How to stop external processing so much
I externally process my emotions and typically when I’m in sticky situations with people that I can’t seem to make sense of myself. This doesn’t typically entail judgmental opinions or trash talking, just me simply explaining a situation I’m in with someone and asking friends what they think of it.
I understand this isn’t a great thing to do, but it is a trait of ADHD and I’m also a victim of narcissistic abuse & have learned not to trust my inner voice. It’s also not something I’m constantly doing, just when I’m going through intense things with people in my life.
A friend recently told me she has an issue with me but that she can’t tell me what it is because she thinks I’ll tell everyone about it. It seems like clearly she, and likely others, are feeling like I’m gossiping about people when I’m just trying to gain clarity.
I’m reading more into this to try to find new tools to not have to rely on others for these things, because I don’t want people to think I’m doing this in a malicious or vindictive way. Looking for advice on tools that have worked for others with this tendency. I may just start recording voice memos to myself if I have to.