How do I F19 confront my boyfriend M18 about the things that bother me and ensure he listens?
My boyfriend and I have been dating around 6 months now, him and I are practically best friends and we get along pretty well. He has almost never made me doubt my worth in him wanting me in the relationship because he has been very present and loving with me since day one. But theres just things that really irk me that he says that really makes me doubt his authenticity.
One things he says that bothers me and I feel like it shouldn't is that he sometimes bring up how he thinks it would be really hot if I had a bunch of tattoos. I expressed to him that I thought about getting a few but I didn't really want that many or any at all. I thought that was the end of that but it wasnt. He just kept pushing for it like he was trying to change my mind. One time we were at the beach with my friend and he saw my friend take off her shirt (she has a torso tattoo) and he pointed saying "look she has a tattoo why don't you get one?". Thankfully, my friend went off on him and was angry he even said that. Later that night he brought it up and told him it was annoying whenever he brought up him wanting me to get one. He just was kind of quiet about it after that. But today he brought it about AGAIN, about two after the last time. We were hanging out with his friends and he brought up this mom he saw that had tatted up arms and piercings and said how she was "super hot" and told me again how he thinks it would be so hot if I got tatted up arms. I told him "no. I probably wont ever get tattoo sleeves. Maybe just one or two on my arms." He insisted on it! Saying i should do it. I didnt entertain it.
It bothers me so much because it makes me feel like he doesn't appreciate me the way I am. Like he would change things about me if he could. How do I make him understand it bothers me like this? It makes me not even want tattoos anymore. I dont want to get them just because he wants them on me.
He has told me that if there is something that bothers me that he does, I should tell him, which im going to, but I need to know, how do I do it? Im terrible with confrontation.