u/DallasDanielle

This is still in the realm of ethical because I'm not lying about how much I make.

I'm a bartender, I take home my money in cash daily. I only report my credit card tips. I make roughly $700 a week, give or take. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I'd say I average around $700 weekly though.

I'm seeking a new place ASAP. I fell into a bad rut due to a bad roommate situation where they left days after rent was due without warning. I wasn't saving anything extra and had recently lost my last job and I'm back on my feet again now but I'm worried it was 'too little, too late' because I'm still behind a portion on rent.

I'd like to get into a new place as soon as possible but they wanted to verify income. I can make a document stating my money because I don't usually deposit my money in the bank but I keep a record in a journal as a kind of...'it makes me feel good seeing myself do better' thing.

Now, they wanted my boss to write a letter or sign a document stating they agree that's my money situation - thing is my boss is very hands off. I've been warned to not ask for anything from them, so...here I am. Trying to get a $980 apartment while making around $2800 a month while being given next to not record of my money from my boss although I know my money is right.

Too unethical to have a friend do it?

My bestie has been a part of my life for the better part of 20 years. She started as my little sister's best friend in kindergarten and just was always around, we're 6 years apart. I'm mid-30's and she's almost 30 now.

A little over year ago, I had just rented a house with my previous roommate. He started dating a girl and just...stopped paying rent so I asked him to move.

Shortly after I asked her to move in. It was perfect. I loved it. We hung out, would watch movies together, occasionally cook. She got involved with a guy I didn't like nor did he like me, he tried to isolate her and she lied to him the entire time about where she lived, when we shopped I had to be quiet so he didn't know we were together, etc...It made me feel really...bad about myself. I told her I felt like a side chick. He was a high and mighty, thinks he's better than everyone, type of person. Married and lied to her about it even though I gave her all the proof. Eventually I stopped hanging out with them, she'd get upset if I invited other friends to come hang out with all of us at pool tournaments, bark at me if I sat in the wrong place. I distanced myself from the situation and started dating someone myself...which...she didn't like him either. It was a problem when he spent the night, or if I wasn't home to hear about her night when she got home. She'd throw little fits about it or go on a depression spike, I'd always take time and listen to her and be there for her. Sometimes it was a lot for me but it wasn't anything I couldn't handle. I didn't mind being there for her.

Relatively recently, in the past maybe 4-5 months, I found a new friend group because I was tired of not playing in pool tournaments or having real friends. These people are like family for me now. We all look out for each other, do things together outside of the bar and tournaments, when something happens we're all there for each other. I fell into a financial rut, someone might front me the money. Someone goes to jail, I bailed them out. Someone goes to the hospital, a few of us go up there and swap shifts so they're not alone. It's healthy and a very working family for me as I don't...really have family like that. I integrated my roomie into this group. She eventually broke it off with the dude who disliked me and started dating something like a big brother to me...which he broke it off due to the age gap after a couple months and here lies the spiral...

2 days after he broke it off, she was sitting by the married man again at a pool tournament. While I was disappointed, I understood. She went back to something familiar. So I just continued my life as I knew and built it up to be. I'd go see my friends, play pool and then go home with someone I've been seeing-not-seeing. Then a few days ago, after days of texting her with zero response, I get hit with a 'I have everyone in my corner but no one is in hers, she's moving' text. I don't particularly get why but it's whatever...I didn't think things had gotten that bad. But wait...Rent was due 8 days ago and she hasn't given me anything. I lost my job a week ago. Oh and we have a $956 water bill. Has she offered to pay anything? No. So I'm sitting here, jobless, next to no money and barely any income, with close to $2600 worth of bills that I need to pay ASAP. I'm doing uber and door dash when I can, although it's not a lot of money. It's better than nothing right now.

2 nights ago I had a full crash out. I went to the bar, played pool with some friends and just got in my head. No drinking, nothing. Just me in my head sipping on soda and trying to play pool. I ended up at my parents house at 4am, my mother was awake and we just sat on the floor talking for a few hours. Apparently I hadn't been around since before Christmas because she gave me all my presents too...which was super nice of her, she gave me like $70 too, which all went to electricity and food.

I just don't know what to do and I feel like I'm frozen by being overwhelmed.