u/ConfusedOldDad

She's a girl, so of course she can have a girl's haircut, but not sure if 14 is too young for highlights. No issue with her piercing her ears and I can live with the one she wants in the top of her ear, but 14 seems a bit young for a belly bar.

Or are these things normal now and I just haven't noticed things have changed?

Listen sweet pea, if you want to wear your new clothes and makeup out we could go to xxxxxxxxxxxx beach so you could get the feel of them without meeting anyone you know until you're ready?

• So you are saying we can go out and I can dress up? Yes
• And we are going to waste it at the beach? We don't have to. You got any better ideas?
• Metrocentre (huge shopping centre about an hour away). Want to look at dressing tables in Ikea and pick new curtains and bedding in Dunelm. Aren't you worried you might meet someone you know and they'll out you before you're ready?
• Like they're not going to find out anyway! Can we get the train? Not if you want a dressing table. We can't carry that home........

Daughter's full transition day will be when the school holidays start. She's very passable with her hair brushed a certain way, especially with a padded bra, a bit of makeup and girl clothes.

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Thinking of asking if she wants to go to the beach tomorrow in girl mode. An obscure less-amazing one about 40 miles away where nobody she knows will be visiting.

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Good idea? Or just increasing the dysphoria when she puts her school uniform back on Monday?

Daughter's full transition day will be when the school holidays start. She's very passable with her hair brushed a certain way, especially with a padded bra, a bit of makeup and girl clothes.

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Thinking of asking if she wants to go to the beach tomorrow in girl mode. An obscure less-amazing one about 40 miles away where nobody she knows will be visiting.

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Good idea? Or just increasing the dysphoria when she puts her school uniform back on Monday?

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I'm new to the trans support world since my child came out, and one of the hardest things I'm adapting to is the language. I constantly find myself googling what something means.

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Terf, MTF, tucking, binding, deadname.... Has anyone put together a list of terms?

Visited the headmistress with my daughter about her transitioning over the holidays. State funded school (Academy).

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They are completely unsupportive. Won't use her new name unless "officially" changed, won't use she/her etc.

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Is it worth fighting them, or just find another school?

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Received more help for my daughter than I could possibly imagine from a bunch of internet strangers.

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Thank you all.

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Going to donate £100 to a charity of your choosing as a thank you.

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Just tell me where to send it.

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Daughter (14) came out to me as trans yesterday. I got her pyjamas, makeup and a pair of clip on earrings but it was Sunday, shops close early, I had to grab and run.

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When it comes to clothes, I just want to get her a few things for around the house. She's only out at home at the moment. She wants to transition properly when the schools close for summer, and she needs to pick her own new wardrobe. Can only be things that come in s/m/l as I have no idea of girls sizes.

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Also some toiletries and other odds and ends.

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Any ideas?

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