u/CreepyExplanation601

why is minute criticism labelled "purists" "pearl clutching" "this is feminist though". Women have been trying to escape dv. second of all, some works are so unhinged (blurring the lines to torture btw) that it's stupid to call it pearl clutching. also i genuinely want to question the feminist aspect. what part of it is feminism? a woman being abused SA'd against her will, the Stockholm syndrome. this is a disgusting point to make(i condone violence towards everyone ) but you dont see lot of women protagonists committing these crimes. and if so ? why not? its like playing into patriarchy's hand. "

Hello!! I am not sure if i am welcome here because i used to read this genre 😅. But this topic has always weighed on me. I find the act of trafficking very horrifying (who doesnt !!). And i kinda got scared of admitting or saying this because "dont yuck someones yum".

But imo such topics shouldnt be romanticized even under dark category. They should be written as phycology books or in general, shouldn't be romanticed . Ie showing the act , Stockholm syndrome (if present) in the actual light. An unpopular opinion is that many authors write dark romance without the thought and just write shock value scripts. A la " how much shit can you expect?". But question is , where do we draw the line? Its insanity to think .

On a side note "its a cope"- yeah thats how i got into it but i became desensitized and a lot at that . Its on me , definitely but reading an actual victim's story probably shook me. I kinda ended up questioning all that i read, self reflected and i am lost. Hence , i am here:)) i hope i am welcome a bit!sorry if doesnt fit.

20F. I get very bored at night and start feeling lonely , since i study late and stay up quite a bit. i am just looking for random people to talk with. i prefer both genders equally. i used to play fortnite but i stopped when i got depressed lol. I ended up losing will for lot of my hobbies so i wont really lie about being into generic stuff like cooking(horrible at it) hiking blah blah blah. i'd lowkey love a high energy extrovert(adopt me hiihii) but i dont wanna drain them lmao. i am a fin student. Currently reading the predators ball(dont ask me any ques i literally just started!!). Anyways, I know this is very little to work with . i am hoping for a miracle atp lol. please be between 18-26 and state your age and where you are from.

I don't know if its just my case, hence i am venting. Throughout my life i have received all major gifts when i passed an exam with good grades. It fucked me up pretty badly, of course. I refuse to believe that someone will love me just for me. My self esteem is in quadrant 3 lmao. When i finally made a friend(also grew up isolated because, well, my home environment was toxic) and her parents just got her a laptop just because it was her birthday...i was flabbergasted ngl. And i slowly started seeing what a normal family feels like . I haven't received anything for my past 2 exam either (was rank 1 in both ) and i have asked for a vehicle or mini scooter/bike because it was truly a hassle to commute 4 hrs by public transport everyday.

i was . ofc, turned down by my mum. she also refused to let my grandfather ,my uncle or my dad buy it for me. (all 3 offered) . I truly suffered a lot. I have reached a point where i refuse to accept anything from her. fuck her. she never cared about my wants, scratch that , needs. some APs don't understand that they should give stuff when we " need it" not as per their convenience. We truly need it not some character development bs ffs. Another exhibit is me genuinely reaching out abt my binge eating disorder and her not believing it. What makes me angry is that she is a doc herself..smh. i am so tired of everything.

i could vent more lol but i would stray away from the topic. the next time i pass i lwk will set a boundary. I'll ask my uncle directly for a gift and tell her to not give me anything henceforth. Not on my birthday , not when i graduate , not when i marry etc. i am tired of earning her affection and being obedient .(funfact i have never argued with her in my 20 years of life. i just swallowed whatever she unloaded on me). anyone hate this too? i am so jealous of kids who just receive stuff.

do these people love the misery and control they have over us this much?