u/Devouruse

Earlier this year I met someone on a dating app and we talked consistently for around 3 months. Before meeting me, she had recently come out of a serious relationship about 3-4 months earlier. She was dumped, and I think that influenced a lot of the dynamic between us. I had also come out of a situation 5 months prior so I wanted to move slow.

We live 3-4 hours apart, but despite that we became emotionally close very quickly; texting constantly, FaceTiming, falling asleep on the phone together, and having conversations about relationships, attraction, kids, and the future. There was genuine warmth, chemistry, and emotional intimacy between us, but we were also both guarded in different ways. She repeatedly asked for my social media and wanted more access into my life, while I stayed extremely private and emotionally cautious. Early on she also made it clear she’s seeing other people. I was as well since we met on a dating app, but I was seeing other girls casually. Emotionally I became more invested in her after she reassured me she would consider long distance for me even though she normally would not.

Eventually I traveled to meet her earlier than originally planned, which intensified everything emotionally. She came wearing my favorite color, drove me around, played my favorite music. When we met in person she was visibly nervous and I was too. There was attraction and comfort between us, but the date also had awkward moments because of our anxiety and my guardedness. The biggest issue during the date involved my phone. I instinctively moved it away at one point to text someone, which to me was just part of my general privacy habits. But later after getting back home from the date when we talked she called me “sneaky” and said I was tilting my phone a certain way so she wouldn’t see when I was texting.

She eventually ended things with me a couple days later and I was caught off guard. I accepted it but later felt that if had communicated better perhaps she’d understand me. So reached back out but then she reveals that after things ended with us she began seeing someone else.

Even though it hurt, I don’t regret it because it helped me learn that I need to state my concerns earlier on. I’ve moved on from this but I keep feeling like based on her what I know about her, she may reach back out one day.

Ive accepted that’s she’s moved on and have started to move on but my question is, if she ever does reach out should I give it another shot?

I was talking to a girl I met on Hinge long distance and we talked for a few months before meeting once. I truly liked her and growing trust, but things felt a bit uncertain—she wanted more openness from me (like photos/socials), but I was being cautious because I don’t usually share that early when I meet someone online. She also mentioned she was dating other people, and I was just moving more slowly because of the distance and wanting to be careful. After we met, she said I seemed “sneaky” because of how I was holding my phone . Days later, she tells me doesn’t want to continue exploring, so she ended things this past Friday. I respected it and we left it there. I’ve been thinking about it a lot but also moving forward.

Do you think it’s even worth me reaching out later or should I just leave it forever? She met a lot of things I was looking for in a woman but I had some things I was still observing at my own pace as far as her ability to communicate or going cold when she didn’t like something.

I was talking to a girl I met on Hinge long distance and we talked for a few months before meeting once. Things felt a bit uncertain—she wanted more openness from me (like photos/socials), but I was being cautious because I don’t usually share that early when I meet someone online. She also mentioned she was dating other people, and I was just moving more slowly because of the distance and wanting to be careful. After we met, she said I seemed “sneaky” because of how I was holding my phone . Days later, she tells me doesn’t want to continue exploring, so she ended things this past Friday. I respected it and we left it there. I’ve been thinking about it a lot but also moving forward.

Do you think it’s even worth me reaching out later or should I just leave it forever? She met a lot of things I was looking for in a woman but I had some things I was still observing at my own pace.

Will I be able to still see my exes focus status in our message thread if she removed me as a contact ?

I thought focus status is shared across contacts