u/DifferentSugar3012

I'm ruining my mental health and it's my fault...

I go to therapy every week and I’m trying to work on myself, but honestly I still feel miserable most of the time. The biggest thing eating at me is loneliness. I genuinely feel like nobody wants to be my friend or even really be around me unless they have to. Before anyone says it, yeah, I know I probably sound negative and bitter. Maybe I am. But I also can’t remember the last time something genuinely positive happened in my life. It feels like I wake up, go to work, come home exhausted, distract myself online, sleep, repeat.

I dropped out of college a while ago and now I’m working a dead end job where I’m barely managing to pay bills. I look at other people my age building careers, relationships, social lives, memories, and meanwhile I feel completely stuck. Like I missed some important developmental stage everyone else figured out. I don’t even think I’m especially talented at anything either. I’m mediocre socially, mediocre professionally, mediocre at hobbies. I feel forgettable. I know comparing myself to everyone else is unhealthy, but it’s hard not to when your own life feels empty.

Therapy helps temporarily because at least someone is listening to me for an hour, but afterward I just go back to real life and nothing changes. I still feel alone. I guess I’m posting because I don’t know what I’m supposed to do anymore. Has anyone actually managed to turn their life around after feeling like this for years?

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u/DifferentSugar3012 — 2 days ago

Could we realistically reduce gambling by using similar strategies when we reduced smoking rates among Australian adults?

According to Quit and the Australian Bureau of Statistics, Australia managed to massively reduce smoking rates over the past couple of decades through a mix of heavy taxes, aggressive public health campaigns, restrictions on advertising, social stigma, and making cigarettes less convenient and socially acceptable overall.

Unlike smoking, however, the health and social consequences of gambling do not appear to receive the same level of public discussion despite growing evidence of harm. Gambling Help Online states that "approximately 40% of people experiencing gambling problems also suffer from depression or anxiety," while people with "gambling-related issues are also at increased risk of self-harm and suicidal ideation". In addition, the Australian Institute of Family Studies reported that "Australians lose more money to gambling per capita than any other country, averaging roughly $1,300 per adult annually, with over one-third of Australian adults gambling in a typical month as of 2018."

Given the concerning information above, I'm wondering whether a similar approach realistically work for gambling? For example, imposing much heavier taxes on gambling losses, running hard-hitting education campaigns aimed at younger people before gambling habits form, heavily restricting gambling advertising, and making it far harder for major businesses like Woolworths and Coles linked venues to profit from pokies and gambling machines.

Unfortunately, vaping has exploded among younger Australians, especially among people aged 18–24, which makes me wonder whether policymakers will repeat old mistakes in a different form like creating a "vaping problem" equivalent for gambling. With smoking, traditional cigarettes declined but vaping surged among young people anyway. If Australia cracked down hard on pokies and betting apps, would people just move toward offshore crypto casinos, illegal gambling, or some newer online form that becomes even harder to regulate? Could the same thing happen where the original problem decreases, but a replacement addiction rapidly grows among younger Australians?

Ultimately, I am interested in whether Australia’s anti-smoking success was driven primarily by policy itself, or by the broader cultural shift that made smoking socially undesirable over time. Could gambling realistically undergo that same cultural transformation in Australia?

Sources:

https://www.quit.org.au/en/fact-sheets/smoking-and-vaping-rates

https://www.abs.gov.au/media-centre/media-releases/proportion-smokers-halves-over-last-twenty-years

https://www.gamblinghelponline.org.au/support-yourself-or-others/understanding-gambling/gambling-and-mental-health-issues?language_content_entity=en

https://aifs.gov.au/resources/short-articles/understanding-gambling-harm-and-ways-identify-those-risk

u/DifferentSugar3012 — 3 days ago
▲ 75 r/AIO

AIO for telling my GF she has no right to dictate what I want to do with my life...

I (26M) have been working a few years now and my job is offering to pay me to get an MBA. I am honestly hyped about it because I love school and I have always wanted to go back. It feels like a solid opportunity and something that would be great for my career and for me personally.

My GF (27F) of 6 months is not on board at all. She keeps saying it will be too stressful and too time consuming for me and that I should just be content where I am. The thing is, I know myself. I handle stress fine and I actually enjoy being busy and learning. This is something I genuinely want.

I finally told her I was not asking for her advice on this and that she does not get to decide what I do with my life. She got pretty upset and said I was being dismissive. I think I'm justified because I've wanted to do this before I even knew her but AIO?

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u/DifferentSugar3012 — 5 days ago