People keep mistaking me for a sub.
I'm a Dom in the bedroom, absolutely cannot be a sub or switch due to past stuff. Sure, I'm a softer Dom, I don't like causing pain very much, but I'll do it for my partner if they want it.
People I meet irl consistently assume I'm a sub. The way I carry myself, the way I act. "Overly polite", chatty, nervous and unsure how to stand/where to put my hands when talking to women I like (neurodivergence). I've had people match with me online assuming I was a sub, I've had people swipe left on me the first time because of the "sub energy" I give off. People at work that I've talked to about this stuff assumed I was, too.
I honestly think it's hurting my chances at finding a partner, and I really wish I knew how to come across as more of a Dom, without changing my personality, or doing anything creepy.
Any tips? Words of encouragement? Could use some. Thanks, you guys