u/Curious_Minute2989

Hello,

I'm an anxiously attached man who was previously in a relationship with an avoidant. That relationship did a lot of damage to my self-image, my nervous system, and my mental health in general.

I recently met a man who is already in a (long-distance) relationship. Things started as a friendship but became sexual after some time and escalated pretty fast after that. I'm (and he said he is too) starting to fall in love.

Things were going smoothly, but after three consecutive nights together, he visited his SO, and my anxious attachment was triggered just like that. Now, I can't stop being jealous, thinking that he'll leave me, imagining him and his SO having sex, that he's just using me when his SO isn't here.

He saw that I wasn't doing well (I didn't tell him I was jealous of his SO) and kept reassuring me, saying that he wouldn't go away and that I'm important to him.

I'm not sure why I just started to be jealous. He is very patient with me and helps me a lot with my anxiety.

Next time we see each other, we'll talk about what we want to do with our relationship. Meanwhile, I can't stop feeling anxious, jealous, and trigerred.

What can I do? He does a lot to make me feel safer. Should I just stop this relationship? Am I not ready yet? Is the relationship too trigerring ?

I'm a little lost.

Hello,

I'm an anxiously attached man who was previously in a relationship with an avoidant. That relationship did a lot of damage to my self-image, my nervous system, and my mental health in general.

I recently met a man who is already in a (long-distance) relationship. Things started as a friendship but became sexual after some time and escalated pretty fast after that. I'm (and he said he is too) starting to fall in love.

Things were going smoothly, but after three consecutive nights together, he visited his SO, and my anxious attachment was triggered just like that. Now, I can't stop being jealous, thinking that he'll leave me, imagining him and his SO having sex, that he's just using me when his SO isn't here.

He saw that I wasn't doing well (I didn't tell him I was jealous of his SO) and kept reassuring me, saying that he wouldn't go away and that I'm important to him.

I'm not sure why I just started to be jealous. He is very patient with me and helps me a lot with my anxiety.

Next time we see each other, we'll talk about what we want to do with our relationship. Meanwhile, I can't stop feeling anxious, jealous, and trigerred.

What can I do? He does a lot to make me feel safer. Should I just stop this relationship? Am I not ready yet? Is the relationship too trigerring ?

I'm a little lost.

Hello,

I'm an anxiously attached man who was previously in a relationship with an avoidant. That relationship did a lot of damage to my self-image, my nervous system, and my mental health in general.

I recently met a man who is already in a (long-distance) relationship. Things started as a friendship but became sexual after some time and escalated pretty fast after that. I'm (and he said he is too) starting to fall in love.

Things were going smoothly, but after three consecutive nights together, he visited his SO, and my anxious attachment was triggered just like that. Now, I can't stop being jealous, thinking that he'll leave me, imagining him and his SO having sex, that he's just using me when his SO isn't here.

He saw that I wasn't doing well (I didn't tell him I was jealous of his SO) and kept reassuring me, saying that he wouldn't go away and that I'm important to him.

I'm not sure why I just started to be jealous. He is very patient with me and helps me a lot with my anxiety.

Next time we see each other, we'll talk about what we want to do with our relationship. Meanwhile, I can't stop feeling anxious, jealous, and trigerred.

What can I do? He does a lot to make me feel safer. Should I just stop this relationship? Am I not ready yet? Is the relationship too trigerring ?

I'm a little lost.