u/Current-Tap-3318

Hi all. I’m in a really tricky situation but I do feel unsafe. Just to make clearly I’m in my early 20’s and this was my first relationship.

My ex has a child with another woman. We broke up as I found out he was cheating on me the entirety of my three year relationship with him.

My biggest concern is that I have caught him asking for nudes from a 17 year old girl and wanting to meet up with her. I’m not sure if she ever sent any photos. The only proof I have is some photos of him calling her ‘unreal’ when she was 17, then other proof of him saying sexual things to her but she was 18 at this stage. However the girl had confirmed he asked for the same when she was 17 as well.

I want to report him because there has been other situations where he has been talking to underaged people (which I have only found out at the time I found out about the girl) but I’ve no evidence of those.

I’m worried to report as he lives extremely close to me and his ex has a safety order against him for a situation that happened where she claims he got violent with her. He has threatened her and threatened her current partner, which again I’ve only found out as of recent.

He hasn’t personally threatened me, however he has done some questionable things to me again I have no evidence of. But after seeing what he said to his ex before I’m concerned if I report him.

Does anyone have any advice?

so i have a friend who i will name amy for the sake of privacy. amy and i got close early this year but have known each other for a while now. she helped me a lot through a traumatic break up which i am grateful for, but the more time i spend with her she becomes more and more clingy and hard to deal with.

she has no car so most of the time she expects me to drive her places, constantly wants to hang out i mean nearly every day (i work everyday and she works once a week, we are both 22), excepts me to pay for stuff for her and etc. she would constantly plan road trips for us which she never asks if i can afford it or offer any money for fuel or even something small like a snack on the way.

what has really been irritating me recently is that she is so so negative. she texts me everyday and spams me with negative things about her life. some are way too personal and i feel like she shouldn’t be saying these to me. i started feeling like her romantic partner rather than a friend. she has a boyfriend but he’s not a good guy and doesn’t spend time with her at all, so in a way it feels like now im the replacement? she acts dumb on purpose and puts on a baby voice sometimes and i honestly started feeling extremely uncomfortable around her. if i hang around other friends, she starts becoming distant and upset.

i have tried ignoring her but she has spammed me non stop. i have tried giving her the hint that she needs to tone down, but she doesn’t get it. if i say anything to her she will most likely blow up. however i feel bad because she helped me through my breakup, but now i just feel like im stuck in another controlling/clingy situation.