Friend advocates against rape but watches rape porn?
I really just want to know everyone's thoughts on this because I'm in genuine disbelief. I'm sure a lot of us have heard about the horrible "Cornell 7" case and it is truly sickening, yet not surprising. Much luck to the victim as she deserves justice and those men deserve absolute fucking hell.
Basically what the title says, I was just swiping through stories on my Insta when I see one of my close friends repost this article about the situation, criticizing rape culture and advocating for the stronger protection of women+children. Genuinely my mind could not process and still can't because not long prior to this, she was telling me about a new porn video she's been addicted to watching. I kid you not my mouth dropped to hell and tasted demon doo doo when she told me it was about full on violent rape. Had to listen to her talk about how sexy this shit was for half an hour and it disgusts the hell out of me. Sorry not sorry but the mere thought of a man getting his rocks off to beating me, hurting me, dominating me, objectifiying me, and just treating me like a piece of meat in bed has to be the most massive turn off ever like wtf??? Anyway, I called her out on it because obviously 1. porn rots your brain, it's an entire industry built mainly off of dehumanizing women to cater to men's pleasure(and maybe I'm reaching but the majority of hetero sex that happens irl is like this too) and 2. WHY TF ARE YOU GOONING TO THAT? Rape is a very real problem and countless women experience SA on the daily. How tf are you going to post for another woman's justice when you romanticize and sexualize her trauma? How do you advocate for a safer world for women when you get your rocks off to our own subjugation? I just don't understand...
She worries me so much, sosanely hypersexual and that's honestly an understatement. She talks to me all the time about sex and her fantasies/fetishes which revolve around the same 3 things: being degraded, being submissive, being handled roughly(loves CNC too). She hooks up with countless men and has casual sex 24/7 and she honestly has done everything at this point from threesomes to the most wildest things. I have no interest or care for what she does in the bedroom but man am I sick of hearing it all the fuckin time and especially sick of of hearing how she's treated. She'll describe every experience in disgusting detail and even strips to show me the marks/bruises gained from every man she's been with. And to no one's surprise, she's been treated horribly by the majority of these men and then complains that "men are just so inherently violent" and "I just want a man who loves me properly". I'm honestly so desensitized that I'm not even bothered but it does highly concern me that she's damaging her body, putting herself into unsafe situations, AND it's dictating how she spends her days.
Just some extra whatnot, how are people so willing to justify what happens in the bedroom? I see way too many people saying or implying that sex and women/men's sexuality is free from any sociocultural influence but that is just stupid. Sex is not free from misogyny, patriarchy, etc. Not to say wanting to have sex and having desires isn't natural, but to act like the way a lot of people have sex in the modern day doesn't isn't affected by socialization and conditioning is ignorant. I remember I've asked about her kinks, do you actually like it or do you feel socially conditioned? And the not surprising answer was the latter.