u/CrazyHeart99

I was born and brought up in Jaipur. I moved away for work - spent a year in Chandigarh, six months in Indore, and another six months in Gurgaon. Recently, I moved back, and coming back after living in different cities has been... eye-opening.

Before anyone gets offended, this isn't a "Jaipur is the worst city" post. Every Indian city has its problems. But once you've lived elsewhere, you start noticing things that you had normalized growing up.

The biggest difference for me is the overall mindset. Jaipur often feels like a small-town mentality disguised as a Tier-1/Tier-2 city. The infrastructure has grown, the cafes have grown, the malls have grown; but the civic sense hasn't kept pace.

Traffic is by far the biggest issue. Red lights are treated as mere suggestions. It's common to see vehicles continue crossing for 15–20 seconds after the signal turns red, making it dangerous for people who actually have the green light. Lane discipline is almost non-existent. People drive on the wrong side to save a few seconds, randomly stop in the middle of the road, honk unnecessarily, and park wherever they feel like. As a pedestrian, crossing the road often feels like taking a calculated risk.

Then comes public behaviour. Staring is still a massive problem. If a woman wears shorts, a skirt, or a dress, it attracts way more attention than it should. You can literally feel people watching you. It's uncomfortable, unnecessary, and something I barely noticed in places like Chandigarh or even busy areas such as Galleria Market in Gurgaon. Of course, harassment exists everywhere, but the constant gawking here is hard to ignore.

There's also a noticeable resistance to change. People are quick to judge how someone dresses, talks, or lives. Fashion trends arrive much later, and even then, people who dress differently often become the centre of attention. It's not about everyone needing to dress a certain way --it's about letting people wear what they want without making them feel like they're being watched.

Another thing I noticed is the lack of consideration for shared public spaces. Littering, spitting, blocking footpaths with parked vehicles, ignoring queues, and playing loud music in public are all things that seem far too common. Everyone complains about the government, but very few seem willing to follow basic civic rules themselves.

Ironically, Jaipur has everything going for it. It's beautiful, relatively clean compared to many cities, has amazing food, great weather for most of the year, rich history, and is developing rapidly. But development isn't just about flyovers, metro lines, and luxury apartments. It's also about people's behaviour.

I'm not saying Chandigarh or Gurgaon are perfect—they absolutely aren't. Gurgaon has terrible infrastructure in many areas, and every city has its own flaws. But in terms of traffic discipline, respecting personal space, and everyday civic behaviour, my experience has been noticeably better outside Jaipur.

I still love Jaipur. It's home, and I genuinely want it to improve. But sometimes I feel we're trying to become a modern city while holding onto habits and attitudes that belong to a much smaller town.

Curious if anyone else who has lived outside Jaipur and then returned has felt the same, or if it's just me seeing the city differently after moving away.

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Living in Jaipur with a huge extended family in Delhi is basically a lifetime subscription to unpaid hospitality.

My family moved from Delhi to Jaipur in 1994.

At the time, nobody thought much of it.

What we didn't realize was that we'd accidentally volunteered to become the permanent hosts for literally everyone we'd ever known.

Our extended family in Delhi is massive.

I'm talking hundreds of people.

Uncles, aunts, cousins, second cousins, their spouses, their kids, in-laws, family friends, neighbours, colleagues... and somehow even friends of friends.

If someone in Delhi mentions they're going to Jaipur, there's always someone who says,

"Oh, you HAVE to meet them. They're our relatives."

Congratulations.

Another booking confirmed.

For the last 30 years, every 3–4 months, someone has been in Jaipur.

Tourism.

Destination weddings.

Shopping trips.

Weekend getaways.

Passing through before a train.

Waiting for a flight.

Some stay with us.

Some stay in hotels.

Makes absolutely no difference because our house still becomes their headquarters.

Today's schedule looked like an airport lounge.

Last weekend, One family checked out of their hotel at 11 a.m. and came over for brunch because their train wasn't until 5.

Another guest arrived around 2 after checking out because their flight wasn't until 7.

Meanwhile another relative had left Delhi in the morning and was expected by evening to stay with us for two days.

We're a family of seven.

Today we cooked for around fifteen people.

Twice.

Who needs catering when your relatives have you?

Then comes the compulsory Jaipur Experience™.

Amer Fort.

Again.

Chokhi Dhani.

Again.

Raj Mandir.

Again.

Rawat Kachori.

Again.

LMB.

Again.

Gulab Chand shopping.

Again.

I've been to Amer Fort at least 50 times.

Chokhi Dhani around 30 times.

I don't even hire guides anymore.

I am the guide.

I know the history so well that I explain everything myself.

Guests think,

"Wow, you know so much about Jaipur."

No.

I've simply repeated the same tour for nearly four decades.

Amer Fort isn't a tourist attraction anymore.

It's my workplace.

The funniest part?

Even when relatives come for destination weddings and are staying in perfectly good hotels, they still expect us to meet them every day.

Because apparently attending wedding functions isn't enough.

The Jaipur relatives must also report for duty.

And before anyone says,

"Just say no."

😂😂😂

Tell me you've never been part of a large Indian family without telling me you've never been part of a large Indian family.

If we don't host enough, don't meet enough, or don't spend enough time with people, somehow the review reaches Delhi before the guests do.

"They've changed."

"Very formal now."

"Didn't even have time for us."

Nobody stops to think that they are one of hundreds of people we've hosted over the years.

To every guest, it's one visit.

To us, it's been the same cycle since 1994.

Our family has a running joke that life would've been much simpler if we'd moved literally anywhere except Jaipur.

Not because we don't love Jaipur.

But because somewhere along the way our house became the unofficial Jaipur Tourism Office, destination wedding help desk, waiting lounge, restaurant, guest house, and heritage guide service.

We've probably contributed more to Jaipur tourism than the tourism department itself.

I'm currently staying at a luxury hotel in Jaipur, and the breakfast buffet has reminded me that money and manners are two completely different things.

Some observations:

People pile their plates with enough food to feed a family, take two bites and leave the rest. Mountains of perfectly good food end up in the trash.

It's not eating anymore it's consuming, hunting and devouring. Grab everything first, think later.

Parents let children run around the buffet, screaming as if it's a playground, while everyone else is trying to have a peaceful breakfast.

I watched a child poke multiple donuts with their fingers just to eat the sprinkles, then put the donuts back on the tray. No parent intervened.

People use serving spoons from one dish in another, mixing food and making a mess.

Some guests stand right in front of the buffet, deciding what to take while blocking everyone else.

Others treat the buffet like it's a race, cutting queues and reaching across people.

Conversations happen at such high volume that the dining hall starts feeling like a crowded railway station rather than a five-star hotel. This morning, one large group (dont want to reveal the state) was practically shouting across the room.

Phones on speaker, video calls at the table, kids watching cartoons at full volume; apparently headphones are optional.

Half-eaten food, spilled juice, used napkins and crumbs are left behind because someone else will clean it.

People touch bread, fruit, or pastries with bare hands before deciding they don't want them.

Some guests keep making multiple oversized rounds as though the buffet is about to disappear.

None of this has anything to do with being rich or middle class, or with any particular community. It's simply a lack of civic sense and basic etiquette.

A luxury hotel can provide beautiful interiors, expensive cutlery and premium food, but it can't manufacture basic public behaviour. Sometimes the breakfast hall feels less like a fine-dining space and more like a zoo.

Does anyone else notice this, or have I just been particularly unlucky?

Movie watching experience in Jaipur has become unbearable

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Went to watch Main Wapas Aaunga at Cinepolis yesterday &honestly, it was the worst experience but not due to the movie which was very good.

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There was a couple in their 20s sitting behind us. We were on a 4-seater, and the two seats next to us were empty. These geniuses decided those empty seats were footrests and kept their feet propped up on them the entire time.

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I politely asked them to put their feet down. They did. For about 5 minutes.

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Then the feet went right back up. I asked again, politely, and this time they just ignored me.

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As if that wasn't enough, they spent the entire movie chatting, giggling, passing comments on every single scene, and talking loudly to each other. It was an emotional movie, but thanks to them it felt more like a comedy circus with live commentary.

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What is wrong with people? Have we completely lost basic civic sense and common courtesy? A cinema hall is a shared public space. People pay money to watch a movie, not to listen to your personal conversation or watch you treat seats like your living room furniture.

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And to that couple, if by some chance you're reading this: you have absolutely no civic sense. Putting your feet on seats, disturbing everyone around you, and ignoring polite requests doesn't make you cool or funny. It just makes you inconsiderate. People like you are the reason the movie-going experience keeps getting worse.

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Jaipur audiences used to be much better. Now every other movie seems to have a few people who think basic etiquette doesn't apply to them.