r/actuallesbianseurope

Hello I am 24 girl from spain who moved recently to Copenhagen. I want to meet new people. It is very hard socialising in a new country

who am i:

27 yrs old

future US expat (wanna be)

bachelors in psych, TEFL certified (at the end of this month)

looking into digital nomad visa or job seeker visa but open to student visa for Masters in teaching

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I’m planning to move to Spain in spring 2027, and I’d really appreciate advice from people familiar with northern Spain.

For context: I’ve been researching moving out of the US for over a year now (almost 2). I’ve narrowed down both the country and the language I want to learn, and I’m currently saving as aggressively as I can to make this happen. Even with that, I probably won’t be able to afford a scouting trip beforehand, so I’m relying heavily on research and hearing from real people online.

A little about me/my priorities:

-I’m trans and gender non-conforming

-I have a cat and a pet snake (I’ll be getting proper CITES permits for her)

-I’ll either be teaching English remotely as a digital nomad or trying to work as an English teacher locally

-I love outdoorsy/creative lifestyles more than big-city hustle

-I’m athletic and would love access to hiking and possibly pole dancing classes

-I do best in cooler weather and struggle more with extreme heat (anything above 90°F honestly wrecks me lol)

What I’m looking for:

-A walkable area with decent public transportation

-Access to vets that treat both cats and exotic pets

-Reliable internet-

-Queer-friendly and ideally somewhat alternative/witchy spaces

-Easy access to nature and greenery

-A slower pace of life where I can focus on creativity, community, and culture

I’ve mostly narrowed my search to northern coastal Spain. Here’s where I’m at so far:

Galicia
I’m really drawn to the ocean sunsets and the rainier climate. I’m from Washington state, so the gloomy/coastal vibe honestly feels comforting to me. My concern is that some areas seem less walkable and more isolated, which could make things harder socially and logistically (especially healthcare and vet access).

Biscay/Basque Country
Slightly warmer, but I’ve found more queer and alternative spaces while researching. Rent seems higher, but I’m also seeing better infrastructure overall, including exotic vets and transportation.

I’ve also been researching Cantabria, Asturias, and Navarre. I actually made a giant spreadsheet ranking regions based on:

-queer/witchy friendliness

-vet access

-walkability/public transit

-weather

-greenery/nature

-wifi quality

-cost of living

Right now, Cantabria is somehow winning lol.

If anyone has experience living in these areas--- especially as an LGBTQ+ person, foreigner, remote worker, or someone without a car ---I’d really appreciate your thoughts. I know every place has pros and cons........

I’m mostly trying to understand what daily life actually feels like in these regions.

Please be kind. I’m looking for information based on what would fit my priorities and lifestyle, not necessarily what others would personally choose for themselves. Thank you :)

Hey everyone! I'm a 29 yr old masc living in Germany, I have been here for about 6 months now. Using the apps to make friends have been unsuccesful so far. Has anyone on the sub been successful? Maybe I need to pay for premium lol. I don't mind traveling to Munich or Berlin over the weekend. What queer events are happening? I need to be outside 🤣

Any Black lesbians in Sweden (or who’ve visited/live there)
I’m thinking about taking a trip there soon and I’m curious what the scene/community is like especially nightlife, queer spaces, dating, events, etc. I’d love honest opinions and recommendations.

Also open to hearing about other Scandinavian cities that felt welcoming/fun as a Black queer woman.

I have literally no clue where else to ask this but is anyone here going to the LP concert in Manchester? I know no one who even listens to them which is a shame but if anyone's going we could always chat and see if we get on beforehand!

I am 18 and I really wanna put myself out there and meet the love of my life or atleast experience some romance since I still didn't have my first kiss yet or had like anything intimate. I really really love romance and being in love so I'm wondering how do you guys find people?

(Posting from a thowaway account for safety reasons)

I come from a muslim super conservative background and I'm moving to a small town In germany, I can’t wait to be free! Wear whatever I want and finally live my life. But after thinking about it I might have exaggerated it a little, small towns are often a closed community right? And IG the possibility of finding a queer girl is close to 0. Should I rethink my choice and find another job in a big city? Or prioritise a calm life away from my family and forget about dating.

It's been one year at the end of the week. I finally broke up with my ex, with whom I had my first relation ever. I have been through so much sorrow and grief, anger, hate, despair, only to realize, as the time passes, that this relationship was so heavy to me.

I don’t regret experiencing this with her, she's not a bad person and in the end, I wish her the best. But she hurt me so much, betrayed me and disrespected me. And I'm now happier without her.

I wanted to celebrate the breakup. Because I endured things that I now realize were injust and hurtful. I want to celebrate this breakup to thank the past me who decided she was done being understanding, forgiving, nice, etc. I want to thank the person I was one year ago, who was terrified of breaking up but felt that she could not take any more of this.

I want to celebrate how brave I finally was when I said "it's over", and how I made myself free.

But I don’t really know how to celebrate, since my friends are busy (end of the semester exams haha). And idk I don't want to talk about it all day or whatever... but in some way I don’t fully understand, it feels important to me.

[English second language, sorry if I did some mistakes, and thank you for reading]

Heyy, I'm from UK. Looking for women to connect with across Europe online and/or in person (possibly). I'm looking to maybe connect with someone on a deeper or intellectual level, massively bored of superficiality tbh hahaa

Heyy,

bin W19 und bin bi mit einer Tendenz zu Frauen. Mir ist aufgefallen, dass ich echt wenig bi/lesbian friends habe. Hat jmd maybe Lust insta auszutauschen und maybe Freunde zu werden?
BTW bin aus Schleswig Holstein und suche auch eher welche in meiner Altersklasse:) ( nicht unter 18!!)