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My ex partner is FA and aware but I don’t think he is working on it. After a sudden break up, I reached out to him 5 weeks later to see if he was ok. None of it made sense. I wondered if he wanted to discuss what was going on for him at the time because I didn’t actually get any details regarding why things ended apart from he was exhausted and had wanted to make it work but realised that he couldn’t. His response to my outreach -

Hey! That’s a nice message. Poor whale. Not sure I can or would be able to articulate clearly. Given time I could try. Thank you for the open door.

My ex partner was open with me about his fearful avoidant behaviours. He broke up with me very suddenly at the 6 month mark. In the space of about 10 days things went from great to him telling me he was exhausted with external things going on in his life which didn’t make sense. I don’t feel I was given any real explanation and the person who ended it was not the person I recognised. It’s now almost 5 weeks and although I know I may not get any answers, I don’t feel that I ever got to have a voice in that moment. How do you as a fearful avoidant feel if an ex reaches out?

Is anyone out there able to provide a breakdown of a typical phase for an FA after a sudden break up. I get it that often the relationship breaks down because the people involved are just not compatible. I mean a very sudden withdrawal and then breakup out of the blue when things appear to be going really well.

I was in a 6 month relationship with a guy who was open with me about his intimacy issues from the start. He said that he wanted a relationship but had struggled in the past with feelings of losing himself and his independence. We met on an app and I went into it thinking it was just going to be casual but we progressed into a relationship and he was all very much in. We went on holiday together and he talked about introducing me to his two young children. We had just celebrated his 45th birthday together and things seemed to be going so well until after one conversation after which I noticed him start to withdraw. I asked him about how he felt about me. He couldn’t seem to be able to vocalise it but eventually told me that he saw the future of our relationship in terms of years and not months. Following that I felt more than reassured but he started to withdraw and when I asked him later about it, he told me when faced with such questions his mind goes completely blank.

He was away with the kids for the following week and I noticed a shift in our communication. It didn’t feel quite as warm. The following week, he finished with me quite coldly; saying that he didn’t have the capacity to meet my emotional needs. I know he is stressed, he runs his own business and coparents two young kids but this literally felt like it had gone from 100 to 0 in 10 days.

He later messaged me and told me I was an incredibly beautiful person. I didn’t argue with him when he broke up with me, you can’t convince someone who is breaking up with you to stay with you.

It is now 3 weeks later and I would have thought that he may have had some time to realise that how he broke up with me would have come as quite a shock. I don’t know whether to reach out to him because to me, it feels like an incredibly jarring way to break up with someone. I wonder whether he broke up with me for reasons surrounding fear. Or just doesn’t make sense

Any advice would be extremely helpful.

I was in a 6 month relationship with a guy who was open with me about his intimacy issues from the start. He said that he wanted a relationship but had struggled in the past with feelings of losing himself and his independence. We met on an app and I went into it thinking it was just going to be casual but we progressed into a relationship and he was all very much in. We went on holiday together and he talked about introducing me to his two young children. We had just celebrated his 45th birthday together and things seemed to be going so well until after one conversation after which I noticed him start to withdraw. I asked him about how he felt about me. He couldn’t seem to be able to vocalise it but eventually told me that he saw the future of our relationship in terms of years and not months. Following that I felt more than reassured but he started to withdraw and when I asked him later about it, he told me when faced with such questions his mind goes completely blank.

He was away with the kids for the following week and I noticed a shift in our communication. It didn’t feel quite as warm. The following week, he finished with me quite coldly; saying that he didn’t have the capacity to meet my emotional needs. I know he is stressed, he runs his own business and coparents two young kids but this literally felt like it had gone from 100 to 0 in 10 days.

He later messaged me and told me I was an incredibly beautiful person. I didn’t argue with him when he broke up with me, you can’t convince someone who is breaking up with you to stay with you.

It is now 3 weeks later and I would have thought that he may have had some time to realise that how he broke up with me would have come as quite a shock. I don’t know whether to reach out to him because to me, it feels like an incredibly jarring way to break up with someone. I wonder whether he broke up with me for reasons surrounding fear. Or just doesn’t make sense

Any advice would be extremely helpful.

For those experienced readers, a question for you :)

As I am already aware, Lenormand spreads are open to interpretation. I often find that when I share a reading there are many conflicting interpretations. Would you say, that the most accurate interpretation is often the one that the person who is pulling the spread comes to through instinct/practice?