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Apparently, Akshaye's height is about 5 feet 7 1/2 inches or something. But in a lot of old photos he's at least an inch or so taller than Kat who's quite tall for a woman herself - about 5 feet 8 inches or so - which would make him about 5 feet 9 inches back in the day.

I think he probably lost some height due to age (people tend to lose about 0.5 inches of height per decade after 40 so that's that). Anyways, what do y'all think?

I'll never understand the people who make backhanded remarks about Ranveer "yielding" or giving up space to Akshaye... let's call a spade a spade: Akshaye carved his own spotlight. Heck, some of the most iconic Rehman moments were HIS inventions (the dance improvisation, him and Saumya, the *kasainuma* dialogue), and a lot of his key scenes didn't even have that much involvement from Ranveer (for eg the hospital scene).

Like where does the scope for "yielding" even come from? Do people not know about this concept called a breakout character? It's not a new thing for side characters/antagonists/major supporting characters to gain more traction and praise than the principle heroic lead, one of the most memorable bollywood examples being Priyanka's performance as Kashi in the movie Bajirao Mastani.

Sakshi is 35 and Shraddha is even younger, so the age gap between them is 16 years (and more in Shraddha' case). Like, Akshaye was well into adolescence when his father had his half-siblings and that's high-key so messed up...he was old enough to be cognizant of it all 😬

So, a while ago, there was a brief "discussion" about the 4b movement on this subreddit, and there were some detractors accusing it of being transphobic. Are some participants of the 4b movement transphobic? Yes. But does that mean 4b itself is transphobic? No it's not.

The main tenets of the 4b are no sex with men (bisekseu), no giving birth (bichulsan), no dating men (biyeonae) and no marriage with men (bihon). The movement came from South Korea, whose women were tired of the horrifying misogyny they were subject to; unfortunately, since many of South Korea's social norms are regressive and queerphobic, feminists of SoKo are not as intersectional as those from other countries and this led to the disrepute of 4B itself as "transphobic".

Nonetheless, participants from many other countries are deeply observant and understanding of intersectionality, and nothing in the tenets per se is indicative of transphobia. I genuinely wish we would keep some nuance in these conversations, because this movement has helped many women and such one-sided narratives are deeply damaging to feminist discussions.

ETA: Kinda shocked to see so many people miss the point. Like, do I have to spell this out again? Feminism in Asian countries is still in primordial stages and lacks intersectionality; that does NOT mean we throw the baby out with the bathwater. The entire point here is that we take the good, acknowledge and call out the bad. That's quite literally how every social rights movement (including feminism) has progressed over the ages.

ETA 2: The amount of stupid misinformation rampant here is disgusting! If you're genuinely interested in the history, it's here: https://www.britannica.com/topic/4B-movement

Like, no it didn't just spring up from some online forum or whatever nonsense a wikipedia glimpse gave you...

A very obvious observation, but worth discussing more about; often when the split in STEM representation or other male dominated fields is brought up, many people immediately jump to half-baked "science" such as the greater male variability hypothesis or spatial reasoning "gaps"*.

But when women outperform men (for instance in certain scholarly areas of representation or academic performance), poor men are disadvantaged victims somehow, and it needs to be fixed at all costs.

Women are always deemed less: less capable, less ambitious, less intelligent. When we succeed it's not by our merit. It just can't be - people are so quick to assume the worst ("she slept her way to the top" mindset).

*Of course the greater male variability hypothesis is extremely contested. With regards to spatial reasoning, mental 3d rotation is one of the only few skills which consistently show a moderate gap, and may be heavily influenced by environmental/upbringing factors.

May I solicit your downvotes, kind ladies?

A lot of kinky practices leave the person (the sub) in pain for a fair amount of time after the act is over; how can the pain be pleasurable* beyond the sexual context?

In other words, the act is over but the physical pain often remains. The pain is often/usually "enjoyable" during the act I.e sexual masochism - the pain directly resulting from such practices may not be pleasurable outside of it and that's deeply disturbing to think about.

Like it's all "fun and games" when the dom is doing out a "punishment" of severe spanking, but when it's all done and dusted and it's time to use a chair at breakfast...

*Pleasurable: Of course there's also the angle that sexual masochism is very, very rare and it's not hard to appropriate pain in hindsight and distort it as "I liked it" to resolve cognitive dissonance.

I love his popularity and all the praise he's garnered, but sometimes I still wish remained a hidden gem; when you look back at comments/post from 4-5 years ago about him he's usually getting praised - almost unanimously (infact I haven't seen anything negative about him from those time periods).

But now that he's been propelled into popularity, there seems to be such an eager, rabid faction wanting to tear him down both covertly and overtly. It's very irksome as a fan. I wish he'd get a PR at least at this point in time.

Whenever it comes to casteism, I'm shocked by how (so many upper caste) people don't understand social mobility and social capital + their correlation and how that affects representation.

For them, that one person from the so-called lower caste who happens to be affluent is more representative of the lived realities of lower castes as opposed to the millions who have very little access to resources whatsoever.

They simply do not understand that even if a person from the lower castes is financially sound (which is already quite rare relative to their upper caste counterparts), that doesn't automatically negate biases they have to face which can be serious deterrents. These are basic concepts and if something this basic can't be grasped...

It's compared to "runners high" etc etc, but I doubt it's just that. Many people report feeling dumber, some even report losing aspects of executive functioning. It's very concerning if you look closely. Unfortunately, we may never get the proper science behind it because of how badly it has percolated into everything, and even "experts" write it off as healthy.

Would love to hear testimonies from ex kinksters on what it was like.

Thanks to the pervasive presence of kink and porn, it's become increasingly common to see women frame their own fantasies through the lens of male pleasure - for example the common "the look he gives me when I [insert typical sexual acts/innuendoes]" and other similar notions.

It's always about he and him; goes to show just how deeply all of this has damaged numerous straight women's sexuality.

...a group of beautiful women who served no purpose (world-building) or others aside from being sexualized and ogled at by men? The only notable veela character, Fleur, was vilified by other women (with no proper redressal) and constantly sidelined by the narrative + she was a clever, talented and ambitious woman whose fate was being relegated to "Bill's wife".

There are so so so many instances of Rowling's misogyny, but this one isn't talked about enough honestly (even though other aspects of Fleur's misogynistic writing are brought up, these specific ones aren't from what I gather).

It isn't just roleplay; kink involves simulation actually (for eg CNC) and genuine power exchange in sexual contexts (sometimes it even oversteps those boundaries and seeps into other areas such as findom and 24/7 power exchange).

Roleplay would entail a situation that is completely made up, but that's not the case because the arousal is derived from a setup which closely mimics lack of consent rather than a complete enactment in the case of CNC; in many other scenarios the power dynamic is real and no amount of "consent" can erase that.

In short, I don't think the roleplay rhetoric holds up.

The Dil Chahta Hai Reunion will be available on YouTube. It will not be live-streamed but released later after editing so...guess that makes me the wet blanket.

A very obvious observation, but worth discussing more about; often when the split in STEM representation or other male dominated fields is brought up, many people immediately jump to half-baked "science" such as the greater male variability hypothesis or spatial reasoning "gaps"*.

But when women outperform men (for instance in certain scholarly areas of representation or academic performance), poor men are disadvantaged victims somehow, and it needs to be fixed at all costs.

Women are always deemed less: less capable, less ambitious, less intelligent. When we succeed it's not by our merit. It just can't be - people are so quick to assume the worst ("she slept her way to the top" mindset).

*Of course the greater male variability hypothesis is extremely contested. With regards to spatial reasoning, mental 3d rotation is one the only few skills which show a moderate gap, and may be heavily influenced by environmental/upbringing factors.

A very obvious observation, but worth discussing more about; often when the split in STEM representation or other male dominated fields is brought up, many people immediately jump to half-baked "science" such as the greater male variability hypothesis or spatial reasoning "gaps"*.

But when women outperform men (for instance in certain scholarly areas of representation or academic performance), poor men are disadvantaged victims somehow, and it needs to be fixed at all costs.

Women are always deemed less: less capable, less ambitious, less intelligent. When we succeed it's not by our merit. It just can't be - people are so quick to assume the worst ("she slept her way to the top" mindset).

*Of course the greater male variability hypothesis is extremely contested. With regards to spatial reasoning, mental 3d rotation is one the only few skills which show a moderate gap, and may be heavily influenced by environmental/upbringing factors.