u/ConstantSalad152

Our 14 month old is with our nanny 3-4 days a week and with me the other day plus weekends. I asked our nanny how we can better support her given that our son is entering the wild toddler era and one thing she asked is for us to sleep train him so she can just put him down for naps and not have to rock him to sleep. We've resisted sleep training because it works for me to just nurse him to sleep at night and he's a good sleeper and then with naps our nanny had enjoyed rocking him to sleep. Not sure what to do now or where to get the best advice. I recognize we can tell our nanny (who is wonderful) to just keep rocking him to sleep but I want to find a good balance.

We really like our nanny and generally have a great but very professional relationship. I’m a former nanny so I prefer that and it seems to be working well. Our nanny loves our baby which is great too so I really even hesitate to post this she’s just made a few comments lately that stood out to me and my husband and I just want to make sure this is within the realm of good and normal. She’s made a big deal of the baby saying her name—he’s not really but ok. He barely says mama or dada (he’s 13m). She’s also made a few comments about how well she knows him, which I appreciate too “I just know him sooo well!”. And then she’s also said a bunch about how all the other nannies they hang out with say he’s the best baby and the easiest baby, etc. I’m reading this as she loves my kid (hard not to) and is proud of doing a good job and any discomfort is a me/husband issue. Does that feel right? If there was any issue I don’t think there’s anything we’d do differently.

We have a 13 month old, I work part-time to spend more time with the baby and we have a nanny the days I work. I've been telling him for a while I want a divorce but we've been trying to work it out with couples therapy, etc. and have had three sessions. This weekend was going ok, things got tense, he left, and this morning sent an email about retaining attorneys. Things have been on/off for a while and I'm still not sure what I want/I'm not fully ready to leave. He tends to get mad and make big pronouncements and gestures like this. I've spoken to attorneys in the past so have one in mind and all but I don't feel ready and not sure if he's serious. I just need help and support not everyone to say "leave him!"