u/Dangerous_Silver_387

47F, am I the only one to think their lives is boring as hell ??

Work has never been fulfilling despite having had such a central role in my life - been a lawyer for 20 years, ended up quitting a year ago mostly due to mental health issues which I now think I've always had. I'm now in a total limbo on what to do next and whether I want to get back to work at all. But what's sure is that I'll never end up being at the top the way I thought I would.

Husband of 20 years is the best roommate ever. He's been great at his role for the last 17 years i.e. ever since we had it first child. Compliments ? Demonstrations of love? Intimacy? Forget it all. I'm not even asking for passion. Simple words such as "you're beautiful, darling" would be enough for me to feel fulfilled for the next 4-5 years.

Kids ? 17 and 14 who each just can't wait to get out of the house for college. AND who just argue on every little thing you ask them to do - been this way ever since they learned to talk.

Friends and family are far away because of course we thought living in the countryside would make us happier than being in the big cities we had previously lived in for 15+ years.

Culture, occasions to meet people, take courses ....well for the same reasons as above they're just non-existent here.

I also feel unattractive as hell with all this grey hair, the weight I gained past 44, the aging skin...

I just end up daydreaming about what a cool life could be, but curious if it can still exist at 47. Is it over for good ? Was the fun part only until I got married and now it will be it until the end? I wish I had done more crazy things when I was younger then.

J'habite dans un village réputé pour son marché dominical. Ma maison avec jardin de taille décente se situe à 6 minutes à pied du marché. Le village est calme toute l'année à part quelques fêtes l'été, et s'anime le dimanche autour du marché.

La limite de mon terrain se situe à 30m de la rivière. Entre les deux il y a actuellement un terrain vague accessible aux véhicules de moins de 2m mais surtout aux promeneurs. Quelques voitures se garent sur ce terrain vague le dimanche lorsqu'il n'y a plus de place sur les parkings "officiels". C'est toléré. Cela ne crée pas de désordre particulier à part les bruits de quelques portières qui claquent et des chiens qui aboient par moment, mais globalement étouffés par le bruit de la rivière.

La mairie veut maintenant en faire un parking officiel et je ne sais pas quoi en penser. Je n'y vois pas forcément d'inconvénient car je me dis qu'au moins, cela fera propre. Le terrain est inondable donc il n'y aurait jamais eu de construction type lotissement dans tous les cas.

Beaucoup de personnes de mon entourage font des commentaires du type "mince" ou "ah c'est pas une bonne nouvelle". Je n'imagine pas que cela puisse accroître la fréquentation du marché à un point où je subirais une nuisance et si c'est le cas, encore une fois cela ne serait que le dimanche.

Est-ce que certaines personnes vivent entourées de parkings (j'en ai un aussi en face de la maison, de l'autre côté de la chaussée - aucune nuisance à ce jour) et est-ce que cela crée des désagréments quelconque ? Est-ce que cela peut avoir un impact sur la valeur de ma maison ou de mon terrain ?

I'm a mom of 2 teenagers, 14 and 17. I'm very close to the 14 yo one, we have a very good relationship, he shares a lot, enjoys hugging, we have tons of fun together, go to the cinema, do things... At first I was resistant just going out with him and leaving the eldest at home, but my 17 yo never, ever wants to do anything with me. He's only interested if it's for paying him something like when I come have lunch with him at high school and pay him a fast food meal. Otherwise, 0 interest. He is very uncomfortable with hugging and kissing which I respect, even though it's so hard to resist when I still see his baby face in some of his grown up behaviours.

We used to be so close, he's my first baby and we were the entire world to one another. A few days ago I had to make some place in a room and found his childhood drawings, omg I cried all my tears when trying to triage them and throw some of them to the bin because there are so many. It became so, so hard that I had to stop it, just close the box and put it aside. Every time I think about his drawings I have so much happiness, fun, hear his laughs, his little voice...everything is coming out of the box all at once and it throws so much nostalgia.

I feel almost like I lost a child at 12 yo or something. He is so different now as an almost young adult that he's almost like a stranger who I need to get to know. It's incredibly hard and I wasn't expecting it'd be so tough.

It wasn't perfect when he was little as he was very intense but gosh if I could have just one hour with little him, just once, I would cherish the moment so much. I should have cherished it so much more back then. It's excruciating pain.

This post is only about my feelings because I had to share the hurt I feel - but I know I need to think about the future happy adults my sons will be and not just of myself.