u/Common_Violinist_223

I don't know what to do

I'll try and keep this short. My husband (M24) and I (F27) have been together for 10 years. He's always had a temper, but it's always been doable. (I'd like to express I have never been physically harmed). The last year or so, it's gotten worse. He can lash out for no reason, often even when I'm not around, so it has nothing to do with me directly. We rarely ever fight. He doesn't yell at me or anything, but starts throwing stuff until it breaks. Mostly it is my stuff. He never cleans it up either, occasionally I come home and find the mess and have to clean up. I lost track, but I probably already spent hundreds replacing stuff he broke out of my own pocket. My dog gets scared, starts howling and cowering away or behind me if I am around when this happens. Talking to him or confronting him when he gets like this makes things worse. When he gets like this, I often get insulted by him. He calls me things like a useless whore, a bitch, a cunt,... The issue is, I can't leave. Due to my business going bankrupt three years ago, I don't have the financials to find a place for myself and get out. I also don't have my driver's license yet so it would be difficult as is (I do have my learner's permit, but we share one car so I can't just take it and leave). I do have another job now, but it does not pay even half of what my husband earns, yet all our bills are split 50/50, meaning I barely have any savings and live from paycheck to paycheck while he has a lot of savings. He often holds this over my head. I love him, I really do, so I am not even 100% sure I want to leave. But I also know this is not going to get better. He's starting to genuinely scare me, and I'm getting worried about my wellbeing. Does anyone have experience with this, or solid advice on what to do? I can't involve my family, considering they live kind of far away, and if I'd go stay with them, I can't make it to work anymore. I'd rather not involve his family either, because i know that will get back to him and make matters even worse. I'm lost and I don't know what to do.

TL;DR: My husband has frequent angry outbursts where he breaks things, insults me, and scares both me and my dog. I can't easily leave because of finances and I'm looking for advice on how to safely handle this situation.

I don't know what to do

I'll try and keep this short. My husband (M24) and I (F27) have been together for 10 years. He's always had a temper, but it's always been doable. (I'd like to express I have never been physically harmed). The last year or so, it's gotten worse. He can lash out for no reason, often even when I'm not around, so it has nothing to do with me directly. We rarely ever fight. He doesn't yell at me or anything, but starts throwing stuff until it breaks. Mostly it is my stuff. He never cleans it up either, occasionally I come home and find the mess and have to clean up. I lost track, but I probably already spent hundreds replacing stuff he broke out of my own pocket. My dog gets scared, starts howling and cowering away or behind me if I am around when this happens. Talking to him or confronting him when he gets like this makes things worse. When he gets like this, I often get insulted by him. He calls me things like a useless whore, a bitch, a cunt,... The issue is, I can't leave. Due to my business going bankrupt three years ago, I don't have the financials to find a place for myself and get out. I also don't have my driver's license yet so it would be difficult as is (I do have my learner's permit, but we share one car so I can't just take it and leave). I do have another job now, but it does not pay even half of what my husband earns, yet all our bills are split 50/50, meaning I barely have any savings and live from paycheck to paycheck while he has a lot of savings. He often holds this over my head. I love him, I really do, so I am not even 100% sure I want to leave. But I also know this is not going to get better. He's starting to genuinely scare me, and I'm getting worried about my wellbeing. Does anyone have experience with this, or solid advice on what to do? I can't involve my family, considering they live kind of far away, and if I'd go stay with them, I can't make it to work anymore. I'd rather not involve his family either, because i know that will get back to him and make matters even worse. I'm lost and I don't know what to do.

TL;DR: My husband has frequent angry outbursts where he breaks things, insults me, and scares both me and my dog. I can't easily leave because of finances and I'm looking for advice on how to safely handle this situation.

So, long story short, I have been working on my first book in my series for 3 years. I'm currently at the very last rewrite. I came across some publishers online that accepted the first chapter and I did ask for feedback, in case anything could be changed, edited or rewritten entirely. I have no issues with critique whatsoever. If anything, I believe it makes me a better writer. I've been writing since I was 15, but only the past couple years decided to write an actual full length book, because I thought I had a good plot. The issue is, more than once have I received feedback over my use of AI. The problem is I have NEVER EVER used anything to assist with my writing at all. I never will. Everything I put down on paper, came from ME AND ME ALONE. It made me cry, because I dedicated my heart and my soul and so much time and love in this story, just to get accused of using a fucking emotionless robot for my writing???? I do not use it, I refuse to use it. I just wanted to rant about this and maybe find out if anyone else has issues with this too?

So, long story short, I have been working on my first book in my series for 3 years. I'm currently at the very last rewrite. I came across some publishers online that accepted the first chapter and I did ask for feedback, in case anything could be changed, edited or rewritten entirely. I have no issues with critique whatsoever. If anything, I believe it makes me a better writer. I've been writing since I was 15, but only the past couple years decided to write an actual full length book, because I thought I had a good plot. The issue is, more than once have I received feedback over my use of AI. The problem is I have NEVER EVER used anything to assist with my writing at all. I never will. Everything I put down on paper, came from ME AND ME ALONE. It made me cry, because I dedicated my heart and my soul and so much time and love in this story, just to get accused of using a fucking emotionless robot for my writing???? I do not use it, I refuse to use it. I just wanted to rant about this and maybe find out if anyone else has issues with this too?

So, long story short, I have been working on my first book in my series for 3 years. I'm currently at the very last rewrite. I came across some publishers online that accepted the first chapter and I did ask for feedback, in case anything could be changed, edited or rewritten entirely. I have no issues with critique whatsoever. If anything, I believe it makes me a better writer. I've been writing since I was 15, but only the past couple years decided to write an actual full length book, because I thought I had a good plot. The issue is, more than once have I received feedback over my use of artificial intelligence The problem is I have NEVER EVER used anything to assist with my writing at all. I never will. Everything I put down on paper, came from ME AND ME ALONE. It made me cry, because I dedicated my heart and my soul and so much time and love in this story, just to get accused of using a fucking emotionless robot for my writing???? I do not use it, I refuse to use it. I just wanted to rant about this and maybe find out if anyone else has issues with this too?