortnight. I chose to start this as some extra money and some adult time I guess. I wfh so no commuting.
I work on the days my husband is home so no daycare.

I’m struggling because on those days I’m noticeably more down I don’t enjoy work like I used to I’m racing to finish so I can get off my computer and back to my family. I have a VERY gracious employer and they are flexible as can be. I get the work done and they are happy with me.

I’m just struggling because my heart isn’t in it, I want to be fully present with my baby every day I hate sitting in the office and they’re playing outside and being focussed on something else. My husband makes enough to support me no doubt I just work because it’s a choice.

I don’t want to fully quit because technically I’m still on ‘maternity leave’ and also because I’m sort of hanging on in case I need to work in the future. I’d rather increase hours than go find a new job.

It’s adding to my mental load I don’t feel like I’m giving either 100% on that day.

I’m in AUS and the best I can find is $1400 for a hour! We are eloping and literally having a 10 minute ceremony then photos that’s it