u/whatwverisk

No matter who I meet, who I talk to, it feels like everyone is just taken. There are so many great girls I've met along the way, and when I feel like maybe it could turn into something more, I find out they are in a relationship.

Recently had my heart broken by someone who was engaged in an open relationship, so never again. I thought it could work, until it showed that it can't. Apparently, open relationships close real fast sometimes.

Dating apps suck; the girls there either don't respond or are like way too good for me to even try and reach out, lol.

Where does one even find someone these days? I am 28F, and I am tired of being alone. I feel like I have so much love to give, and idk where to put it. I want to meet someone, doesn't even have to be from the same city as long as we get along and hope for that spark. I don't mind the distance; it's not that big of a factor since it can work anyway.

I've been talking to this girl only to find out she has a gf, so I backed off. Where do y'all find women?! 😞

I'm not sure how this fits, but I need to vent about what happened today, and I feel like this group of women is the right place to do it. I am a lesbian, and I am in a very odd position with my female manager.

So since day one at my new job, my manager has been commenting on how large my chest area is. I am tall af, rather skinny, but my breasts are apparently extreme because of a weight gain in the past.

It was probably the first thing she commented on to me, saying how jealous she is and that I just need to know how to use them correctly. Like, what does that even mean?

I've been working there for almost two months, and today just shook me to my core. I still don't know what to think.

For context - I work in hospitality; we have some ugly-ass unisex T-shirts, with no cleavage, just plain and boring, ugly colors.

black pants and apron

I wear mine folded in half around my waist, as I hate the way it hangs behind my neck; it's uncomfortable, it's what everyone does, it's what I've been doing since I started years ago, nobody ever said a thing.

Today my manager lectured me for about ten minutes about how I can't wear my apron like that, that everyone is always staring at my chest, that it's inappropriate. She said it's great that my breasts are large and healthy, but I need to know how to use them?????

girl? what the hell am I supposed to do? Wrap them with a binder?

first of all, nobody stares. I work in a place where customers are polite; since they work in corporate, we are all super friendly and chill. I have never noticed anyone ever stare at me in the wrong way. It is my manager who does it, always commenting and bringing up how lucky I am to have such large breasts (she is on a smaller size with them). I assume it's her personal issue; perhaps she is insecure with the size of hers. She also comments on how long my legs are when I wear shorts, but that's something I've been hearing all my life, so I am kinda used to it? tho it's still uncomfortable, it's not like I can make them shorter.

I told her that I don't think they are that big, and she was like - have you tried to cup them? I bet one hand is not enough.

Like, fucking excuse me?

She has no boundaries. She is making everyone uncomfortable by her constant negativity, and every day I wonder what her issue will be this time, but I wasn't expecting this.

She is an owner/manager/chef/hr/boss, so there's not anyone else to complain to about this other than my colleagues, who were shocked.

She told me I need to wear a different style of bra (I wear sports, as that's what I find the most comfortable and fitting, and I refuse to wear wired ones and be in even more pain than I already am).

She threw me off so much, saying that when people approach me, all they see are my boobs and that I need to wear my apron differently. Apparently it's like Pamela Anderson is serving them.

I am speechless. I am already insecure about my appearance, yet my breasts are a part of me I never considered disliking. My whole day was ruined (she said this at 6 am); I didn't know whether to listen or ignore her, but I eventually ended up wearing an apron in the full length, because I just got too scared that I am making someone uncomfortable.

i don't know whether this is her tactic of her trying to make me quit (trust me i am close to it) or what's her fucking deal, but i find this way over the line

she said it as if she is just giving me advice, meaning well, yet later when i spiraled i realised that it's far from the truth

how am i supposed to feel confident at a place where the fucking boss makes you want to cut your chest off just so she stops commenting on it?

It borderlines with harrasing at this point. She always tries to make her stupid remarks sound like a joke, but I lose sleep over them. I got into an argument with her the other week, as she threw some comments at me, and when I confronted her the next day, she turned it all against me, gaslighted me, and I ended up apologising for being a dick, when in reality it was her who once again fucked up.

She works 24/7, with no breaks. Early mornings until late nights with no days off. I understand that she is tired; I have been respectful, trying not to take her negativity too seriously, but I am not the only one who is affected. My colleague said to me that everyone will end up leaving if it continues like that, yet to me it feels like it is only going to be me who quits, as I always do. I refuse to deal with such bs in a workplace. I already hate wasting my precious life on work that gives me no time for my own hobbies, only to survive this stupid economy. I don't understand why people say they are going to quit and never do. I end up being the only one.

I don't know what to do. She made me super uncomfortable and insecure, and I don't know how to work with this new information.

The shirt literally shows nothing; it's not my fault that my chest is fucking large. Nobody has ever lectured me on this, or made me feel bad about it.

What would you do apart from quitting lol? I am looking into new jobs, but it's hard to find something this well paid and with such great benefits.

i dread going there every day, I hate that place sm.

It feels like I will never move on.

I had to let go of a woman that I truly felt the love from. Like really felt it. I’ve been in several relationships before, but I have never felt so loved and wanted before. It was so beautiful, I was so happy.

I have serious trust issues, but I found myself opening up and falling hard very fast. It doesn’t happen to me. I don’t think I’ve ever felt this way. Most of the times it was me getting attached, liking the person but switching the moment they say they like me too, and I never believed them anyway.

Not this time. She completely swiped me off my feet, showed me how good can it be to love and be loved back.

I don’t want to be with anyone else, ever again. And it sucks because I know that she won’t come back. We stay in touch, which is shocking to me because she told me she has to go no contact for reasons I won’t mention.

How can you meet someone so perfect for you, only to lose them? How can someone say they can’t lose you, but that they have to?

It feels like I am not worthy of being chosen. She explained it, we talked about it, and I truly understand her reasons, but it doesn’t mean that I am okay with it. I don’t agree with her decision, I don’t support it, but since when does my opinion, my wishes matter? They never have. Here I thought I found someone who would stay, only to get stabbed in my chest. And boy does the contact with her twist that knife right inside my heart with every message I receive. But I am so grateful for it, I couldn’t lose her completely.

I know she loves me, I know if the circumstances were different so would be the outcome of the entire situation, but they’re not and it sucks.

I seriously don’t know how to cope. I lost my will to do anything. I don’t want to go on without her, though I know I have to.

I don’t want to love another person ever again. Yet I am so desperate to find someone who will stay. I am 29 and to struggle this much because of another person is pathetic to me. Like how can you completely destroy my life by making me happy?

I don’t want to move on, but at the same time I want for someone else to replace her, so I can forget how much it hurts and find someone who loves me even more, someone who’s willing to choose me. Always. But it’s impossible. We met on accident, it was unexpected and insane. Before that I had no one for several years. I don’t want to wait that long to be happy again. I am tired of being alone, but it seems like I’ve been cursed, attracting people who leave. Everyone always does.

I am tired.

I just wanted to word vomit to get it out of myself. I feel like everyone I know is tired of me already lmao.

Also, I would love to meet some wlw girlies from the EU. So if you’re an adult and want to make a friend I’m here I guess. I just need someone..

So I opened my Spotify to listen to hallucinogenics after a long time and the song is there, it says that it’s featuring Lana, but when I click on it it switches to the version without her? The one with Matt only? Does it happen to anyone else too?
It’s on Apple Music and works with no issue, but for some reason not on Spotify. I was worried at first that it was removed for some reason but then it would also be gone from Apple Music.
I’m confused 😵‍💫
Maybe it’s my location? (CE)
(Let’s not hate on Spotify :D I’ve been dedicated to it since it launched)

I have terrible experience with Friends club, as recently it’s been full of straight Ukrainian men who hit on women even if they clearly state they are lesbians.

Where does one said lesbian go to meet other women? Dating apps are terrible. Most of the girls won’t even respond or they live miles away, which wouldn’t be an issue if they bothered to actually continue the conversation past the first hello.

I would love to meet new queer friends. I would love to find love, but it seems impossible as there is no lesbian bar/club and places are made for gay men mostly.

Don’t us women have a right for our own space? What’s the deal with non-existence of lesbian bars?

There was a queerspace in the worst possible part of Prague and they ended up closing this summer. No surprise there, you really shouldn’t open a queer spot near cross club like ever lol.

Any advice?
I gave up on dating apps, deleted them all. Is there any discord server perhaps? Maybe some other group for that?

F28

Hey there!

F28 looking for a long term roleplay buddy, preferably F21+, as I don't feel comfortable talking to people younger than that, nor men (don't bother lying about your gender). NB are of course welcome. I would love to become friends too!

A little about me:

• Ayla is my pen name, I don't mind sharing my real name in private :)
• I am European, CET (currently CEST)
• I work, so during the week I can rarely respond during the day, but when my day is slow, I do, during weekends I can respond pretty much whenever I am awake or at home
• I roleplay on Discord
• Third person, past tense, but I don't mind trying out a first person
• I love lengthy multi-paragraph responses, but of course, I understand that there's not always that much to say, but as long as you are capable of writing a minimum of 500 words, we're good (Much longer for a starter, of course)
• I am obsessed with Agatha All along, but if we agreed to roleplay AgathaRio, I would prefer to pick an AU setting, no magic
• I have several OCs, as well as some plot ideas. I would love to hear your plots, too, and brainstorm together.

I am into sapphic roleplays only, but I don't mind your character being NB or trans female. I don't feel comfortable writing those as I have no experience with the topic, but I am not against your OC being one.

I have no knowledge of fantasy settings or magic realms, so I would prefer to stick with realistic worlds. I don't mind doing research for the plot, but not when it comes to these two things.

Angst, pain, heartbreak, I am here for it all as long as our characters end up loving each other, haha.

What I don't want to roleplay about is cheating, or and three more things Reddit won't allow me to write, no matter how censored, oh well.

Please, if at any given point or time you change your mind about our roleplay, let me know. Whether it's changing plot, quitting completely, or anything else. Don't ghost me, it sucks to wait for something exciting only for your RP buddy to quit on you. Happened to me recently, and I am still heartbroken, haha.

With that being said,

dm me with a little intro about yourself, and let's begin! :)

A.

Hey. I looked through 🔎 but I don’t think I quite found a book that caught my eye so I’m trying again here.

I’d love to read a book where the two FMC’s are already in a relationship. Perhaps married, about to be, or are expecting a baby. It can be soft and domestic, can be heartbreaking but HAE is a must for the same OP.

I don’t want to read anything about cheating tho, nor abuse.

I want either relationship with a bit of drama, perhaps going through some struggles, or pregnancy tropes 🫣

Or any sapphic trans FMC romances, yet again with HAE.

Thank you!

Hey. I looked through 🔎 but I don’t think I quite found a book that caught my eye so I’m trying again here.

I’d love to read a book where the two FMC’s are already in a relationship. Maybe married, about to be, or expecting. It can be soft and domestic, can be heartbreaking but HAE is a must for the same OP.

I don’t want to read anything about cheating tho, nor abuse.

I want either relationship with a it of drama or pregnancy tropes 🫣

Any tips?