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Does anyone else ever compare their size to a normal, everyday object (soda can, banana, or whatever you can find that’s vaguely phallic), but then struggle to believe that your penis is actually that size? Like, even thought the measurements match, does it feel like it can’t be right?

For context, I’m 7”x5” to 5.5” (getting an exact girth measurement has always been difficult, as I feel I always start to go a tad softer when measuring, and need to try and flex my dick to get it as hard as it is during sex).

I’ve measured various objects I find to compare the length and the girth, but every single time I still tell myself “No way, it’s not THAT long, it’s not THAT thick”.

I’m sure it’s a bit of body dysmorphia, mixed with not being able to really see my dick the way my wife would from her POV. Most recently, I measured the length of a 16oz Monster can, and it’s a little less than 6.5”, and a google search confirmed that it measures 6.2” long. I look at it, and I’m like, there’s no way, that seems too long to compare to my dick. Sure enough though, if I lay it on top of my dick while I’m hard, it’s only slightly shorter than me NBPEL (I’m just under 6.5” NBPEL), and if I press it into my pubic bone, my dick is almost an inch longer. Then I put it back on the table and I’m like, NO WAY, that just can’t be right.

Same with girth. I know my girth is a little more than average, but once again, trying to compare it to anything, I can’t wrap my mind around believing that’s how thick it is. The closest object I’ve been able to find in size was a salt shaker I have. It’s maybe .1” less girth than I usually measure. If I wrap my hand around it, I’m like, yeah, that seems about right I think, but then if I try to actually put it in my mouth, it’s like, DAMN, is that what it’s like for my wife? I feel like there’s no way, if I watch her suck my dick, it doesn’t seem like it’s that thick.

Anyone else? Or am I just crazy in thinking my dick can’t be that big, even when I understand that objectively, by numbers, it’s well above the average.

TL:DR Does anyone have a hard time believing their size when they try and compare it to everyday objects?

Edited to add my age: 31

As the title states, ED treatment with daily Tadalafil has quite literally changed my life!

I had been experiencing some level of ED for a few years, and it was having a serious impact on my mental health, and my relationship with my spouse. Even though my wife was understanding, there were more than a few times when performance issues would lead to her getting offended. Even when I could get enough of an erection to have real sex, it was never all that hard, just barely enough to penetrate.

Finally, I sucked up my pride, and went to see a urologist. Based on their thoughts and what I wanted to get out of all of it, he prescribed me 5mg daily of Tadalafil. It’s been a few months now, and the impact has been HUGE. After just a few days, it was like I was 16 again. I was able to get rock hard pretty much whenever. All my wife has to do is look at me a certain way, and I’m ready to go!

We’ve been having way more sex, and I’ve even noticed some improvement in my stamina as well. Another unexpected benefit is that the amazing quality of my erections has given me a little improvement with my size, rather, it’s allowed me to actually get fully erect, and achieve the size I’m supposed to be. I didn’t realize it right away, but one night while I was intimate with my wife, she straight up told me I felt bigger than I used to. I got curious, so I measured it. Last time I had measured was when I had managed to get kind of hard before starting treatment, and I was around 5.8”. With a fully erect penis, I measured 7”. Definitely a huge confidence boost, both seeing the number, and hearing my wife tell me I felt bigger lol! Our sex life has gotten so much better it’s kind of ridiculous.

After talking to the urologist about it, he confirmed that the apparent increase in size is entirely a matter of erection quality. Obviously some people are growers and some are showers. If your penis isn’t getting fully erect, that can make it appear smaller than it should be, because it’s not fully engorged. I’m not saying ED meds will give you size boost, but, I guess I’ve always been more of a grower than I realized🤷🏼‍♂️

I don’t know why I waited so long to address it, but if you’re struggling with ED, and haven’t talked to a doctor yet, do it. Being able to get real erections again has made my life so much better, there aren’t enough words to even describe it!

While my ED was not the sole cause of my mental health problems, it certainly was making things worse.

After finally getting over my own worries about the stigma surrounding the issue, I mustered up the courage to talk with my therapist about it, who referred me to urologist to discuss treatment. Both of them agreed the root cause of the ED was likely mental, related to depression and PTSD. Either way, they both agreed that treatment would likewise help improve things.

Daily tadalifil (generic Cialis) made an immediate and now long lasting improvement in my overall mental health, self-image, and has improved my relationship with my wife.

If you even think you might be having issues with ED, you should talk to a doctor. Regardless of the root cause, it’s probably hurting your mental health, and there’s a way to help things very easily and very quickly. We all deserve to feel good about ourselves, and there’s no shame in needing to get a little help getting there.