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Selena was informed of Francia’s test results before Francia knew herself what the results were!! that’s illegal and a violation! Selena received no consent from Francia to see those results , Selena used her fame and money to get what she wanted and as soon as she knew Francia was a match she immediately excitedly calls Francia and says “We’re a match” giving poor Francia no space to make a decision because Selena has already piled on this expectation and pressure.

Selena expected that kidney to be given to her she was manipulative in getting it. A decent human being firstly wouldn’t manipulate their friend to give them their kidney and secondly would give their friend time to think about such a huge decision. The physical and mental affects losing a kidney had on Francia , that’s a huge thing to go through but Selena didn’t care at all.

It’s scary how a hospital/doctor could give Selena Francia’s test results , I wouldn’t be able to trust anyone again if that happened to me and I would sue. Francia should of been told her test results first and then given time to make a decision she felt comfortable with. She had every right to change her mind and back out from giving Selena her kidney but Selena didn’t give Francia that chance. Selena knew what she was doing she didn’t want Francia to change her mind and Francia understandably was probably worried she would look like a bad person if she didn’t give her kidney when that wouldn’t make her a bad person at all!! but Selena was saying things to her like “I’ll die without it” and “I’m scared I’ll die if I don’t get a kidney.”

Francia said Selena threw a water bottle across the room in frustration ( another way of manipulating Francia , Selena trying to get sympathy and a kidney) , I can already imagine Selena fake acting and dramatic behaviour to get sympathy and she behaved that way in her documentary. Francia definitely regrets giving Selena her kidney and I understand because if I was Francia I would regret it too , I think anyone would especially with how ungrateful and selfish Selena is.

I’m not victim blaming at all but me personally as soon as I found out my medical records were accessed by Selena , literally handed to Selena and her getting my test results before me , I would of been pissed and immediately I would of been out. I would not hand my kidney over to someone who went behind my back , got my results then calls me all excited acting like the decision is fully made and expects an organ from me like it’s no big deal.

That’s the big mistake Francia made she should of saw that huge red flag and it should of made her back out but at the same time I understand the pressure she felt , how manipulated she was and at that point Selena must of told her family and other friends the result as another way to pressure Francia so Francia probably felt she had no way out. I do feel bad for Francia , yes she made a decision and no matter how much regret she feels deep down she can’t get her kidney back so she has had to accept what happened as she had no other choice but she is a victim of Selena because what Selena did is emotionally abusive in my opinion. This situation doesn’t get as much attention as it deserves!

My breakup was a long time ago but me being here making this post obviously shows I’m not fully over the breakup. Hand on my heart I am over my ex , my romantic feelings for him actually left a lot sooner than I thought they would and it was the cruel words he said to me that made me detach and stop being in love with him so as much as it hurt , I guess in a way it helped me detach.

We were together for 5 years and I hold myself fully accountable for how long I stayed in a relationship were I wasn’t treated right at all , had to beg for his time , beg for communication and I was emotionally abused and I could see it was emotional abuse and my close friends would point it out to me that I was being abused but because of how attached I was to my ex I chose to ignore red flags but he had played with my mind so much that it’s not as easy to walk away from a relationship like that because you’re being abused.

I can admit if I did something wrong or was at fault for anything but I honestly wasn’t , the only thing I did wrong was stay in that relationship that was my mistake. I even have proof from my ex saying I didn’t do anything wrong so even he knows it but he will say something and the next minute would gaslight me and call me a liar. Anyway when we broke up I let all my built up pain come out , I told him how much he had hurt me and his response was “what relationship are you talking about? we never were together you’ve imagined it” and I froze I have never felt pain like that before , I wouldn’t wish it on anyone to know you invested years in someone , you loved them and then they’re telling you that relationship never existed when it did , it hurt me so deeply and yes maybe I shouldn’t of cared what he said as he was horrible to me but it hurt and left me feeling so confused.

I said to him “what are you talking about? we’ve been together for 5 years” and his response was “no we haven’t we never were in a relationship I don’t know what you’re talking about” and the way he was speaking to me was like I was dirt on his shoe. I was heartbroken so I blocked him and I’ve lost count of long I cried for. I spiralled into a deep depression and it got so bad that my hair got matted and after a long time when I started to come out of the depression a little I had to cut some of my hair out because it was that badly matted. I went so numb after what he said to me , him saying the relationship never happened hurt me more than the actual breakup , it’s bad enough going through a breakup but for them to say the relationship never existed to them that hurt me more.

Unfortunately we went to college together so we had some mutuals friends and one of them reached out to me to show me what my ex was saying about me and I know people might say they shouldn’t of showed you but at the time I’m glad they did. My ex was telling people the relationship never happened and our mutuals were as confused as me because they knew we’d been in a 5 year relationship. I just can’t understand why he would say our relationship never happened and that I imagined it?? I’d appreciate anyones opinions on this because I think it would help my mind thank you

The last few days on TikTok there’s been non stop videos about the Wizards finale and I watched a scene someone posted from the episode when Harper (Jennifer) is talking to Alex ( Selena) and in that scene Harper gets emotional when Alex says goodbye and Jennifer Stone’s acting was really good and it wouldn’t be hard to be better at acting than Selena but in that scene Jennifer’s acting stood out with how real her emotions felt and something I noticed is Selena’s reaction it didn’t look scripted at all it didn’t look like acting it looked like she was not expecting Jennifer to act so well in that moment and the look on Selena’s face in my opinion she looked annoyed or jealous like she knew how good Jennifer’s acting was compared to her own and it was like she didn’t like that she didn’t look happy about it. You can tell when someone is genuinely shocked and Selena’s face said it all in my opinion especially after all these years of being able to see through her , I recognise that jealous annoyed face but that’s just my opinion. Another clip I saw of Jennifer’s acting in the finale her delivery of humour is very good too , she was really good at playing Harper in the original series so it’s not a surprise but I don’t think Selena liked being upstaged in that moment. As a kid I loved wizards of Waverley place but as an adult I couldn’t force myself to sit through the reboot but seeing those clips on TikTok , Jennifer stone should have the acting opportunities that Selena has been given….

I’d really appreciate what you think of this card and what it could mean for my situation because I feel a little confused. Long story short my ex boyfriend and I when we broke up it ended horribly , it ended so badly that I was very depressed especially as I didn’t do anything wrong to cause the breakup , he was the one at fault but he never apologised and he never took accountability for hurting me. A lot of time has passed since the breakup and although I accepted quite a while ago that I had to move on because I’d never get an apology from him , I am still healing so things do cross my mind and I do wonder does he ever think about me , I don’t want him thinking about me romantically but does he feel guilty or ever feel bad for how much he hurt me. That’s why I’m confused that I got the 5 of cups because it almost feels too good to be true to pull that card , a card that means someone feels guilty or regret and part of me wants to believe that he does feel that way but I don’t know if I’m just telling myself what I want to hear.

My ex boyfriend emotionally abused me and anyone who knows what it’s like to experience that you know it messes you up so bad mentally. The gaslighting , someone trying to make you question your reality and being called crazy and unstable when you try speak up and defend yourself.

No matter how much proof you have of everything said to and about you , you are called crazy and a liar. I’m the type of person if I haven’t said or done something I’m being accused of or having lies said about me , it hurts me so deeply and I will try defend myself a million times to the point maybe I do look crazy not letting it go but it’s because the accusations and lies are so cruel I can’t rest until I prove my innocence even though I know I’ll never get an apology and accountability from these people.

When I ended things with my ex boyfriend because I couldn’t take the abuse anymore , the lack of effort and commitment from him and the gaslighting, he didn’t take it well at all that I ended things , his ego couldn’t handle it and he turned into a monster. The way he started to speak to me was even more cruel than before and it was like I was talking to someone I didn’t recognise. He told me I imagined the whole relationship and he was horrible.

Of course his best friend who enables him and goes along with his lies he obviously would be on my ex’s side out of bias and that doesn’t surprise me but the accusations and lies about me are so serious they could ruin my life if people actually believed that.

I actually spoke to the police about it just looking for advice if there was any way that it could be proven by them that these things being said about me are not true because to have their support would help me a lot and I feel like I got lucky because they were very compassionate to me and they told me yes we can look into and we can prove easily what’s being said about you isn’t true.

I had screenshots / voice notes of all the abuse and all the accusations thrown at me and lies behind my back which is defamation and my ex and his best friend said to me “you made fake messages!” which I didn’t but they just didn’t like that I had proof and was speaking up for myself. The police were able to prove all the messages sent to me is real and that took weight off my shoulders.

The reason I’m making this post I have crashed out multiple times trying to prove my innocence but my ex and his best friend have blocked me anytime I’ve tried prove my innocence and I know they don’t want to be held accountable they don’t want to apologise so they block me because in their minds they don’t think they’ve done anything wrong and I know they see me as crazy. I just want to know am I wrong for trying to prove my innocence so many times? am I crazy for going to those lengths to prove myself?

My ex boyfriend emotionally abused me and anyone who knows what it’s like to experience that you know it messes you up so bad mentally. The gaslighting , someone trying to make you question your reality and being called crazy and unstable when you try speak up and defend yourself.

No matter how much proof you have of everything said to and about you , you are called crazy and a liar. I’m the type of person if I haven’t said or done something I’m being accused of or having lies said about me , it hurts me so deeply and I will try defend myself a million times to the point maybe I do look crazy not letting it go but it’s because the accusations and lies are so cruel I can’t rest until I prove my innocence even though I know I’ll never get an apology and accountability from these people.

When I ended things with my ex boyfriend because I couldn’t take the abuse anymore , the lack of effort and commitment from him and the gaslighting, he didn’t take it well at all that I ended things , his ego couldn’t handle it and he turned into a monster. The way he started to speak to me was even more cruel than before and it was like I was talking to someone I didn’t recognise. He told me I imagined the whole relationship and he was horrible.

Of course his best friend who enables him and goes along with his lies he obviously would be on my ex’s side out of bias and that doesn’t surprise me but the accusations and lies about me are so serious they could ruin my life if people actually believed that.

I actually spoke to the police about it just looking for advice if there was any way that it could be proven by them that these things being said about me are not true because to have their support would help me a lot and I feel like I got lucky because they were very compassionate to me and they told me yes we can look into and we can prove easily what’s being said about you isn’t true.

I had screenshots / voice notes of all the abuse and all the accusations thrown at me and lies behind my back which is defamation and my ex and his best friend said to me “you made fake messages!” which I didn’t but they just didn’t like that I had proof and was speaking up for myself. The police were able to prove all the messages sent to me is real and that took weight off my shoulders.

The reason I’m making this post I have crashed out multiple times trying to prove my innocence but my ex and his best friend have blocked me anytime I’ve tried prove my innocence and I know they don’t want to be held accountable they don’t want to apologise so they block me because in their minds they don’t think they’ve done anything wrong and I know they see me as crazy. I just want to know am I wrong for trying to prove my innocence so many times? am I crazy for going to those lengths to prove myself?

As much work as I’ve done to heal , I still have days like today that things play on my mind and I struggle. I’m still healing but it’s also like I’m still in disbelief at how unbothered my ex was/is about what he did to my mental health. He doesn’t see himself as an abuser , he doesn’t think he did anything wrong at all , he thinks I’m the problem for holding him accountable and that I made a problem out of nothing. What he put me through caused me so much trauma especially the gaslighting , when you know what was said to you , when you have proof of what was said and done to you but they call you crazy, unstable and they deny everything it messes you up.

I made the big mistake of spending a very long time trying to hold my ex accountable and prove myself , prove that he was lying and I wish I hadn’t wasted my time because we all know a narcissist never takes accountability and never apologised because they see nothing wrong with what they have done but because I was so hurt and felt so betrayed I spent a long time showing all the proof I had just desperate to be heard and validated. My ex was on holidays posting non stop online while I couldn’t eat, couldn’t get out of bed and on the days I had to work I obviously did get out of bed but other days I stayed indoors isolating myself because I felt so broken. I even went to work a few times with unbrushed hair and I didn’t even care what I looked like because I was so depressed.

I went on anti depressants and they didn’t work that well for me and it got to a point I had to go into hospital because I wasn’t well at all, he completely shatttered my mind and reality but he didn’t care at all! I know I have no choice but to accept I’ll never get an apology from him , he’s never going to take accountability but it still makes me angry sometimes that he portrays himself as this nice guy wehn he was horrible to me and so cruel.

Narcissists are very scary people they cause so much damage, I had thoughts about ending my life because I couldn’t take the pain anymore I was so broken and he didn’t feel bad for that at all , you have to be a very cold and dangerous person to make someone not want to be here anymore and not care at all about causing damage to someone. I’m sending love to everyone here who can relate, I pray we all get through the pain.