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My sister and i lived together for a few years. She was having a bit of a midlife crisis and decided to move out suddenly and pursue a traveling job. Since she will be moving every 3 months she left most of her stuff here for me to keep as all her possessions need to fit in a car.

I told her since she is giving me most of her stuff and we bought quite a few things as joint owners, she could take whatever she wanted as long as she told me what she was taking so i could replace it.

Today i have to take my cat to the vet. My sister and i were joint owners of the cat until she moved out, now hes just mine. She has a cat too but they aren't friends so she took hers with her.

I couldn't find the cat carrier. I called her and asked if she took both of them. She did and said she could because she bought both. I said thats fine and within your rights but ypu should have told me so i could get a new one.

She said i should have assumed she would take both because they were hers. I pointed out that she left all her shit here so that logic didnt stand. Also because she now has two carriers and one cat, i thought she wouldn't want both because her space os very limited.

She said "are you saying this is ky fault? You should have noticed the carriers were both gone"

So i said, "this is your fault. How would i notice that a carrier that is normally kept in the closet and used twice a year missing? Also i said to tell me what you were taking so i could replace stuff, i wouldn't have stopped you from taking it, i would have replaced it before it became an issue"

Then she hung up on me.

So am i the asshole for blaming my sister?

My big break through can when i realized that I'm obsessed with food and i would think about it all day no matter what and using that to my advantage.

Its true. I have trouble food noise and i think about it constantly. I think about every meal from the moment i wake up. I think about what food is available at every store and restaurant i pass and i thibk about what is available to eat during any activity i do. I was always fighting that thinking too but it's impossible not to think about something while thinking about not thinking about it.

I have always given up on calorie counting because it felt like it took up so much of my thoughts and do much brain power. I didn't want to have to add a he chore to my life forever. I wanted to go thrifty life and eat a healthy amount effortlessly like so many people can.

Then one day it hit me. I think about food all the time anyway, instead of trying to stop thinking about food, i might as well just use that energy to plan healthy meals and count calories.

I hated counting calories because i thought it took time away feom my day, but realizing it doesn't had made it so much easier to keep it going.

I still think about food just as much and that has become a blessing. I still think through everything i might eat in a day but now it gives me time to strategise. If i know im going to a restaurant with friends I'll plan my meal in advance and determine whats important to me and eat breakfast and lunch accordingly.

Im 16 lbs down now. Got way more to go but my progress has been sustained and almost effortless (most days) and i actually think i can pull off sustained and meaningful weight loss for the forst time wver

I have an art degree I dont use and the desire to practice painting. I have been toying with the idea of painting in the tourist heavy scenic overlook I live enarby. painting the view and if anyone approaches me, just give away the paintings.

If anyone wants to offer me money for them, I will accept it but I was just going to give htem away for free otherwise.

I am not going into this hoping to make any massive amount of money. I was probably going to do this in my free time anyway. But I was curious, do you think I would actually make anything?

I know that I can get away with doing this few times but if i make it a habit, I would have to get a peddlers/vendors license.

Genuinely curious if anyoen would think I could make money this way?

The painting wuold be small and while I have an art degree, painting was never my focus so they would be decent and not great. If i sold them all, i would sell them for like $10 each

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My 31F new roommate 27F is driving me crazy. We met through mutual friends. My previous roommate got a boyfriend and moved out. We had been roommates for years and worked well together with no major issues.

I had hung out with my new roommate a few times as friends well before we became roommates. We always got along well and i like her but she was the friend that never knew when to leave. An example is we had a party to watch the superbowl. Everyone drank a bit and chatted some after the game before leaving because it was a work night. But my roommate (RM) just wouldn't take the hint to leave. She was the only one at our house and didn't leave until both my old roommate and i went to bed.

RM is very kind and considerate and clean but i can't stand all the talking.

Every morning RM texts me about 4 times about random happenings in the house all while im sleeping. I usually respond but i dont have a lot of time in the mornings so its usually a shorter text.

I usually but, not always, get a work story from RM. And every day, she texts me to tell me when she gets home and what my cat is up to. I usually dont respond to these because im usually in traffic.

When i get home, if shes not in the shared space she comes out to talk to me and usually asks if i saw her texts.

Its very nice having a friend to talk to but there is no escaping her.

If I go in ny room and close my door for alone time, she talks to me from outside my door or texts me. Anytime i go in my room to change, she follows me in and i have to indicate that i need to shut the door to change and she stands outside and talks.

I have been going to the gym a bit more often than usual for some peace and normally she texts me while im there an update about the cat. Today she called me whole i was on the treadmill. I answered because i was worried as we usually dont call but she just wanted to know if she could pick up anything for me at the restaurant she was at. Which was very sweet but also very much not the time especially because she had seen me eat dinner already.

I don't want to get it twisted. RM is very sweet and i actually like talking to her but a lot of our conversations are redundant. I am the kind of person who likes hanging out with friends but needs alone time after. I feel like alone time no longer exists on my home.

Im not sure why my roommate feels the need to essentially narrate her every move to me because she previously lived alone.

I also am having trouble talking on the phone now. Pretty much every time im on the phone she assumes im talking to her and walks in the room, even if there were multiple closed doors between us. Even when she sees im on the phone, she continues the new conversation between us.

Our mutual friends think she is just excited to have a friend/roommate and it will calm down as we've only been living together for a month. I hope so too. Im just not sure if i should say anything or wait it out because she's not doing anything wrong and it's more of a me issue needing alone time. Idk what do you think?