u/Daisyflower1314

Quando vc falaram para seus parceiros que você ama ele/ela? Sou uma mulher bem romantica e intensa lara ser sinceramente. E eu to so quase falando sem querer ta na ponta da lingua mas queria muito que ele falasse primeiro 🤭 Nao sei se falo ou espero ele falar, como escolheria o momento certo pra falar? nao namoro faz tempo e nao sei mais como funciona SOS hahahahah

my best friend and I “broke up” and am so hurt.
My now ex best friend, let’s call her Anne (24y female) and I ( 26y Female ) were very close, we met because we’re neighbors. We bonded super quickly and started doing absolutely everything together. (She doesn’t have friends, which should have been a red flag)
At the time we were both single at the time and actively on dating apps. A couple months before the fight she had gone out on 2 dates with a guy, let’s call him Bob, who brought her flowers on the first date. But, she decided she did not want to be with him because she ended up liking someone else more. That was her reasoning, and i didn’t question it, she started dating the other guy.
Couple months like 4 or 5 pass, we’re both single again and I match with Bob on Bumble. I didn’t recognize Bob at first but his first message “pretty sure your bestie rejected me multiple times lol” I then recognized bob, and immediately asked her what her thoughts were on me talking to him. She said it was absolutely fine and went on to texting him saying she fully supported us chatting. I wanted to make sure and got the go ahead. A couple hours pass and she starts telling me his red flags and how he’s creepy with information she had not mentioned before while she was talking to him (mind you we tell each other everything or so i thought) I told her I’d consider them but was confused. The next day, she starts acting off.. i asked whats wrong and she picks a fight out of the blue. She starts all caps yelling at me over text and saying i’m a traitor and saying how could I do this to her? Comparing me talking to Bob to the her going out with an ex that had just broken my heart. Those to me are very different situations.
Anyway I immediately panic and tell her I asked for her go ahead because her friendship is more important than some guy and if i had known she see it this way i would’ve immediately unmatched the guy.
I go on to tell her that I’m sorry, and talk to Bob saying I could go through with talking to him because my friendship is more important and she isn’t actually ok with us talking even though she told us both it was..
He then goes on to text her and tell her she’s a selfish beach for ruining something after treating him terribly and discarding him like trash. Which honestly, she did..
Well. That triggers an angry reaction from Anne toward ME. When my intent was only to save the friendship from being ruined by a stupid guy named Bob.
She said I through her under the bus, used her as excuse to un match him and that i was selfish and jerk because now he was bashing her over text for this.
I told her that my intention was never to harm her, she was my best friend.. For some reason she didn’t buy it and cussed me out.
I feel like I maybe couldve just used another excuse to let Bob go and he didn’t need to know the real reason but i always think honesty is best.
We decided to not be friends anymore and haven’t talked since but pass each other and say awkward hellos through the halls..
I am so mad and upset, and in mourning for a friendship i held so close to my heart.

This is haunting me and I feel like I never got closure and tell her how I really feel about the situation.

I have a message written out clearing things off and telling her my good intentions once more but i don’t want to be friends with her again. Is it worth clearing up ?

My now ex best friend, let’s call her Anne (24y female) and I ( 26y Female ) were very close, we met because we’re neighbors. We bonded super quickly and started doing absolutely everything together. (She doesn’t have friends, which should have been a red flag)
At the time we were both single at the time and actively on dating apps. A couple months before the fight she had gone out on 2 dates with a guy, let’s call him Bob, who brought her flowers on the first date. But, she decided she did not want to be with him because she ended up liking someone else more. That was her reasoning, and i didn’t question it, she started dating the other guy.
Couple months like 4 or 5 pass, we’re both single again and I match with Bob on Bumble. I didn’t recognize Bob at first but his first message “pretty sure your bestie rejected me multiple times lol” I then recognized bob, and immediately asked her what her thoughts were on me talking to him. She said it was absolutely fine and went on to texting him saying she fully supported us chatting. I wanted to make sure and got the go ahead. A couple hours pass and she starts telling me his red flags and how he’s creepy with information she had not mentioned before while she was talking to him (mind you we tell each other everything or so i thought) I told her I’d consider them but was confused. The next day, she starts acting off.. i asked whats wrong and she picks a fight out of the blue. She starts all caps yelling at me over text and saying i’m a traitor and saying how could I do this to her? Comparing me talking to Bob to the her going out with an ex that had just broken my heart. Those to me are very different situations.
Anyway I immediately panic and tell her I asked for her go ahead because her friendship is more important than some guy and if i had known she see it this way i would’ve immediately unmatched the guy.
I go on to tell her that I’m sorry, and talk to Bob saying I could go through with talking to him because my friendship is more important and she isn’t actually ok with us talking even though she told us both it was..
He then goes on to text her and tell her she’s a selfish beach for ruining something after treating him terribly and discarding him like trash. Which honestly, she did..
Well. That triggers an angry reaction from Anne toward ME. When my intent was only to save the friendship from being ruined by a stupid guy named Bob.
She said I through her under the bus, used her as excuse to un match him and that i was selfish and jerk because now he was bashing her over text for this.
I told her that my intention was never to harm her, she was my best friend.. For some reason she didn’t buy it and cussed me out.
I feel like I maybe couldve just used another excuse to let Bob go and he didn’t need to know the real reason but i always think honesty is best.

We decided to not be friends anymore and haven’t talked since but pass each other and say awkward hellos through the halls..

I am so mad and upset, and in mourning for a friendship i held so close to my heart. This is haunting me and I feel like I never got closure and tell her how I really feel about the situation (and trust me, it would not be pretty)

That’s all folks, now i’m dying to know: am I wrong?

My now ex best friend, let’s call her Anne (24y female) and I ( 26y Female ) were very close, we met because we’re neighbors. We bonded super quickly and started doing absolutely everything together. (She doesn’t have friends, which should have been a red flag)
At the time we were both single at the time and actively on dating apps. A couple months before the fight she had gone out on 2 dates with a guy, let’s call him Bob, who brought her flowers on the first date. But, she decided she did not want to be with him because she ended up liking someone else more. That was her reasoning, and i didn’t question it, she started dating the other guy.
Couple months like 4 or 5 pass, we’re both single again and I match with Bob on Bumble. I didn’t recognize Bob at first but his first message “pretty sure your bestie rejected me multiple times lol” I then recognized bob, and immediately asked her what her thoughts were on me talking to him. She said it was absolutely fine and went on to texting him saying she fully supported us chatting. I wanted to make sure and got the go ahead. A couple hours pass and she starts telling me his red flags and how he’s creepy with information she had not mentioned before while she was talking to him (mind you we tell each other everything or so i thought) I told her I’d consider them but was confused. The next day, she starts acting off.. i asked whats wrong and she picks a fight out of the blue. She starts all caps yelling at me over text and saying i’m a traitor and saying how could I do this to her? Comparing me talking to Bob to the her going out with an ex that had just broken my heart. Those to me are very different situations.
Anyway I immediately panic and tell her I asked for her go ahead because her friendship is more important than some guy and if i had known she see it this way i would’ve immediately unmatched the guy.
I go on to tell her that I’m sorry, and talk to Bob saying I could go through with talking to him because my friendship is more important and she isn’t actually ok with us talking even though she told us both it was..
He then goes on to text her and tell her she’s a selfish beach for ruining something after treating him terribly and discarding him like trash. Which honestly, she did..
Well. That triggers an angry reaction from Anne toward ME. When my intent was only to save the friendship from being ruined by a stupid guy named Bob.
She said I through her under the bus, used her as excuse to un match him and that i was selfish and jerk because now he was bashing her over text for this.
I told her that my intention was never to harm her, she was my best friend.. For some reason she didn’t buy it and cussed me out.
I feel like I maybe couldve just used another excuse to let Bob go and he didn’t need to know the real reason but i always think honesty is best.

We decided to not be friends anymore and haven’t talked since but pass each other and say awkward hellos through the halls..

I am so mad and upset, and in mourning for a friendship i held so close to my heart. This is haunting me and I feel like I never got closure and tell her how I really feel about the situation (and trust me, it would not be pretty)

That’s all folks, now i’m dying to know: am I the asshole?