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I’m from the Philippines and I had to stop my studies due to financial problems.

Right now I’m living in a very controlling household where I’m not allowed to freely go out or work outside the home. Even studying again or making my own decisions is heavily restricted.

I’ve tried looking for online work and small income sources, but it’s unstable and not enough to rebuild my life or continue school.

I feel stuck because the usual advice (get a BPO job, work outside, etc.) isn’t possible for me right now due to my living situation.

I’m trying to figure out what realistic steps I can take from inside this kind of environment. Has anyone here been in a similar situation or knows people who were able to become independent while initially trapped at home?

Any advice, direction, or even examples of what paths are possible would really help.

PROBLEM/GOAL: Hi. I honestly don’t know where else to ask this, pero gusto ko lang humingi ng advice from people na maybe naka experience ng ganito or naka survive sa ganitong situation.

CONTEXT: I’m currently at the lowest point of my life. Parang feeling ko tinry ko na lahat pero wala pa rin nangyayari. I really want to do something with my life, become independent, finish school, move out, and finally live peacefully, pero parang lahat ng paligid ko humihila pababa.

For context, I was a 3rd year MedTech student before I stopped because wala nang magpapaaral sakin. Yung mom ko has another family now and focused siya doon. Yung dad ko rin ganon. Right now, I’m living with my mom and grandparents.

Here’s the hard part: may kaya yung side ng family ng mom ko, pero sobrang controlling and matapobre nila. They’ve always hated my dad, and somehow sakin nila binubuhos yun because they say kamukha ko raw siya and “mana” ako sa kanya. They don’t want to support me in school, but at the same time ayaw rin nila ako mag work outside. Lahat nakikialam, tita, tito, pinsan, everyone. Parang wala akong sariling decision sa buhay ko.

Whenever I try to improve myself, may masasabi sila. Kapag wala akong ginagawa, minamaliit nila ako. Kapag gusto ko mag work, ayaw nila. Kapag gusto ko bumalik school, ayaw rin. I feel trapped.

I tried online jobs and meron naman akong nakukuha minsan, but they’re unstable and not enough to fully support myself and school. Night shift pa usually. On top of that, yung mom ko humihingi rin ng cut sa sahod ko because wala rin siyang sariling work and nakaasa rin siya sa parents niya.

At this point, sobrang pagod na ako mentally. I even tried doing TikTok/content creation because people tell me I have the looks naman, and honestly I’m willing to try anything now just to escape this situation. Pero ewan ko ba, parang kahit anong effort ko, walang nangyayari.

I know some people have it worse, pero hindi ko na talaga alam gagawin ko. I just want to build a life for myself and leave this toxic household. How do you even start when you have no support system, no financial stability, and a family that keeps pulling you down?

If anyone here was able to escape a controlling/toxic family situation and become independent, paano niyo ginawa? What should I focus on first? Work? School? Saving? Moving out? Kahit anong advice would really help.

And to be honest, nasa point na rin ako minsan na naiisip ko nalang mawala because I feel so stuck. But a part of me still wants to try. I just don’t know how anymore.