u/D1v1ne_Chaos

Location: Indiana

This is kind of a long story, with a lot of background information that I won’t be able to share.. but I’m going to give what I can.

Let’s start here: i(f26) have a sister J (f36) is getting divorced from her husband E (m50) and they have a delayed child W (m4) together. They have been together 12 years.

My sister got out of what was DV situation with her husband. The cops came and took J and W away so they could go to safety. E is a felon and got arrested because she told them he had a modified firearm in the house along with paraphernalia.

He spent a lot of time in jail and my sister and W were awarded a protection order against E. E is a horrible person. Textbook sociopath, master manipulator and conman. Also a self proclaimed lawyer and has sued and gone to court against a lot of people. He’s lost more than he’s won, if that tells you much of his skills.

The issue is that he has gone and contacted all legal aid in her county, as well as surrounding counties. They have all told her that even if they are not representing him, he still contacted them and it would be a conflict of interest. My sister does not have a job. She is unable to get one because W is almost 5 and cannot function in society. He cannot speak. He is going to speech therapy because of the confinement (of which E is being charged for) he and J endured for years.

Please tell me there is something that can be done to help her. He threatened to kill W and himself if J ever tried to leave. He is trying to get her deemed unfit as a parent, take the house and leave her on the street. This man is one of the most horrible people I have ever had the displeasure of meeting and that little boy has been through to much to go back to him. Please please let me know what she can do.

She’s working on getting SS disability to be able to pay for a lawyer but she cannot find one to represent her.

Please let me know if you have any questions and I will do my best to answer them.

TIA

I’m at my wits end and I am so tired. I’m currently 7 months postpartum. My baby’s birth was an emergency CS that was very traumatic for me and my husband, for multiple reasons, after already having a hard and strenuous pregnancy. These periods are starting to make me super depressed and I feel like I’m stuck and I don’t want to go through this pain every single month.

I’ve always had heavy/long periods and my cycle has always been irregular. Since having my baby, they have been a nightmare. Had my baby in November, breastfed/pumped until January. I made enough for triplets in the beginning and I think when I tried to cut down on production because it was killing me, my body said ‘that’s enough’ and quit altogether. Obviously, my period started right after.

First period was in late February and it was extremely painful for about 5-9 hours on day two. This has been the same every single time since. My husband had to come home from work because I was bleeding through everything, couldn’t walk, talk, hold the baby, eat, literally anything because I was in so much pain. I ended up taking some of the pain medication they gave me for breakthrough pain after the CS. Managed to make it through but I had NEVER bled this much on a period before.

Fast forward a bit, late march ended up going to ER because it was so bad. I thought I was having a miscarriage because I was bleeding everywhere and I was blacking out from the pain. Drs found nothing and offered no answers after HOURS in there. Did bunch of tests and gave me pain medication that barely touched the pain. Got sent home with no hope but that “they should get better.” My parents were the ones to take me to the ER because my husband was working. Again, bleeding PROFUSELY (going through overnight pads in 2-3 hours pretty much the whole period) but no results on any of the tests. No signs of miscarriage, cyst, rupture, tare, nothing.

Then in May I decided I had enough because I was going through this AGAIN and no pain medicine worked. No ibuprofen, Tylenol, oxy, torodol, nothing. I called the OBs office and they scheduled me for a month out to talk about getting on BC to reset my cycle. Right now I’m going through ANOTHER extremely painful period and had to take 10ml of hydrocodone so I could function enough not to black out from the pain.

I’m really hoping the BC will get everything fixed but I just feel like my body is retaliating against me right now. I’m so nervous about going on BC because last time it made me incredibly depressed and angry and I’m a SAHM.. I don’t want to risk that with me being home all day with my baby. They have me on a different medication than the previous one, but I’m praying that this works. I’m going to crash out HARD if in three months everything is the same.

Please don’t tell me this will get better with time.. so many people have told me that. ‘It takes a couple periods for your body to get back in sync.’ Like please no that just makes me want to cry and I’m not a cryer. It’s not gotten any better after four months, and if anything gotten more intense.. My husband can’t take off work every time I have my period because I can’t function from the pain and take care of our baby.

I track my LH levels, and I haven’t caught a proper ovulation since the first period. I always test every other day until my ovulation week and when it gets close I test twice a day. In the late morning/early afternoon and then in the evening. I don’t know if this can be the cause, or if my CS scar is messed up and causing shedding issues.. i don’t know if this could be endo or PCOS (my mother had both, also had to get an ovary removed)I have no idea. I just need help. The doctors look at me like I’m crazy but all I want is for this pain to stop. I don’t want to have to be taking oxy or hydrocodone every time I have my period.

Thank you in advance if you have any insight or if you’ve been through this before 😭 sorry for the long post

I’m at my wits end and I am so tired. I’m currently 7 months postpartum. My baby’s birth was an emergency CS that was very traumatic for me and my husband, for multiple reasons, after already having a hard and strenuous pregnancy. These periods are starting to make me super depressed and I feel like I’m stuck and I don’t want to go through this pain every single month.

I’ve always had heavy/long periods and my cycle has always been irregular. Since having my baby, they have been a nightmare. Had my baby in November, breastfed/pumped until January. I made enough for triplets in the beginning and I think when I tried to cut down on production because it was killing me, my body said ‘that’s enough’ and quit altogether. Obviously, my period started right after.

First period was in late February and it was extremely painful for about 5-9 hours on day two. This has been the same every single time. My husband had to come home from work because I was bleeding through everything, couldn’t walk, talk, hold the baby, eat, literally anything because I was in so much pain. I ended up taking some of the pain medication they gave me for breakthrough pain after the CS. Managed to make it through but I had NEVER bled this much on a period before.

Fast forward a few months, late march ended up going to ER because it was so bad. I thought I was having a miscarriage because I was bleeding everywhere and I was blacking out from the pain. Drs found nothing and offered no help after HOURS in there. Did bunch of tests and gave me pain medication that barely touched the pain. Got sent home with nothing. My parents were the ones to take me to the ER because my husband was working. Again, bleeding PROFUSELY (going through overnight pads in 2-3 hours pretty much the whole period) but no results on any of the tests.

Then in May I decided I had enough because I was going through this AGAIN and no pain medicine worked. No ibuprofen, Tylenol, oxy, torodol, nothing. I called the OBs office and they scheduled me for a month out to talk about getting on BC to reset my cycle. Right now I’m going through ANOTHER extremely painful period and had to take 5ml of hydrocodone so I could function enough not to black out from the pain.

I seriously need experiences from women who have also gone through this. I’m really hoping the BC will get everything fixed but I just feel like my body is retaliating again me right now. I’m so nervous about going on BC because last time it made me incredibly depressed and angry and I’m a SAHM.. I don’t want to risk that with me being home all day with my baby. They have me on a different medication than the previous one, but I’m praying that this works. I’m going to crash out HARD if I’m three months everything is the same.

Please don’t tell me this will get better with time.. so many people have told me that. ‘It takes a couple periods for your body to get back in sync.’ Like please no. It’s not gotten any better. My husband can’t take off work every time I have my period because I can’t function from the pain.

I track my LH levels, and I haven’t caught a proper ovulation since the first period. I always test every other day until my ovulation week and when it gets close I test twice a day. In the late morning/early afternoon and then in the evening. I don’t know if this can be the cause, or if my CS scar is messed up and causing shedding issues.. I have no idea. I just need help. The doctors look at me like I’m crazy but all I want is for this pain to stop. I don’t want to have to be taking oxy or hydrocodone every time I have my period.

Thank you in advance if you have any insight or if you’ve been through this before 😭