u/DependentBrilliant92

I’ve asked for advice from family but getting a lot of CIO advice 😬 I’d rather be nap trapped for the rest of my life than let him cry his little heart out.

So I thought I’d turn to my favourite sub!

My 4 month old boy (who is in the thick of a regression) will only contact nap during the day. Eyes PING open the second his little bum hits any surface.

He will occasionally fall asleep in the pram, only if he’s absolutely shattered

Is there any point in me even bothering whilst he’s going through it with the regression (fighting every nap aggressively, waking up after 10 mins, rinse repeat)

Please be kind - I am so sensitive and sleep deprived 😂😂

Hey everyone!

So I posted in here when I was around 1 month post partum looking for advice.

Since giving birth I’ve always pumped around 3 times a day. I was informed early on that if I wanted to solely feed my baby breast milk then I would need to pump more as it was important to establish a supply. I also have never done a middle of the night pump

For mental health purposes I decided not to. I decided that I would stick to my 3 pumps a day (I really do not enjoy pumping😅) and that any other milk my baby needed I would be happy to substitute with formula

I’m 16 weeks postpartum now and I’m wondering if my supply would be considered regulated?

I get around 170ml per breast per pump - total around 1,020ml a day. Which happily feeds my baby throughout the day and I give him one bottle of formula before bed.

I do understand and appreciate how lucky I am to have never needed to pump frequently to maintain a supply so I am sorry if this post is tone deaf from me, but now that my baby has gone so long on 90% breastmilk - I’d like to keep it up. I was wondering what the likelihood is that this is just me set now?

Thank you guys!

There is no real point to this message so feel free to skip it altogether. I’m no poet or author but I wanted to share my feelings.

My baby is 3 months old today and I just really appreciated these posts when I was pregnant so I thought I’d do my own.

I found pregnancy so hard. I hated every single minute of it other than people letting me cross the road all the time and holding doors for me. I had awful PGP, couldn’t turn in bed, constant sickness, bad moods, awful skin, 3 stone weight gain despite barely eating anything. Everything that could be rubbish felt rubbish.

I had such a hard time with anxiety. I had a previous loss and it made being pregnant so scary. I had over 20 private ultrasounds throughout (alongside NHS ones), a visit to triage pretty much every week for reduced movements because I couldn’t stop worrying (on reflection, they weren’t true RFM, I was just seeing shadows). Constantly measuring my bump against other people’s, worrying about how I was going to give birth, booking a c section due to anxiety surrounding giving birth and then cancelling it the day of (sorry, NHS)

And today I’ve been sitting back, whilst holding my 3 month old little boy and my God it just feels like the most surreal journey that I went on. There were so many unknowns, so many alone moments, so much fear.

And I know how cliche this is going to sound… but I just wanted you to know that it will be ok. Genuinely.

I spent so much time worrying and I really wish that I hadn’t. You can’t control everything about being pregnant, whether it’s how the baby arrives, your symptoms, whatever - it can’t be controlled but I’m here now holding him and as much as becoming a mother is scary, it is just THE best thing in the entire world. I was so scared about my life changing, the dynamic of my relationship changing, not sleeping, my body after. I was just so so scared but it was ALL OKAY!!!!

Everything can feel tough sometimes but the feeling you get when you have your little baby in your arms - it’s true what they say, there’s nothing in the world that even comes close to that feeling. There are tough moments but I promise you that it won’t be anywhere near as bad as what you’re worrying it will be like in your mind.

Labour was no where near as bad as I thought. Giving birth wasn’t as bad as I thought. Leaving the hospital, coming home, being there with him in the nights, all of it. None of it was as bad as I thought it was going to be.

Sorry for a useless post, but I just really hope someone reads this and believes me when I say that the fears and worries you have in your mind. Try and allow yourself a moment of respite and believe that it will be ok because I really wish I had allowed myself to feel those moments more.

My baby drinks expressed breast milk for every feed other than the night feed where he has a bottle of formula.

He roughly takes anywhere from 1000ml - 1250ml by the end of the day.

He eats every 2-2.5 hours except at night where he’s happy to go 5/6 hours

His bottles are around 150-180ml, anything less than that and he screams as he’s still hungry.

Hes very very rarely sick after feeds. A tiny bit of spit up every now and again but never a lot.

Generally happy temperament and isn’t gassy. Always burps a lot after a feed and farts like a bloke.

Was born at 9 pound 3. At 8 weeks he weighed 13 pound 3. Which puts him around the 91st percentile

Words of wisdom welcome!!

I don’t really do much at the moment. My baby is 9 weeks old

We go for walks with the dog, food shopping etc but I haven’t been to any classes or anything.

I feel like every mum from my antenatal and other mums I bump into are all attending Everyman cinema baby club, Pilates with their babies, baby massage classes.

1. I can’t really afford these things. They’re pretty expensive
2. even if I was flush for cash, I’m not sure I’d want to

I wasn’t the most social before having a baby. I find it hard to talk to new people as I suffer with social angst quite badly.

I just feel like I’m not doing enough for my baby.

I’ve bought loads of cool sensory stuff and I sort of do my own sensory classes at home with him. But that’s all.

Just kinda want to hear that I’m not the only mum who doesn’t do all these extravagant things