AITAH for posting a picture of a shirtless man while I'm in a relationship?
| (32F) posted a series of photos on my Instagram story from a recent vacation to Fiji that I took with my son (10M).
I'm not typically the type of person to post pictures or stories during the vacation, I usually do "photo dumps" once I'm done with the trip. Well during one of my "dumps" one of the pictures I posted was of a native Fijian man performing a traditional torch-lighting ceremony. It was part of a cultural event, and the man was wearing traditional attire which includes being shirtless, a grass skirt. To me, it wasn't sexual, flirty, or suggestive. It was just a cool cultural moment of him standing with a flaming torch, in front of the sunset.
My boyfriend (37M) saw it and immediately got upset. He texted me saying the post was "crazy," and that I shouldn't be posting "a shirtless man on your story while you have a boyfriend" and that he was "so proud to be my boyfriend, fucking disgusting" -his exact words. Boyfriend stated that it was disrespectful to him, and that we should "take some space." He said it was inappropriate and embarrassing, and that he was glad his family didn't follow me because he'd
"be fucking embarrassed."
I tried explaining the cultural context, but he wouldn't listen to what I had to say. Eventually I told him I understood he was upset and would give him space.
Now I'm wondering if I genuinely messed up. From my perspective, it was just a cultural photo. From his perspective, it was disrespectful.
So... AITAH for posting a picture like that while being in a relationship?