u/Coochiepop3

After repeatedly having to remove posts from so-called "curious outsiders" this week, I have decided to make a new rule: posts from outsiders asking about antisexualism are no longer permitted. These posts have almost always turned into attempts to challenge, debate, or undermine the purpose of this space. Outsiders can't respect the space and follow the rules, so these posts are banned period.

If anyone is genuinely interested in antisexualism, there are already plenty of resources available. You're welcome to read the pinned post and browse through the discussions for more information. Making a post is not necessary to learn more about the community's ideology.

Once again, we are a safe space, not a debate forum. If someone wants to make arguments in favor of sex, there are plenty of spaces for that. There are not many spaces where someone can voice criticisms of sex without being shut down.

Future posts like this will be immediately removed. They're annoying, unnecessary, and serve nothing.

Look, let me start off by saying that I understand insecurity/poor body image, and that these are issues that can affect anyone regardless of appearance. I truly do, and I know that it's a me problem stemming from my own issues. But god almighty, I can't lie that there aren't times where it doesn't feel offensive even though I logically know they can't help it. It's similar to how it feels for fat people to see skinny people calling themselves fat.

If I'm being honest, it probably does come from envy. Like, ugh, you have the privilege of having something valuable I don't; I would do anything to look like you so I can feel comfortable even looking in the mirror, but you're the one complaining? Again, I know it's not their fault and that that sounds dismissive, but that's what the more emotional side of me says, especially on the really bad days. I guess it rubs the salt in the wound. It's like a rich person calling themselves poor.

By the way, I don't invalidate anyone's experiences, and I do still offer empathy. I keep my thoughts to myself.