"For the love of gods can we please stop saying "women and children" when talking about the tragedy of death/mass death? It literally just perpetuates male disregardability. Emphasizing children is fine, but why is it worse when women die instead of men?"
Posted this on LWMA and felt it was worth sharing here as well. Found this post on Twitter/X. I know I post a lot about this sort of thing but this comment is right on the money about the problem of the "women and children" rhetoric. The implication that a man/boy dying during a tragic event like a bombing, shooting, terrorist attack, natural disaster, etc. is nothing major and not worth mourning even if that may not be the intent behind it. A male dying during an unfortunate incident like this is someone's son, father, brother, husband, etc. and it's so cruel to imply using this rhetoric that somehow a male's death doesn't matter. It's become worse in recent times how it's become "women and girls," which implies not even boys' lives and safety matters. Which is a whole other level of screwed up. I always felt "women and children/girls" is a classic example of misandry and how it's so widespread and enforced in much of society and institutions. I've seen some people defend it saying it's because women are more vulnerable. Well men are just as vulnerable and the average man isn't a Rambo-esque Action hero who's immune to harm. There's also misogynistic aspects to it too with how it infantalizes women and has them solely reliant on men to protect or rescue them when women are also capable of being soldiers, rescue workers, first responders, etc. and their efforts should be commended as much as the men in these professions.
Worth noting it was a female user who posted this as well, which is great. Always nice to see when both genders stick up for each other and call out bigotry against each other. I flaired this as progress because it always feels like progress when this rhetoric is called out for being blatantly anti-male and also when women call it out, showing they don't take well to men's lives being made out to be disposable and not worth caring about. Regardless of gender or age, everyone has a right to safety and protection.