r/menshealth

I’m 21M and I need some help, preferably from a urologist if possible.

I’m having a few issues which I want to share:

1. When I feel like peeing, I go and do it, and after finishing, I go back to sleep. But when I lie down and try to sleep, it feels like 6–7 drops of urine are still left and come out at the tip. So I get up again, push my scrotum up, and empty it completely. Even after doing that, the same thing happens again when I lie down. Sometimes, even after walking a few steps, I feel it. This usually happens when I drink more water after dinner, but I don’t want (like) to keep going to the toilet again and again to pee.

2. Also, I have a condition where sometimes I am unable to initiate peeing even when I want to. I need to concentrate at such times, or distract my mind (like thinking about something else - like what happened during the day so that I can make my brain forget that I'm peeing) to be able to start, and that usually works. I know this may sound like a joke, but this is what I do 😭, and I’m really concerned.

3. Also, I am unable to pee in a public toilet or anywhere when someone is around. I don’t know why. I’m not able to initiate it in such scenarios, but once it starts, I can pee easily. The problem is initiating it. I got to know from the Internet that this condition is called a shy bladder, where we can’t pee in public if I'm not wrong.

This has been happening to me for the past 1–2 years.

should I be concerned? Could this be because of masturbation or something else? I’m really concerned and afraid too ☹️

trust me, i'm a very anxious and an overthinking person. At home, I’m usually the first one to fall sick as my immunity is low, so I keep worrying ;could this be the beginning of something serious like cancer or something else?

Disclaimer: im in no way trying to be funny or trying to “show off”

Noticed over last few months my penis has drastically gotten smaller. It used to be around 8 inches but i have seen it get to 9 inches. But over the last few months i have been struggling to get hard and have been hovering around 6.5 inches. I’m 23 186cm 85kg fit and healthy but i have also become pretty dependent on melatonin gummies taking 40mg a night as well as masterbuating 3 a day mainly stress and boredom

So for a little context 22M here, you can say I was kind of addicted to porn. I used to watch porn and fap like 3 or 4 times even or even daily for quite a few times. I started dating a girl 10 days back so I quit watching porn, but now I am not able to get that hard of erections right now. Like I get 70 percent of hard erection in comparison to before. It does not go to its full length i guess. And the main thing I've stopped getting random boners from thoughts, before quitting porn i used to get boners from sensual thoughts but this does not happen these days, even if I get a boner it is not that strong. I searched up a little for it, people are saying that this is normal and it is a phase after quitting porn. So two questions for this 1. Is this actually normal, have any of you actually been through this? 2. If yes, how much time does it take to go back to normal?

And the other main issue is these two things started concurrently me quitting porn and dating a girl, so the last we were physically intimate, we were on second base but we were about to go my third base, but as soon as she reached my pants my penis went semi hard, even when i am with her being physically intimate I'm not getting that hard of an erection. And the thing is she is moving out of the country in 2 months so I have only got this much time to get physical intimacy but then again I am worried about the flatline phase so is it okay to take some viagra or anything? Also is this erectile dysfunction or is it normal after quitting porn? Again have any of you gone through this, if yes how do you tackle this and how much time will it take for me to be completely normal.

Hi guys,
Long story short, after receiving oral sex about 6-8 weeks ago I woke up the next day with testicular pain, I’ve had epididymitis 3 times before so I knew that’s what it was (never had an std)
I took a week’s worth of doxycycline twice per day and the pain continued after that… a week later I then got a script from the doc for 2 weeks worth of doxycycline, and did that too, the pain continued. Important to note I was relieving myself every night during this time as I have a high sex drive and will wake up in the early hours of the morning if I don’t do this…

I went to the hospital about a week ago due to severe testicular pain, mostly in my left test and underneath/behind it, radiating down my leg. They did blood test, urine, and ultrasound and found no infection, no inflammation, nothing. They told me to “rest the area” and take pregabalin and other pain meds.

It has now been a week, with zero masterbation, an I feel the pain is worse, I’m having to take oxycodone just to sleep at night, and in the afternoons I’m struggling to walk due to the pain. I’m seeing a urologist next week, but for now I wonder what is wrong, have I caused chronic inflammation? (But none was seen on the ultrasound) or have I caused nerve damage by not resting the area while I had the epididymitis?

Will this go away on its own?? or will I need surgery etc, I’m already dealing with occipital neuralgia the last two years so I really can’t be dealing with another chronic health issue….

22M

I did prostate exam, PCR for all possible infections and am virgin.

This slowly came on over the course of a year I think. Used to be tip stinging only before that.

1 hour after ejaculation, the urethra becomes so sensitized that just a touch is painful. It lasts 8 or so hours. Another round of ejaculation makes it much worse

An erection is painful in that time because of the underside of penis!

I also get stinging on the tip.

Help me! What is going on with me.
I’m getting married in 3 months and I didn’t realise it was this serious. Someone please help me. My future marriage is ruined right now if I will have painful erections

Been to PFPT for a month without any luck. We can’t reproduce the urethra pain with trigger points but she can palpate the urethra hard enough even a week without ejaculation and make me jump in pain.

I need help. I am seeing UTSW pelvic floor rehab program in 2 weeks but I need to know if I have to cancel my honeymoon and wedding 😥

- I am a generally anxious person
- had pilonidal cyst removed from tip of tailbone to 3 inches above.

Got tested for free today at an event…is that bad? 😬

I will be 27 years old tomorrow, I was in a bad wreck August 17th 2024. Broke my pelvis all up, cracked some bones in my lower back (I can’t remember which ones), caused alot of internal bleeding and most of all, tore my urethra in half.
I had surgeries on my Pelvis and Bladder right off the bat, but had to wait 4 months for Posterior Urethroplasty. December 18th I had Posterior Urethroplasty and it was not a great experience. All I can say is that I can urinate now. My sexual functions of my Penis have changed an insane amount (ED, and a significant Loss of Length). I have went to the doctor many times about the ED and not feeling worth a shit and they all just kind of laugh and write it off. So, it’s almost been two years that I have absolutely had no ambition or drive. Raging ED, (Penis will not fully get hard, like it will get sort of stiff but not much blood like before)
I have been taking Cialis pretty much since the surgery (Daily and when I want to have intercourse with my wife).

I had my test levels checked 2 times and the doctors said that I was fine, that it was going to take some time (420ng/dl & 640 ng/dl)
I am in a massive depression, I have zero drive and can’t get a good erection to save my life.
The doctors all write me off from trying something testosterone related I guess because I’m so young? Just seems like they think it’s a joke but I am fucking struggling bad.

I just recently got my wife pregnant, and now that she’s pregnant I would like to try anything possible to feel better.

Could someone please point me in the right direction? Doctors , Nurses, Healers, Anybody?

I am struggling so bad right now, I had to go recently and get put on anxiety medication because I don’t know what else to do, I couldn’t control the anxiety and worry. It is killing me.

I was a very ambitious person and I really do have a good life, but something is not right with me and it hasn’t been since the wreck. I think it’s Testosterone related, but I’m not sure. I want to get some testosterone from someone I know, just to try it and see if it makes me feel better but I am extremely scared.

All I am asking is for some help, and a nudge in the right direction because it seems like no one is here to help.

To add: I don’t drink or smoke or anything that could be affecting it. Not that it has anything to do with it. I would just like to be able to enjoy my life again because it’s been almost 2 miserable years

I was circumcised 10 years ago 19 rn and recently i saw a patch of skin connecting shaft skin to the glans from below and left(single patch) its painless almost flexible but im very scarred of what it must be and why i suddenly spotted it 10 years later. Can anyone tell what it is and is it harmful? it also seems to be growing

This all started when I was a freshman.

I used to have to hold my pee really long because of a school extracurricular. I mean, I was sitting at a full tank for hours on end before I was in a situation where a bathroom was nearby. I had to quit because I couldn't stand it anymore.

One day, on the bus ride I needed to go especially bad. I waited for (literally, I counted) 100 miles and when we got to the gas station I couldn't walk right. I was waddling. Real short steps. All the way to the bathroom. I pulled out the stopwatch on my phone. I peed once for a minute and a half. Then as I left the bathroom I turned back around and peed for another minute and a half. This was the first time I felt like I didn't have total control over my bladder. It was so hard to get everything to come out.

Then a few weeks later I developed urine dribble. This is my main problem. I was so afraid that I called for my mom to come pick me up so I could change underwear. I cried to her in the car that I didn't know what was happening, but I somehow peed my pants.

I've been living like this for 2.5 years.

I've noticed that I can't really make my pee stream go 'turbo' like I used to be able to when I was younger. I can't really engage any muscle to make my stream more intense or strong. I've lost that amount of control. When the main stream has ended, I usually stand around for about a minute just shaking and letting the drops fall.

I've also noticed I don't last very long in that kind of way. After looking around, I figure the two might be linked.

Is it possible that I have developed an extremely poor pelvic floor so young? Or is this a bigger issue that I need to see a doctor for?

I had sex with a girl over a month and a half ago who i met at a party i used and condom and sex was only about 8 minutes long. After that i had a long drive but i washed myself off with some wet wipes and idk why i did this but i used hand sanitizer down there. About a week later i was out in the woods for a week in the heat so i wasnt able to shower or anything. But i had a burning sensation on my scrotum and it was red for a little. It went away after about a day and a half after i kept wiping it off and keeping it dry from sweat. Fast forward i noticed some small tiny bumps on the shaft of my penis which when i went to get an STD test (2 weeks after the encounter) and the doctors told me those were normal and mentioned that im probably just starting to notice new things because i was worried. The tests came back negative for everything. They didn’t test for Herpes because i had no active sores. After this i’ve still been very stressed and became very inactive. I haven’t been moving around and ive just been very lazy. I had some pain in my left testicle very very slight pain, no burning when urinating and no discharge. I went bowling to destress and then it was gone. A week later i went back out into the woods for a week and this time i used gold bond in-between my legs and on my genitals and once again i couldnt shower or anything. I reapplied the goldbond daily and then showered at the end of the week which left me with irritation in between my legs that went away after 4 days. I noticed that after every shower it got better. Now the testicular pain has come back very slightly but not as bad as last time and it goes away if i just go out and take a walk or stretch my legs. Another thing ive noticed is that on the tip of my penis not on the ridge there are very tiny smooth bumps somewhat reddish but mainly the same color as the tip. Its only noticeable when im erect and they cause me no irritation. Im just freaking out i’ve done another full STD test minus herpes and so far everything is negative. Am i just over stressing myself??

A few more things to note about my health just in case its useful

I have hypertension and my diet during this month and a half has been terrible i mention this because i wonder if the testicular pain is cause by high blood pressure from added stress? Ive had no pain in urination, no discoloration in semen, no fever and the only real symptoms i have are those tiny bumps, sometimes i get headaches and the pain in left testicle. If there are any other factors that i should look for please ask and i will answer. Thank you.

Does anyone else get severely annoyed by their own ass hair? If so, what’s your recommendation for removal?

I’ve tried Veet’s removal cream, and shaving - both are a pain to do monthly. Waxing is expensive, time consuming, and unnecessarily painful.

Am considering laser, but assume it can’t be safe long term - thanks.

Hi
Not sure if I am allowed to ask here. Please delete if not.

I am having sexual issues since last month. Been 3-4 weeks now.
38 years old, not overweight, go to gym 4/5 days a week, regular exercise, never with any medicine, lately using whey protein only.
Last week i found very hard to stay longer, she had keep pressing with her body to keep it hard and session didn’t last long.
I have been always good before, never had an issue.

I used to use hands time to time, I have completely stopped that. I am really stressed and feel worried about it. I am concern if my natural way is gone down and worried if I have depend on med.

And sometime I think, this may just be temporary. Could this be it as well. We have one kid and are planning to another soon.

Please be nice.
Going for blood test tomorrow

okay so ill be completely honest
I have been consuming porn since i was 10
And now im 16 turning 17 this year
I used to jerk off 3-5 times a day sometimes reaching 7 times
It was a full on addiction
Now i can go 1-2 days without jacking off

So here comes the problem
I recently tried to jack off sitting up multiple times
But it takes really long to ejaculate around 8-10 mins
I require more force for it to happen
And it doesnt feel as good as doing it on the bed
Meanwhile when im on the bed it takes me 2-5 mins easy

My concern is when i do engage in sexual activities, i wont be able to perform as well
Do i quit porn? Or stop masturbating at all?
And being 6+ years addicted to porn
What can i do to fix this ejaculation problem

Hi everyone, what are all the checks that men should have regularly at their doctors please? and how regularly should those checks take place?

I've been dealing with redness and flakes mostly under my mustache and chin, but recently it spread to my cheek line only under my beard. I trimmed my beard hoping that would help but it has only exposed the redness. I also have flakes under my eyebrows and scalp sometimes. I have tried the clindamycin phosphate gel that i got a year ago but it seems to not work for my condition. anytime i shower and try to wash my face that seems to only aggravate it more. the flakes are sometimes followed by a clearish ooze after i clean them away, as if its partially scabby. the only time it seems to get better is if i don't shower or wash for a day or more, but that's not a long term option obviously. i believe it might be fungal, if anyone knows of any beard/face/hair wash that has helped with this?

My son aged 12 is worried about the size of his penis. He started puberty, but he's telling me he looked it up online and said he measured his erect size and it's only 2.3 inches. He's worried there's a problem but doesn't want to see a doctor. Should we be worried, should I force him to see a doctor, and what can be done?

When i go on the treadmill, I normally run a 5k, and when im done, my back and right ball hurts. Im worried about my ball. Is this normal? Going to Dr. In 2 hours so I might ask her depending what yall say. Thanks

I put nsfw just in case.

I fucking hate this world. I hate people. I hate how it does not matter what you say or do as a men, you are automatically seen as ''less important'' because you have a peepee. Thats it. Thats just what it comes down too. Women are seen as victims, men as bad. Men as less important.

I'm just so angry that i can lose my mind to be honest. I had one woman after the other in my life screwing me over, society still acting like most women or all are innocent little princesses or something. I can't not talk about it with anyone literally. I only have female coaches and psychologists help me. You can not talk about this with them because (yes this happend) literally all get triggered if you even SOUND as if you might have said something critical about women (even tho you literally said nothing critical).

Literally had a psychologist tell me women have harder lives then men. Then pretending she does not understand why this makes me angry. Gaslighting me and pretending its my trauma parts inside me that seeks validation from her. Are you fucking kidding me? Payed thousands of dollars to therapy to just be told my life as a dude is more easy then hers? She would never accept this if the roles where reversed.

All the fucking lying. Al the fucking attention they get while at the same time pretending they are the victims of society. Literally ALL political attention go's the women problems.. LITERALLY LITERALLY (As in the word literally, i did the research myself) zero... ZEROOOOO attention go's the mens problems?

AREY OU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!?!

Suicide, homelessness, addiction, emotional problems, getting harder punishment for the same crime, dying at jobs. etc etc. Fucking nothing? Women accuse men of rape who did not commit rape? THey dont even give a fuck if its true or not automatically believed his whole life destroyed ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!

Guys.. we should be way more angry then we are. This mental gymnastic shit, this social retarded conditioning, this poison that has spread in society is out of control. Like legit this is the type of shit i think that just breaks down guys like me and others and is part of why suicide numbers are so high among men.

Ah well, hey.. at least if one day i kill myself? I'm just a statistical number in their retarded brains.. fuck me.