Какви са преживяванията ви с това и как сте го преодолявали? Мен ми падна малко като гръм от ясно небе и още не мога да осмисля как отивате от "обичам те" на абсолютно нищо.
Най-вече са ми интересни емоционални преживявания, като на когото не му е комфортно може да ми драсне на лично.
За някои хора е моментно чувство, за други избор, за трети нещо съвсем различно. Какво е любовта за вас?
I am looking for thoughts as this is my (25M) first break-up with (25F) and I really am not struggling with crying or anything emotional of that sorts, but rather the suddenness.
We were together for 2 months in a high tide and dynamic relationship and then a sudden dissappearance for 2 days followed by a request from her to talk in person as she'd been thinking. I called her instead and she said she wanted to discuss breaking up.
Its like a switch flipped in her and suddenly everything's done for. As far as I am aware everything was going great between us and any issues we had we ironed out quickly. We've said I love you in that time to each other, there were strong words from her, and thats what I think is difficult for me to deal with. And now as I am going to hand over her stuff, part of me wants to have an actual conversation beyond the reasons, but everybody tells me its a mistake, and i've received tremendous support from colleagues, friends, family telling me its not my fault.
So my question - how do I reconcile this feeling of being left out of the conversation? How do I just accept such a sudden flip can simply happen? Im looking for similar experiences and emotional responses more than anything.
I am looking for thoughts as this is my first break-up and I really am not struggling with crying or anything emotional of that sorts.
We had 2 months of a high tide and dynamic relationship and then a sudden dissappearance for 2 days followed by a request from her to talk in person as she'd been thinking. I called her instead and she said she wanted to discuss breaking up.
Its like a switch flipped in her and suddenly everything's done for. As far as I am aware everything was going great between us and any issues we had we ironed out quickly. We've said I love you in that time to each other, there were strong words from her, and thats what I think is difficult for me to deal with. And now as I am going to hand over her stuff, part of me wants to have an actual conversation beyond the reasons, but everybody tells me its a mistake, and i've received tremendous support from colleagues, friends, family telling me its not my fault.
So my question - how do I reconcile this feeling of being left out of the conversation? How do I just accept such a sudden flip can simply happen? Im looking for similar experiences and emotional responses more than anything.
So I've been dating this girl for 2 months we've been in a relationship and everything is honestly magical, we've said I love you to each other and minus minor issues things have been great - until now.
Recently we had a very low energy text exchange where I asked if everything's okay and she said she's just tired, and asked me how my day went. Since I had training that day, I called her when I finished training, and everything seemed fine, though the convo was low energy. I tried to be sweet since recently we were just at a three-day festival, and said that I thought we were the coolest couple there, and she said she wasn't looking too much at other couples and she thought everybody were vibing. That kinda hurt so I guess I passively aggresively said "Okay my bad, we weren't the coolest couple", and she just said "Mhm". I was quite hurt by all this, so my mood dropped. She moved the convo to a close anyway soon after so I just said good night, and I think she said something after that, maybe sensing my mood, but I just hung up so I'm not sure.
That call was Tuesday midnight and for the whole of wednesday and thursday we didnt text each other, because honestly on my side I felt I was forcing things for awhile and was frustrated. But I soon got the jitters so figured I'd send a message if everything's okay and whats going on, but she hasn't seen it yet.
My question is - how do I deal with these mood swings? How do I deal with her pulling back like this and is it a bad sign? There were honestly no indicators apart from the fact she said she was burning out, though I feel she would at least communicate to me in this situation?