u/Curious_Butterfly841

It’s our first birthday as a couple and we’re currently long distance for a bit. (24f, 26m.)Been together like 5 months but we got very emotionally invested early on so we’re way past the initial stages of dating. I got a tshirt for his favorite artist, an ear stretching kit that he was planning to get himself, a matching clay keychain that looks like us (im keeping the one that looks like him), engraved zippo case as he has a collection, and an engraved ring because he gave me a ring before i traveled back to school. Also some other miscellaneous things like snacks, birthday candles because im very sure he wouldn’t have them at home and a handmade birthday card. Everything altogether was pricy but ive been prepping for a while so the financial hit hasn’t been that hard. I don’t want him to stress that I spent so much money and how much he will feel he “has” to spend on me. I just love giving gifts and putting thought into it. He’s not a big celebrator at all and im not sure he’ll be getting any other presents so I just want him to feel thought of. Still with that, like I said I can’t help wondering if i overdid it. Thoughts? I could possibly take something out to give to him when I move back.

Hi guys! Congrats to everyone graduating this spring!!! :)) I have my family coming from overseas for my graduation and need 2 extra. They’re distributing extras the week of the 18th but I was told that I might want to ask around now for those willing to transfer because he said chances of extra tickets are low :( If anyone could offer a ticket they’re not gonna need I would appreciate it so much!!! I’m honestly even willing to pay, I would just like my whole family there as they’re traveling so far for the occasion. Thank youu <3

We 24f and 26m met in January and it was kind of a whirlwind romance. We were immediately drawn to each other and spent every day together for 2 weeks until I had to go back to school. I kinda assumed we would fizzle out due to the distance but he’s stayed very consistent and we talk every single day about everything.

I love him, I really do and I believe that he loves me too but I’m kinda at a crossroads right now. There was a situation a little while back where I got upset at him for following a girl he used to talk to but they never slept together and weren’t close. She hangs out with some of his friends but he doesn’t see her often. He showed me a conversation between them where she was just asking him what he’s up to and if he was with one of his friends that she’s hooking up with. After talking to him about it he was very apologetic and removed/unfollowed her immediately. He unfollowed girls that he doesn’t know personally then too. It did make me mistrust him a bit but I felt that he did the right things to make me comfortable so I let it go. She hasn’t come up since.

The other day I got a feeling to look through his following again. I will admit I do get jealous but not like crazy jealous. I’ll just snoop through followings and such from time to time. I went into this one girls profile and he had commented a red heart emoji on a selfie from 2 years ago about 2 weeks ago. I immediately confronted him about it and he was apologetic and said that he honestly must’ve been very drunk because he doesn’t know her and doesn’t remember doing that. He removed her immediately and is begging me to forgive him and seems ashamed.

Idk what to do. My immediate instinct is to leave and I told him I was feeling that way. My hesitation is that I’m moving back home in July and because I’m from a small city we’ll definitely run into each other when I’m back. I would like to see/talk to him in person when I go back. I don’t believe that he’s physically cheated on me but hard to know for sure I guess but I do have his location.

A part of me wants to let it go for now because with graduation coming up and such a break up feels like a lot rn but then another part of me is telling myself that I need to prove a point to him that he can’t get away with that. In all honesty, I don’t want to break up with him but I feel that I have to. Would it be stupid of me to stay?

I kinda do believe him when he says he doesn’t remember because he’s been hanging out with a group of people I don’t like and they drink a lot. It doesn’t make me feel better obviously but I don’t think he’s lying? Is it too much to tell him I don’t want him to hang out with them anymore and to stop drinking if he doesn’t want me to leave? I don’t want to have to do that but I don’t see how else I can move on from this.

It sounds so silly but I do believe that he’s a good guy that loves me as he’s been very good to me besides this. I also feel like I’m young right now so what’s the harm in seeing what happens with this guy I love and am extremely attracted to and I’ll just break up when I’m ready. I feel like I’m being dumb and just thinking of reasons to stay because I can’t imagine not talking to him and then running into him when I’m home. Ik our THT family is kind and understanding so I wanted to post here for some guidance. Thank you guys.

I tried nexplanon years ago and it made me constantly bleed, break out and gain weight. I’ve steered clear of bc since but got on yaz for a couple of months last year and it went fine. I know that most people are more passionate to talk about their experiences when it’s negative but I’ve seen so many negative accounts on this sub, it’s making me a bit anxious now. I’m long distance with my partner for 3 months and wanna be on bc when we’re living together again but I also don’t wanna be dealing with some of the horrible side effects I’ve seen some have gone through on here. I think I’m gonna try it for 3 months until I see him again but I’m worried about breaking out, gaining weight, some reported discharge/smell problems, and a change in sex drive. Can anyone help relieve my anxiety with their positive experience? Or if you’ve been on the same bc ive been on and it really wasn’t a fit for you let me know as well. I know everyone’s different and I shouldn’t be too worried until I try it out but idk. Appreciate u guys. Thank you ❤️