r/PornIsMisogyny

Often when I see discussions about the lack of ethics in the porn industry, there will be people recommending ethical porn productions that claim to be by women, for women, educational etc.

Personally I don't watch any porn and I have it blocked on my phone, so I can't (and don't really want to) look it up, but maybe some of you did, or even if you don't, you have an opinion about it.

Like when I said many kinks (especially dom/sub ones) are influenced by the patriarchy, women within kink scene immediately come and deny it. They right away say "but it's consensual". Patriarchal ≠ non-consensual.

I'm not telling them "you can't engage in kink" "you're a bad person if you do that" etc., I'm only saying that it's influenced by the patriarchy. It's like they can't grasp that something they like might be rooted in patriarchy, so they immediately get defensive about it. Some women seriously think that patriarchy = everything I don't like. That patriarchy is only what directly, undoubtedly harms women. That there aren't subtleties within it, that there aren't patriarchal creations that are enjoyed by many women (ex. porn or being a SAHM).

Or there's always "but gays and lesbians also have sub/dom relationships" as if patriarchy does affect ALL of us, regardless of sexual orientation.