u/Disastrous_Ant3479

I am on immunosuppressant medication right… this girl I’m seeing I know she’s clean std wise and whatever. Without being TMI I was just curious as to whether it’s safe to perform oral on both front and back. Like after they’ve showered of course.

I’ve been fine symptom wise recently, been on infliximab for 7 months and today especially have felt no pain or bloating and have eaten fine. Have had no stress recently but just now I went to the toilet and there was a fair bit of blood. Why is this happening? Because tomorrow I can guarantee I’ll be completely fine and have no blood.

Do I need to try a different medication? They are doubling my dose… shall I ask for steroids again? Or see what happens over next few days

Little back story… I always struggled to gain weight throughout my life once I tried to. From age 17 ish. I ate more than everyone in my house and pretty much everyone I knew and nothing would happen. Tried dirty bulking, healthy bulking, high calorie smoothies, weight gain protein powder. Everything.

2 years ago I got diagnosed with IBD. Due to my diagnosis, I had been silently struggling with malabsorption probably since 17 and likely years before then too.

After a long 2 years I have finally been on a medication that seems to work for me and as a result I must have cured my malabsorption somewhat. Probably not fully cured and healed it but it’s better than it has been. I have figured out a lot of foods I can and can’t have which has made gaining weight that extra bit more challenging.

However, in the last 2 months, with the help of prescribed calorie drinks, I have managed to put nearly 7kg on and I’ve gone from 53kg to 59kg and a few lbs.

I’m not sure how good 7kg in 2 months is for your average underweight person with no disease but 7kg sounds incredible to me. I’m really happy! I hope to get to 70kg by the end of the year if possible. That would be insane

I think it’s crazy how we have just gone to strangers now. Breakup happened and Instantly that was it, never knew eachother again.

It’s crazy because all she did was compliment me during the breakup, say she couldn’t imagine a life without me and would like to stay friends, said I was a perfect boyfriend who did nothing wrong. It’s a small thing but she said she wouldn’t delete our photos on Instagram and apps alike because it’s part of her life, memories etc. she felt guilty getting rid of me because how good I was to her.

And after all it seems like a huge lie. Said it all just to make herself feel better probably. She hasn’t bothered staying friends or reaching out after all the time that has passed. She has removed certain pictures of just us. I don’t think there was ever any truths told really.

Who knows why she really dumped me in the end. Who knows if she really ever did feel guilty. After all it seems like she really didn’t give a fuck about me and how I was feeling. When she broke up with me the last thing I said to her was “I don’t expect you to say it back but I love you” because I wanted to say it one last time. As a matter of fact, she said it back. Again, another lie. Why did she bother?

It’s all to a point where it makes me think she hates me now when I really haven’t done anything to warrant that. I still want to talk to her parents about how they’re doing and how I’m doing because we were really close. Nothing to do with my ex, just me wanting to keep 2 great friends that I made.

Just the feeling that I’m hated by her or the feeling that she really doesn’t want to keep me in her life at all after everything she said makes me feel like a nuisance or a fly that won’t go away by messaging her parents. My goal is not to talk to her parents in a way to stay in her life, I really am not interested in that.

I’ve been told my infliximab is working at sub-therapeutic levels… no big deal they’re going to up my dose. However as soon as I got off my steroids (budesonide) which are supposedly weaker and less side effects that prednisone I have been feeling awful gut wise.

I don’t know whether it’s just in my head because I don’t have that safety blanket or what. Or if my infliximab still isn’t working. I just had my second double dose 3 days ago so I suppose there’s a chance they still haven’t properly kicked in yet?

No idea what to do whether I ask to go back on budesonide for the time being or just try ride it out for a few days and just see whether I’m having a bad few days

24m 57.3kg been suffering with malabsorption due to IBD which seems to have healed slightly with meds. Went from 53kg to 57.3kg in a month and a half! Aiming for 65-70kg as a reasonable goal within the next year. Anything on top it a bonus.

Anyway to get to my question… Anybody have a recommendations for reasonably priced vegan/dairy free whey mass gainer powders. Either flavoured or flavourless I’m not fussed.

Need to be able to get them in the UK or shipped to the UK

TIA :)

EDIT: ignore Whey I’m on little sleep I just realised what I said was stupid haha just a vegan mass gainer please

Anybody know of a good whey protein mass gainer that’s vegan? Reasonably priced, can be flavourless or flavoured I don’t mind. Accessible in the UK or available to order to UK preferably please

TIA :)

24m got out of a 5 year relationship and ready to date again… my question is how often do people get matches? For men I feel it’s incredibly difficult to get matches unless I suppose you look like a Greek god.

I think I’m an averagely good looking guy but I seem to get no matches on anything a week in. I haven’t set my standards high. I’ve been swiping girls I think I’m more than capable of matching with but clearly I’m not? Or are their standards too high?

Confused to say the least. Never had dating apps before so no idea how they work

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not worried about this just curious. I think it may also be good to get some opinions on this virus that’s been talked about the last couple of days.

Does anyone actually believe this could be the next covid and put us into lockdown? Being immunosuppressed I’m interested into what people think

So after being dumped from a 5 year relationship from ages 19-24 I obviously changed a lot appearance wise in those years and never really knew once I got dumped how attractive I was or not because I’d never speak to any girls except the one I was dating.

As it turns out, I must be more attractive than I thought because I’ve already had a couple of girls after me without me really even trying anything. Calling me pretty and handsome which are cool compliments in my opinion haha.

Just felt like sharing because my self esteem was really low after the breakup and by the looks of it, it was low for no reason

What is the best travel insurance cost and effectiveness wise for someone from the UK? I plan to travel soon and also next year I plan to hopefully go inter railing

I think I’ve nearly made it, I think I can move on with my life. I have slowly reintroduced things that reminded me of her, one at a time and it’s working. I don’t really think of her anymore.

It’s possible everyone :) I was such a wreck at first and really found it hard to see a life without the person I thought was my forever. I would’ve done anything for her and did do everything for her. But I’m getting really close to ending this chapter of my life and getting on with the rest of it.

I think I read somewhere before that it’s possible to get discount on water bills due to us obviously using the toilet more than the average person. Is that true? If so how do I go about it

TIA