First week of Kindergarten plus working full-time…I’ve got nothing left to give and I’m about to eat olives and cheese for dinner. What Neflix shows pair well with low blood sugar and burnout? 😂
Edit: You moms all came through!!! What a treasure trove. Thank you all. 💜
Same bush- a Patriot newly planted in the Midwest this year. First pics are about a month ago and last few with the red leaves are now. Once the rain stops, I was thinking of treating with copper fungicide and adding ammonium sulfate to the soil. I had pH tested and it is too high. I did amend the soil with peat moss and pine bark fines when I planted but maybe I didn’t do it correctly.
I’m going to add elemental sulfur to the soil in the fall but hoping I can do something faster acting like ammonium sulfate now and still add the sulfur later. The pH is 7 outside that ring of amended soil. (I know, I jumped the gun.)
Is all of this too stressful at once?
Hi. This sub isn’t for me but I lurk and (very rarely) comment to get a better understanding of my husband’s experience. Tonight, I need your help.
My 3 yo just asked me why his dad is his mom. It’s unreal how early the brainwashing and conditioning start. After I told him that “dad isn’t mom— he’s dad” he explicitly cited the fact that dad cooks as proof that he’s mom.
So, I want to diversify the bookshelf. Please hit me with your best recommendations for books where any of the following are true:
The dad being at home or doing domestic labor doesn’t have to be the whole plot- in fact it would be ideal if it weren’t. I’d like it to just be…normal.
Thank you!!
*Edit to remove a few words so it’s easier to just see the ask here
***Important note: Yes, I’m neurodivergent- ADHD. Yes, I’d be willing to do testing for my kid for ADHD or autism spectrum. However, his pre-k teachers and doctors have not flagged either of these and beyond the social anxiety and social cues nothing else is causing my spidey senses to tingle yet.
So:
My oldest is starting kindergarten and I see so much of myself in him. I had extreme social anxiety as a kid and had difficulty picking up on social cues. I always had a few friends- I was never the kid with NO friends- but I was weird. In grade school, if I were hanging out with 2 other girls it would be fairly common for them to “gang up” on me in some way. By the time middle school rolled around, I was actively excluded from parties, dances, etc and was deeply unhappy and lonely. Things improved for me in high school because I attended a school in a new area with a much larger collection of “nerds” and we were segregated into honors classes by ourselves anyway. Things further improved in college and beyond. By my 30s, I’d almost forgotten that I was a misfit.
Fast forward: My son went to preschool this year and made no friends. He’s been to soccer camps and kindergarten mixers and I see him making the same mistakes I did.
He closes his body language, he won’t make eye contact, he won’t say hi or bye. He is the opposite of friendly and open and approachable. He LOSES himself entirely. If a kid who is extremely outgoing approaches him then he will open up— but then he is either an easily led minion or is “too much” and can’t tell when he’s being annoying.
When I see him go through this my heart breaks for him. And then it also somehow transports me back to grade school and I’m afraid of the other moms. I can’t interact normally. It doesn’t help that in my area I’m surrounded by SAHMs and I am not. We also came from an urban, progressive area and this area is more of a mixed bag, leaning conservative. This only makes things harder.
Has anyone else experienced this? Does anyone have good recommendations for social skills training videos or books?
Thanks!
Things have gotten bad with my beach rose. Is this fungal infection? And did it spread to the cane? Do I prune leaves or entire cane? Zone 5b.And I had a rough time with Japanese beetles a few weeks ago as well.
Title says it all! This is a bee sleeping in my beach roses. Thanks to a nice member of this sub I know what my inherited rose actually is!
We inherited 3 rose bushes and this is one of them. We actually tried pretty hard to get rid of it last season because I had no idea how to care for them. I’ve since fallen in love with gardening and have decided to see if this little guy can stage a comeback. Anyone know what it is? The flowers are so much smaller this year, which I suppose isn’t shocking. Will they increase in size as the plant grows back?
I’ve agonized over what to do about these roses we inherited when we bought our house. They were overgrown and riddled with fungal issues last season. Im not a gardener and have no idea what I’m doing but I dove in this spring. I began by giving them a hard prune (basically massacring them by mistake). I’ve tried to do right by them ever since. And so far, so good?! Now I just need to know what they are. My iPhone has no suggestions. Anybody here know?