u/DamageFirst2506

so its a long one. we have been talking for more than a year and before september 2025 we were just friends nothing special. after spetember however we started talking more and eventually i told her i like her and she said she likes me too and then we had greatest peaks ever talking all the time being sweet and all. i got super atatched and i fell in love with her tbh. but after februrary something changes she just became more distant quiet and i did not leave i kept fighting we have tough conversation she said she just feels overhwlmed sometimes and need space for herself i said thats fair and yes we kept going and before long we became normal and we talked alot and all we had goodnights goodmorning sweet stuff they never left and it was clear like in my head we were both equally here.
last week something in me made me stalk her for some reason and i discoeverd my biggest nightmare. i found a secret account of her . YES 120+ followers and my both accounts blocked and genuienely cried after seeing that . i ghosted her for a day trying to process shit and finally after a day tolf her what i saw and she was like " i was afraid of being judged" and idk what made me believe her ig im just dumb and i just i made it her fucking choice i said okk i understand add me if u want to or if ur comfortable idk i just wanted things to be normal but now i realised i messed up the moment i said that cuz now she believes ill stay no matter what. been a week and she still has not added me ot brough the account up . andd i disocovered another thing her tik tok where she had something upoaded abt " losing loml,being dry,early nights" and omg now im done and i wanna confornt her so bad but idk why im so attatched i dont have guts to do it ik it sounds dumb guys but i came here in need for help to how to just get over with her im drained an di cant stay anymore so pls i need advice

**TL;DR;** : basically that account is the issue ik sounds dumb but idk how to address it , it makes me feel like im forcing stuff

so its a long one. we have been talking for more than a year and before september 2025 we were just friends nothing special. after spetember however we started talking more and eventually i told her i like her and she said she likes me too and then we had greatest peaks ever talking all the time being sweet and all. i got super atatched and i fell in love with her tbh. but after februrary something changes she just became more distant quiet and i did not leave i kept fighting we have tough conversation she said she just feels overhwlmed sometimes and need space for herself i said thats fair and yes we kept going and before long we became normal and we talked alot and all we had goodnights goodmorning sweet stuff they never left and it was clear like in my head we were both equally here.
last week something in me made me stalk her for some reason and i discoeverd my biggest nightmare. i found a secret account of her . YES 120+ followers and my both accounts blocked and genuienely cried after seeing that . i ghosted her for a day trying to process shit and finally after a day tolf her what i saw and she was like " i was afraid of being judged" and idk what made me believe her ig im just dumb and i just i made it her fucking choice i said okk i understand add me if u want to or if ur comfortable idk i just wanted things to be normal but now i realised i messed up the moment i said that cuz now she believes ill stay no matter what. been a week and she still has not added me ot brough the account up . andd i disocovered another thing her tik tok where she had something upoaded abt " losing loml,being dry,early nights" and omg now im done and i wanna confornt her so bad but idk why im so attatched i dont have guts to do it ik it sounds dumb guys but i came here in need for help to how to just get over with her im drained an di cant stay anymore so pls i need advice

so its a long one. we have been talking for more than a year and before september 2025 we were just friends nothing special. after spetember however we started talking more and eventually i told her i like her and she said she likes me too and then we had greatest peaks ever talking all the time being sweet and all. i got super atatched and i fell in love with her tbh. but after februrary something changes she just became more distant quiet and i did not leave i kept fighting we have tough conversation she said she just feels overhwlmed sometimes and need space for herself i said thats fair and yes we kept going and before long we became normal and we talked alot and all we had goodnights goodmorning sweet stuff they never left and it was clear like in my head we were both equally here.
last week something in me made me stalk her for some reason and i discoeverd my biggest nightmare. i found a secret account of her . YES 120+ followers and my both accounts blocked and genuienely cried after seeing that . i ghosted her for a day trying to process shit and finally after a day tolf her what i saw and she was like " i was afraid of being judged" and idk what made me believe her ig im just dumb and i just i made it her fucking choice i said okk i understand add me if u want to or if ur comfortable idk i just wanted things to be normal but now i realised i messed up the moment i said that cuz now she believes ill stay no matter what. been a week and she still has not added me ot brough the account up . andd i disocovered another thing her tik tok where she had something upoaded abt " losing loml,being dry,early nights" and omg now im done and i wanna confornt her so bad but idk why im so attatched i dont have guts to do it ik it sounds dumb guys but i came here in need for help to how to just get over with her im drained an di cant stay anymore so pls i need advice