u/TemporaryPassage4168

The widespread condemnation of abuse and toxic behavior is a surprisingly recent cultural shift.If we look back just a few decades to the 1990s and 2000s, behaviors that we now recognize as deeply harmful were frequently ignored or normalized:Grooming: Age-gap dynamics involving minors and adults were often overlooked by both parents and communities.Domestic Abuse: Marital abuse was frequently treated as a private matter, and societal structures gave husbands immense control over their wives.Because our collective awareness is so new, we still see heavy remnants of the old status quo. This explains the persistence of victim-blaming and why people in their 40s today might still justify past relationships that started when one partner was an adult and the other was a child. They lean on excuses like "it was normal back then" or "it wasn't that bad."This history is exactly why people remain so quick to defend abusers. Society spent generations practicing and accepting these behaviors, and we have only recently begun moving past them—largely through legal changes rather than deeply ingrained cultural morals.Because our moral progress against abuse and exploitation is still in its infancy, the risk of society regressing and normalizing harm again remains dangerously high.

The widespread condemnation of abuse and toxic behavior is a surprisingly recent cultural shift.If we look back just a few decades to the 1990s and 2000s, behaviors that we now recognize as deeply harmful were frequently ignored or normalized:Grooming: Age-gap dynamics involving minors and adults were often overlooked by both parents and communities.Domestic Abuse: Marital abuse was frequently treated as a private matter, and societal structures gave husbands immense control over their wives.Because our collective awareness is so new, we still see heavy remnants of the old status quo. This explains the persistence of victim-blaming and why people in their 40s today might still justify past relationships that started when one partner was an adult and the other was a child. They lean on excuses like "it was normal back then" or "it wasn't that bad."This history is exactly why people remain so quick to defend abusers. Society spent generations practicing and accepting these behaviors, and we have only recently begun moving past them—largely through legal changes rather than deeply ingrained cultural morals.Because our moral progress against abuse and exploitation is still in its infancy, the risk of society regressing and normalizing harm again remains dangerously high.

I'm (18f) and this man is 30

Do you think him dating an 18yr old is weird and wrong?

He uses legality to justify it.

But is dating kid (under 18)s only wrong because it's illegal or is it wrong scientifically?

I personally don't see the difference between 17 and 18?

Because what makes him dating me at 17 so wrong and disgusting but okay at 18?

I just never understood people who think like that .

17= wrong

18= okay.

It might as well be okay at 17 and even 16.

I don't believe in using legality or even personal bias to justify relationships where one is technically still in childhood/adolescence.

But I'm not around that man anymore, I believe it's very weird and predatory.

I asked him if he see anything wrong with dating me at 17 and he didn't answer so....... Your opinion?

Me,,, grooming in general.

How child predators groom children.

And the children (some) never realize the abuse they went through or continues to go through.