I've written this 4 times, if you have any questions feel free to ask!! My pictures weren't formatting right so I retook them, hopefully it works, but I am so excited about this and want to talk with other about them!!
Many many times I've seen cartoons come out that have been so great and ended up getting canceled for not enough monetization, and this is VERY common with Disney. Let me just say, I think this is the best Disney show to come out in the last 5 years easily, and this show feels like how many of these shows felt 10-15 years ago in the golden age of Disney and CN. Look, I don't usually find a show I can binge so easily, but I literally finished binge watching this show extremely quickly because how great it was (and because I've been sick with nothing to do lol). But I mean, the character development of characters like Kim, Doug, ect. The animation style that has awesome action scenes. The soundtrack besides being a little repetitive is one of the best we've ever had on Disney in general, and I have not seen nearly enough about this, hell if I wasn't bored and just decided to pick a random show I wouldn't have ever seen this.
At the end of the day, this show NEEDS a season 2, it ended on a cliffhanger and had some really awesome story telling, animation, characters, etc. I mean just the dynamic of Bobby and Romy is really great, let alone Kim who is super sick, and Doug who imo is just the right amount of stupid given how important and strong he is in the show. Maybe it won't be your favorite, but c'mon, give it a try, within the first episode I was hooked, and I mean there are genuinely some PHENOMENAL episodes. WE NEED A SEASON TWO BEFORE DISNEY SAYS NO!!
After YEARS of wanting this book as I read a library copy chronically, I picked up a copy finally in pretty decent shape. I got it yesterday technically but I wasn't home the package just came in, but I got home today and I've already read it, this book was so much of my childhood and I feel lighter knowing that I actually was able to own it, it's been almost 8 years since that library copy went missing, and I've finally rekindled with my childhood. This was the biggest dent out of my first paycheck, and it was worth every cent, I finally feel like a full blown child again, I feel like my wonder has come back and I'm so happy about it. I love many things that are much more "adult-orientied" than this, whether it be TV shows or music, but this is one of my favorite things I own, if not my favorite, and maybe my most valuable book, not only by price but also sentiment.
Hi, I'm pretty indifferent about sex. I've felt repulsed at times, but primarily I identify as sex indifferent Gray/Demi, I've really and fully known about asexuality for about 6 months give or take, and it's really helped me understand myself and my personal traits, get them down and pinpoint them. But, there still is some stuff I don't understand and I thought I'd just ask in a place full of other aces.
Is there a difference between Sex Averse, and Sex Repulsed? I assume there probably is, and I really don't want to seem insensitive at all, I just don't fully know what means what there and if there are any major differences I should know. Sorry if that sounds rude! I just want to understand better the community that I surround myself in.
Like, I don't even know what to mark this as, but why is this guy so butthurt about people not liking him just saying asexuals are against nature 😭, obviously people won't like you saying that, that's terrible to say.
For context, I saw this video that was like "my top 5 metal bands" and proceeded to name like 5 mainstream Melodic Metalcore bands that debuted between like 2002-2010, and I had felt like it was an extreme compression of not only metal, but also just Metalcore, which I feel happens way too often skewing people on what Metalcore as a genre truly started as.
EDIT: I posted this last night before I went to bed trying to see all the perspectives on the situation and I've gotten a lot of mixed reviews in the replies. I just want to clear a couple things up.
The real emo copypasta comments are funny, that wasn't what I was going for, but it made me laugh a bit.
I don't hate KSE, or most modern Metalcore for example, but I just find that when people ramble on about adoring the genre, and don't even know bands like Converge, it becomes disingenuous to me.
I try my best not to be an elitist, 100% you are allowed your opinion, and you can like the music you like. But, I am also allowed to disagree with your opinion, and if I see something outside of the subjective portions of music, like if someone were to say Black Sabbath isn't hugely influential to metal, and isn't metal, I'll call it out.
Hopefully this clears a couple things up, I wasn't trying to start some huge argument, just keep having fun with what you enjoy (the only band I really hated from his list was August Burns Red because of the AI usage).
I live in a very conservative town, and the last thing they are is accepting most often. I'm introverted with diagnosed GAD, and have a few friends, but not many, and I don't talk with people often. My biggest problem is that I don't feel myself around a lot of people, even if I've known them for years. Everytime I hear someone talking about their latest "attraction" or how they want my opinion on if someone is "hot" it just feels unnatural and wrong to me.
Part of me wishes that I could understand, but I also hate how over sexualized society can get, and I don't want to be part of it regardless of my asexuality.
I guess I just feel weird, I met one "ace" person and my life and he was a rapist (from what everyone has told me, but I couldn't be too sure) besides that, I just didn't get along with him.
I just want to feel like I fit in, because the more this summer goes on, the more I feel pathetic, I don't do anything but sit down and listen to music, occasionally I'll play a game or watch some TV, but it's uneventful. I want to get a job to fill the time, but I've applied to 70 jobs with no luck and I'm so discouraged, I just feel weak.
The worst part is my struggle with alloromantic asexuality, it is such an issue for me. Deep down, every day I dream of a world where I can just lay down, cuddle and watch TV, without worrying about it going anywhere, or stopping the TV to make out, I had that happen so much in my last relationship and I hated it (It wasn't healthy, and I didn't know about asexuality yet).
I guess one of my big problems is I would absolutely love everything in my life right now if I had someone to spend it with, and I know that, but after my last relationship I promised myself I wouldn't take an easy way out, and I would try to learn to love myself before I even tried to love another.
I know it could help to have someone around, but that help is meaningless if I can't be happy on my own. The scary part is that I don't know where to find aces, and I don't want to date allos. I've heard all the recommendations about meetups, and online, but I want to meet the person in real life when I'm ready, and there are only gated ace communities in my city.
Behind all of this, I am also home all the time, I deeply want connection, but I know it's not best for me right now. I just want to feel like I don't need to spend my time doing such superficial things, because I do that for comfort, and I know that I need to step out of my comfort zone when it comes to this kind of thing, I need to improve myself, I need to make new friends, but I just feel so worthless.
Comfort is for when you are at a point to feel comfortable, not when you're trying to strive for change, and I just feel like every time I'm bored I choose to listen to music or watch TV, and sure I love those things, but I mean, even when I went out for a walk at the park yesterday, I saw so many cool looking people that I wanted to talk to, and I just didn't because I felt like I didn't belong.
I am just in such a confusing situation with myself, and I feel like me being ace just makes it so much harder, so I guess what I'm trying to say is, how would I even be able to step out of my personal bubble when I can barely even think of what would happen if I talked to someone, how can I expect to improve outwardly when I've been working for months and only made personal improvements no one could notice, and most of all, how on earth can I ever explain my demisexuality/gray asexuality, and have someone reciprocate those feelings in a town that is so extremely conservative that you are scared of everyone.
I don't even know what to say, I just have been sad in the past few days, and I don't know why completely. I feel like incompetent and not complacent with myself. Part of me has had this huge disappointment in myself, I feel like a fake ace because I'm gray/demi, I don't know how to explain it, part of knowing that makes me feel like people judge me more in my personal life because my relationship with sex and sexual ideas are both appalled and neutral depending on specific situations from my past.
I guess that I just have this odd dysphoric feeling that I'm inadequate and that I'm not enough. I feel so weird knowing that I could be fine with occasional sexual interactions FAR from now. I know that sexual attraction is what defines it, but I can't help but feel like less, and I'm embarrassed saying this. I have this big problem with the idea that I know I don't want to be in a relationship with an allo, and an allo most likely wouldn't want to be in one with me, which I understand, but I also can't see myself being with someone completely sex-repulsed just because I want kids down the line. And I never want to make a sex repulsed person have sex that's a big nono in my book.
So really I feel limited to a limited group of this limited community for potential future partners. It's really hard being a monogamous alloromantic ace, but at this point I feel fake, and I can't even pinpoint exactly why, maybe I'm just going through a patch of self-degration, but I just want real life asexual friends to talk to, because I feel so alienated even from friends I've known for well over a decade, just because I feel irregular. I also live in a pretty conservative place and I've checked online and the only "event" in my town is limited to 18 people on Facebook who fit into lgbtqia+ and they all seemed much older than me so it felt awkward to try joining so I didn't, and I really don't want to
I just want to feel like I actually belong, I don't know where, and I don't know who I want to be with me, but I want to feel actually listened to, not just heard at face value.
I recently was watching a random YT video which this girl casually just started talking about how she commonly cheats on her boyfriend, and her boyfriend was there? She also mentioned she wasn't poly just "got nervous without a backup". When I saw that I was just a little shocked hearing about someone caring so much about having a backup for sex (they clarified that's what the backup was for).
After that I discovered that there is like a MASSIVE group of people on the Internet that just, support sexual infidelity, and think that telling people sexual infidelity is wrong isn't right, or believing that sexual infidelity is wrong is bigoted. I don't get it? If someone cares enough about sex to cheat on me, how is it me in the wrong for not liking that person for it? Overall not that serious, but what does the rest of this community think? Maybe I'm skewed but I mean, I just feel like cheating is cheating and sexual infidelity is obviously wrong.
This might seem insensitive, but I'm just ignorant not like really mean. But, what would the point of coming out be? I'm talking about my family, I have told friends and they're supportive, but, I'm not close with my sister, my brother is a bit closed minded and I tried to tell my mom that I didn't like it or want it because it worried me about the future with me eventually wanting a family of my own and she told me "you've just had bad experiences, you'll find the person someday" which I feel a bit offended by, but my mom isn't bigoted I just wasn't very clean I was sort of just dropping hints.
But, I am Gray or Demi, and I feel like a .. "fake" ace in a way? I don't know, it's just that I will probably find someone that I connect to eventually, but it's definitely not going to be something I want to be sexual with constantly, and even if or when I'd be fine with it, I don't think I'd want it often, so part of me is saying that my mom is right about that because I'm more in the middle of the spectrum, but the other part of me realizes that once I had the revelation that I was on the Asexual Spectrum I became a much happier person because I felt like for once I discovered part of myself I never had before.
So, asking all aces, would it even be worth coming out to my family?
I feel really lost in life, I'm young and had really bad past experiences, and I just struggle so hard with feeling content. I'm on the Asexual Spectrum, I don't know exactly where but it's either Gray or Demi (I don't fully know because I realized my asexuality after my last relationship). But, I just feel so worried.
To explain why, I have wanted children ever since I was extremely young, it's just a personal dream of mine, and I feel so worried that I'll A.) not be able to have children because of my asexuality getting in the way of things B.) not be able to find another ace who wants biological children C.) feel pressured to do things more often than I want to because of having children/trying
I think the thing I'm most worried about is the fact that I won't be able to find someone like me as an ace, not only I would want to be with an ace, I have so many standards, I would prefer them to be demi or gray, I'm heteromantic so I would only be interested in women, I would want them to want children as well (this is somewhat a deal breaker as I would never want someone to feel pressured because it's my dream) and that doesn't even begin to start with personality
I realized during my last relationship (it was toxic and she was hypersexual) that I couldn't ever be with someone who doesn't take me or my interests seriously, and she didn't, she sexualized my interests and if I ever talked or got nerdy about something I enjoy she'd immediately pressure me into sexual encounters saying my rambling was "turning her on" it genuinely broke my soul because I feel like my interests were never even known in our entire relationship because I'd constantly hear "Sorry I wasn't listening to you, I was listening to your voice". (also she cheated on me when I wouldn't do shit with her, so it's pretty bad in that capacity too)
The problem with this is I'm weird and nerdy, and I feel like people won't share my interests, I spend like 80 percent of my free time listening to extreme metal, and I also love folk and emo is pretty cool, and I love the Soulsborne games, I have toys and comics and I love reading comics, specifically paperback novels, I want people to not only share some of these interests, but also care about the little things, I want someone to know I don't like socks because they make my feet feel funny, I want someone to know that my favorite pass time with them would be napping together, I want them to know that I'm allergic to a bunch of stuff like strawberries and gold and shellfish, and actually care that they know these things, I want them to remember things, and not just write them off as being hot ramblings as I repeat myself for the 500th time about what my favorite color is, it's dehumanizing.
I just want to feel like I can find someone y'know? I feel like I struggle way more with dating, after my last relationship, I decided I'd wait until I truly felt happy with myself and understood myself and I've made progress, but it's painful watching my friends get into relationships and leave relationships, and repeat this cycle while I endlessly search for someone to understand me, while not even really searching at the moment
I have this friend, and he recently (like last week) left his relationship, and now he's flirting with another girl while being sad that he cannot be in a relationship with an entirely different girl who's moving halfway across the world. I feel so awkward when he talks about these things, he's had 3 relationships in the past like 8 months, and is trying to get into another one so quickly, and it's so awkward to hear him be like "Well I would want to be with her, but I have my eyes set on a different girl and she's absolutely hot, sadly she's moving though" I don't know it just feels disingenuous it seems like a lot of allos only approach people based how they look, and while I can understand being aesthetically attracted to someone it feels sometimes that's all people care about.
Anyways, sorry for being all over the place I just wanted to rant, I'm looking for advice from alloromantic asexuals that have had similar issues, did you ever find someone? I just want to know that out of the billions of people out there, there will be someone who understands me and listens to me and loves me not lusts me.