u/Crazy-Piece5574

Hi, we have a wonderful and hardworking nanny who’s been with us for two years. So far this year (2026) she has taken a total of 7 sick days (over 4 separate occasions). We live in a country where workers are entitled to unlimited paid sick days.

I trust her completely and don’t think she’s ever faked being sick to have a day off, however I just wonder whether we have a different idea of what constitutes a sick day? In my opinion if you’re so sick that you need to stay in bed all day (fever, stomach bug) then that warrants a sick day. However if you have some minor aches (headache, stomach ache) or minor flu symptoms (sore throat, runny nose) this shouldn’t warrant a sick day.

What do you think? Am I unreasonable in thinking this? How can I approach this subject with her to make sure we’re on the same page about what constitutes a sick day? Any ideas on incentivising her to not take sick days when it’s just a minor thing?

Hi moms, just wanted to share my story and see if maybe anyone has had a similar experience. Sorry for the long post, this has been weighing quite heavily on me for a while and just need to get it off my chest.

I’m a 34 year old sahm with three kids under 4. I’ve loved being at home with the kids and due to my husband’s successful business I don’t have to return back to work which I’m so grateful for. I know this is a privilege.

About a year ago before I got pregnant with my third I started to feel like I wanted something of my own / a creative outlet and potentially a small source of my own income. So I thought I’d take a shot at becoming a mommy / lifestyle influencer! I really enjoyed coming up with ideas for content and getting all dolled up and filming etc. I felt so alive again after such a long time of being just mom and wife. Ofcourse there was the stress of getting followers, potential judgement from people I know, getting engagement and so on. But overall it felt like a positive experience.

Around 6 months in I started to feel burnt out from the workload that it took to post consistently and also the frustration and self doubt from not getting a lot of followers. I also hit a point in my pregnancy where I was feeling super tired…so one day I just stopped posting.

It felt like a relief but also I feel like such a failure. I can’t help but feel like everyone I know is probably laughing at me and thinking what a loser I am for trying to be an influencer but just failing miserably. Ugh. Looking back I just cringe at my old content and wonder what everyone must think of me. Part of me also feels so disappointed in myself because I feel like if I hadn’t quite maybe I could have become something. So there it is! Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What would you think of a friend who gave a shot at being an influencer but just stopped posting? Am I overthinking other people’s negative perception of me / my attempt?

Thank you in advance ❤️

Hi all! Is anyone else in a similar situation? Would love to hear about your experiences / challenges and how much you’re paying your nanny’s in this type of setup. Would love to hear from nanny’s and nanny employers!

I’m a sahm with three boys aged 3, 2 and 4 months old. We have a full time nanny who works 45 hours / week. Her responsibilities include dropping off and picking up the older boys from their morning playgroups, helping with mealtimes, hanging out with the baby while I’m with the older boys and vice versa, joining us on outings and some cooking and light housework. She is sometimes alone with all three at home (max 2 hours at a time) but never during mealtimes or with other tasks to complete. We have a really great dynamic and spend most of the day taking care of the kids and running the household together.

That being said we didn’t increase her salary when the baby was born, I justified this as her workload actually decreasing because she spends a lot of time alone with the baby nowadays and less time with the crazy older boys 😜Any thoughts on this?