u/DirectAward1727

My (32f) boyfriend (32m) has a son who is 3. I don’t have any children. We’ve been together for about a year.

I typically don’t date men with children but I actually really like him and he’s amazing so I decided to give it a shot. Just a little background, I haven’t met his child’s mom even though I’ve expressed to him that I want to because I’m around his son. He never coordinated the meeting and said it’s none of her business who she dates.

Fast forward to about a week ago, I saw a message where she asked him to have another baby with him. I told him that I think it’s extremely disrespectful because she knows he’s in a relationship, and she’s in one herself. I told him that I’ll never like her at this point due to the disrespect nor do I want to meet her. AITAH?

Edit: She knows about me. In her message she acknowledged the fact that she knows he’s in a relationship. Plus she likes the photos that he post of my on his Instagram page.

I (f32) have been dating my boyfriend (m32), who has a 3 year old daughter, for almost a year now. I don’t have any children.

I’m not trying to rush anything at all and I’ve been letting him take the lead with certain conversations. Every now and again he’ll comment on how he thinks I’m his wife and he wants to live together. Initially I was excited about the topic but then realized he sort of bread crumbs me with it. For example, I posted an Instagram reel of an apartment townhouse I was looking at and he commented “can’t wait to move in”. Then when the conversation gets serious he always says he doesn’t want his daughter to live with a “second mom” so he doesn’t know if we will be able to live together. Keep in mind he’s the one who initiates the conversation, then when I speak further on it he backtracks!!

The thing that’s annoying me is the breadcrumbing about us living together. But my main issue is his comments on how he doesn’t want his daughter to view me as a second mom. I’ve assured him I would NEVER even try to replace her mom!!

The comments are really starting to rub me the wrong way and I’m trying to see if I’m overreacting by considering breaking up with him and AITAH for calling him weird? I just don’t see how I fit into the family dynamic to be honest and I think he’s being very weird about it at this point.

I (f32) have been dating my boyfriend (m32), who has a 3 year old daughter, for almost a year now. I don’t have any children.

I’m not trying to rush anything at all and I’ve been letting him take the lead with certain conversations. Every now and again he’ll comment on how he thinks I’m his wife and he wants to live together. Initially I was excited about the topic but then realized he sort of bread crumbs me with it. For example, I posted an Instagram reel of an apartment townhouse I was looking at and he commented “can’t wait to move in”. Then when the conversation gets serious he always says he doesn’t want his daughter to live with a “second mom” so he doesn’t know if we will be able to live together. Keep in mind he’s the one who initiates the conversation, then when I speak further on it he backtracks!!

The thing that’s annoying me is the breadcrumbing about us living together. But my main issue is his comments on how he doesn’t want his daughter to view me as a second mom. I’ve assured him I would NEVER even try to replace her mom!!

The comments are really starting to rub me the wrong way and I’m trying to see if I’m overreacting by considering breaking up with him? I just don’t see how I fit into the family dynamic to be honest and I think he’s being very weird about it at this point.

TLDR: My boyfriend consistently says he has issues surrounding his daughter seeing me as a second mom and it’s making me uncomfortable.

I (f32) have been dating my boyfriend (m32), who has a 3 year old daughter, for almost a year now. I don’t have any children.

I’m not trying to rush anything at all and I’ve been letting him take the lead with certain conversations. Every now and again he’ll comment on how he thinks I’m his wife and he wants to live together. Initially I was excited about the topic but then realized he sort of bread crumbs me with it. For example, I posted an Instagram reel of an apartment townhouse I was looking at and he commented “can’t wait to move in”. Then when the conversation gets serious he always says he doesn’t want his daughter to live with a “second mom” so he doesn’t know if we will be able to live together. Keep in mind he’s the one who initiates the conversation, then when I speak further on it he backtracks!!

The thing that’s annoying me is the breadcrumbing about us living together. But my main issue is his comments on how he doesn’t want his daughter to view me as a second mom. I’ve assured him I would NEVER even try to replace her mom!!

The comments are really starting to rub me the wrong way and I’m trying to see if I’m overreacting by considering breaking up with him? I just don’t see how I fit into the family dynamic to be honest and I think he’s being very weird about it at this point.