u/DisasterOk5914

Sorry for the long post.

My partner was the perfect boyfriend, he was so caring and gentle and understanding. He would do so much for me, like run the bath for me, cook fancy meals, rub my feet. Take me on cute dates, love on me in all the right ways.

We could talk about anything and I felt like I could be so vulnerable with him.

He is my first serious relationship and we were so deeply in love.

So much so that we got married, our wedding day was the best day of my entire life, my life was like a fairytale.

But then we got pregnant and everything changed.

When I was 8 months pregnant I had a pretty bad panic attack about how much our lives were about to change and how much I had changed.

My husband said to me "you don't have to worry this much because nothing is going to change, our lives will be the same but with a baby".

He was very much in denial with what was about to happen.

He has always wanted to be a dad because his dad was never in his life. Me on the other hand never wanted to be a mum but decided to do it anyway because I wanted to give my very loving partner at the time his dream of a family.

I should have been selfish.

Now we have a 3 month old and all the things he used to do are gone. How much our relationship has changed and how he is acting is what is depressing me not the baby.

I feel like I can't communicate with him anymore, he has started to manipulate and gaslight me. He makes me feel so guilty for the smallest of things and makes everything about him.

He says he knows what I'm going through so I don't have to remind him that I have hormones and that I am a completely different person.

But he will never know what I'm going through because he is a man.

I have gone through the biggest change a woman can go through in their life.

Nothing feels the same anymore and I have no idea who I am anymore.

I will say having my baby is the best thing to ever happen to me, my baby makes me more happy and loved than I thought was possible. I'm so proud to be my baby's mum. I wouldn't change that at all.

I just really hope that things will get better between us and our relationship will become as good as it once was. I miss the man he used to be.

Sorry for the long post.

My partner was the perfect boyfriend, he was so caring and gentle and understanding. He would do so much for me, like run the bath for me, cook fancy meals, rub my feet. Take me on cute dates, love on me in all the right ways.

We could talk about anything and I felt like I could be so vulnerable with him.

He is my first serious relationship and we were so deeply in love.

So much so that we got married, our wedding day was the best day of my entire life, my life was like a fairytale.

But then we got pregnant and everything changed.

When I was 8 months pregnant I had a pretty bad panic attack about how much our lives were about to change and how much I had changed.

My husband said to me "you don't have to worry this much because nothing is going to change, our lives will be the same but with a baby".

He was very much in denial with what was about to happen.

He has always wanted to be a dad because his dad was never in his life. Me on the other hand never wanted to be a mum but decided to do it anyway because I wanted to give my very loving partner at the time his dream of a family.

I should have been selfish.

Now we have a 3 month old and all the things he used to do are gone. How much our relationship has changed and how he is acting is what is depressing me not the baby.

I feel like I can't communicate with him anymore, he has started to manipulate and gaslight me. He makes me feel so guilty for the smallest of things and makes everything about him.

He says he knows what I'm going through so I don't have to remind him that I have hormones and that I am a completely different person.

But he will never know what I'm going through because he is a man.

I have gone through the biggest change a woman can go through in their life.

Nothing feels the same anymore and I have no idea who I am anymore.

I will say having my baby is the best thing to ever happen to me, my baby makes me more happy and loved than I thought was possible. I'm so proud to be my baby's mum. I wouldn't change that at all.

I just really hope that things will get better between us and our relationship will become as good as it once was. I miss the man he used to be.

My 2 and a half month old is mostly breastfed with the occasional bottle at night by my husband and she has just started teething and finds comfort gumming/biting my nipples when she feeds.

It's not too painful but I'm sure as her teeth come in it will.

I have pretty sensitive nipples and have worked really hard to get her to breastfeed well, so I don't really want to stop until after 6 months.

How did you mums deal with teething?

We have just bought her a cold teething toy.

My newborn is 2 months old and my husband's side of the family doesn't really respect me. I know they love me but they don't ask if I'm okay with what they do with my baby.

When my mother-in-law comes over she will wake up my baby to hold her, she jiggles her, is really loud and kisses her on the face and just passes my baby around to whoever is visiting with her.

She doesn't ask me if any of it is okay with me. I know I should talk to my mother in-law but she is the kinda person that will take it personally and get offended and might even cry.

It's her first grandchild but it doesn't feel great when I'm forgotten and all the focus is on my baby.

I didn't go through 9 months of pregnancy, push a baby out of me and deal with postpartum just to have my baby passed around to whoever whenever.

It would just be nice if they asked me if it's okay first and yeah I would like her to ask everytime she comes over. Just cause I said it's okay one time doesn't mean it's okay everytime.

Does anyone else feel like this?