Any Black lesbians in Sweden (or who’ve visited/live there)
I’m thinking about taking a trip there soon and I’m curious what the scene/community is like especially nightlife, queer spaces, dating, events, etc. I’d love honest opinions and recommendations.
Also open to hearing about other Scandinavian cities that felt welcoming/fun as a Black queer woman.
i’m genuinely asking because i feel like i’m losing my mind a little. dating apps are not working for me at all and i’m honestly tired of pretending they do.
i live in norway and the queer scene feels so small and hard to access. i’ve tried apps, queer spaces, talking to people online, all of it, and somehow nothing ever turns into anything real. either people fetishize me, disappear after two conversations, or make me feel like i’m being too much for actually wanting connection.
and it’s frustrating because i don’t even think i’m asking for something impossible. I want to have a crush on someone and have it actually go somewhere. i want someone to like me openly and seriously instead of making me feel like i’m some experiment, fantasy, or temporary entertainment.
sometimes it genuinely feels isolating being a lesbian because i can’t just assume someone is queer when i meet them, and i’m tired of constantly feeling like i’m searching for something impossible to find.
(if anyone has actual advice, ways to meet people, or honestly just relates to this feeling, i’d really appreciate hearing it.)
Being a Black femme lesbian in a Scandinavian country can feel really isolating sometimes.
No matter how feminine I present, I often get read as more masculine especially by white girl. it’s frustrating because it feels like I’m not being seen for who I actually am.
I think the lack of diversity here makes it worse, but I’m curious if others have dealt with this too.
i meet this lesbian who made me want to just (flat out sit on them) but things got complicated between us and we don’t talk anymore it’s been 3 months. I have been a lesbian for years and this is my first ever interaction that got me hooked like that. I live in a white dominated city as a black women so i hardly find my type and if i do i am not there type.