u/Competitive-Fun-9673

I’ve posted this a few times on other subreddits but I’m really wanting a broad spectrum of opinions to best know how to help ;)

Hi! All names and some details changed for privacy, So I’m a school counselor at a high school and I have this one student who I’ve been supporting since her junior year I’ll call her Millie (18F) and she’s a senior, she’s in a music class and has been for a few years and she talks bad of herself to the teacher in that class (40sM) who I’ll call Mr. Smith a lot, like she approaches him after class and starts insulting herself (“I’m bad at this, “Do you hate me?” “Everyone here hates me”) that type of thing

I’ve been working with Millie and Mr. Smith to work out a plan and Mr. Smith expressed that Millie’s insulting herself really upsets him and stresses him out and she’s yelled and screamed at him a few times (He didn’t even write her up or tell me, Millie told me expressing that she felt bad for it) and I told Mr. Smith that when Millie approaches him after class talking bad about herself to disengage meaning like not really respond to what she says and I told him to walk away from her but he doesn’t want to do that because he thinks that’ll make her angrier

I framed it to him like a toddler throwing a tantrum and in addition I gave him these papers to write for her after class of what she did good to give her a tangible way because I feel like it wasn’t sticking in her brain when he reassures her she’s doing good, and we had a meeting to discuss the plan and I told Millie why it seemed like he was not responding to cries as much and she flipped out and saying she doesn’t need to be treated like an infant and I feel bad I just wanted to help :(

Millie also has no father figure in her life either and has asked for hugs a few times from him he has given her one twice but the third time gave her a fist bump

Hi! All names and some details changed for privacy, I posted this a few weeks back and I want to hear teachers takes on this:)

So I’m a school counselor at a high school and I have this one student who I’ve been supporting since her junior year I’ll call her Millie (18F) and she’s a senior, she’s in a music class and has been for a few years and she talks bad of herself to the teacher in that class (40sM) who I’ll call Mr. Smith a lot, like she approaches him after class and starts insulting herself (“I’m bad at this, “Do you hate me?” “Everyone here hates me”) that type of thing

I’ve been working with Millie and Mr. Smith to work out a plan and Mr. Smith expressed that Millie’s insulting herself really upsets him and stresses him out and she’s yelled and screamed at him a few times (He didn’t even write her up or tell me, Millie told me expressing that she felt bad for it) and I told Mr. Smith that when Millie approaches him after class talking bad about herself to disengage meaning like not really respond to what she says and I told him to walk away from her but he doesn’t want to do that because he thinks that’ll make her angrier

I framed it to him like a toddler throwing a tantrum and in addition I gave him these papers to write for her after class of what she did good to give her a tangible way because I feel like it wasn’t sticking in her brain when he reassures her she’s doing good, and we had a meeting to discuss the plan and I told Millie why it seemed like he was not responding to cries as much and she flipped out and saying she doesn’t need to be treated like an infant and I feel bad I just wanted to help :(

Thoughts?

First time poster here :)

ETA: Millie has no stable father figure in her life either and has asked for hugs a few times from him he has given her one twice but the third time gave her a fist bump

Hi! All names and some details changed for privacy, I posted this a few weeks back and I want to hear teachers takes on this:)

So I’m a school counselor at a high school and I have this one student who I’ve been supporting since her junior year I’ll call her Millie (18F) and she’s a senior, she’s in a music class and has been for a few years and she talks bad of herself to the teacher in that class (40sM) who I’ll call Mr. Smith a lot, like she approaches him after class and starts insulting herself (“I’m bad at this, “Do you hate me?” “Everyone here hates me”) that type of thing

I’ve been working with Millie and Mr. Smith to work out a plan and Mr. Smith expressed that Millie’s insulting herself really upsets him and stresses him out and she’s yelled and screamed at him a few times (He didn’t even write her up or tell me, Millie told me expressing that she felt bad for it) and I told Mr. Smith that when Millie approaches him after class talking bad about herself to disengage meaning like not really respond to what she says and I told him to walk away from her but he doesn’t want to do that because he thinks that’ll make her angrier

I framed it to him like a toddler throwing a tantrum and in addition I gave him these papers to write for her after class of what she did good to give her a tangible way because I feel like it wasn’t sticking in her brain when he reassures her she’s doing good, and we had a meeting to discuss the plan and I told Millie why it seemed like he was not responding to cries as much and she flipped out and saying she doesn’t need to be treated like an infant and I feel bad I just wanted to help :(

Thoughts?

First time poster here :)

ETA: Millie has no stable father figure in her life either and has asked for hugs a few times from him he has given her one twice but the third time gave her a fist bump

I’m expecting twins girls in a few months and we have two daughters already who are almost 10 and 7, They are Lydia Faith and Margot Zara, I’m lost lol our last name starts with an R and is one syllable

Any suggestions?

Hi! All names and some details changed for privacy, So I’m a school counselor at a high school and I have this one student who I’ve been supporting since her junior year I’ll call her Millie (18F) and she’s a senior, she’s in a music class and has been for a few years and she talks bad of herself to the teacher in that class (40sM) who I’ll call Mr. Smith a lot, like she approaches him after class and starts insulting herself (“I’m bad at this, “Do you hate me?” “Everyone here hates me”) that type of thing

I’ve been working with Millie and Mr. Smith to work out a plan and Mr. Smith expressed that Millie’s insulting herself really upsets him and stresses him out and she’s yelled and screamed at him a few times (He didn’t even write her up or tell me, Millie told me expressing that she felt bad for it) and I told Mr. Smith that when Millie approaches him after class talking bad about herself to disengage meaning like not really respond to what she says and I told him to walk away from her but he doesn’t want to do that because he thinks that’ll make her angrier

I framed it to him like a toddler throwing a tantrum and in addition I gave him these papers to write for her after class of what she did good to give her a tangible way because I feel like it wasn’t sticking in her brain when he reassures her she’s doing good, and we had a meeting to discuss the plan and I told Millie why it seemed like he was not responding to cries as much and she flipped out and saying she doesn’t need to be treated like an infant and I feel bad I just wanted to help :(

Thoughts?

First time poster here :)

ETA: Millie has no stable father figure in her life either and has asked for hugs a few times from him he has given her one twice but the third time gave her a fist bump