u/Disastrous_Laughter

I don't know why i am posting this but I just wants to know the experience of those and just wants to know that I can survive this. Please just tell me that i can survive this. I left my house on Monday just cause my father didn't approved of me teaching my younger brothers. I finally snapped. And then on my way to work i made the decision. And now I am here. In an unknown city, in an airbnb living literally living only for the past 4 days. I am trying to feel like my therapist said but my body is shutting down now. I don't think I can do it anymore. I am just tired of it now.

I left my house today. Although i was planning it for 2 years but i never expected it to be happened this way. After a fight and leaving in tears. In just 3 days my life is went completely upside down. I jeopardise my engagement, lost my best friend and had to move out of the house too. And it is starting to feel too real now. Now I am real afraid of what's gonna happen next. I am really afraid. I know these are just emotions but emotions are real. And when you are sitting all alone in an unknown place wondering what went wrong and you just couldn't pin point the error mark and even if you did find out what went wrong, there's nothing good coming out of it. That’s me. I know what went wrong. And i am sitting here at 2 am in an unknown city, Capital Of Pakistan in a rented Airbnb just regretting his mistakes due to which in just 3 days my life becomes completely opposite.

Please tell me if I am right or not for asking that?

I am recently engaged in the first week after Ramadan. I met with my wife in the last week of Ramadan. During the meetup I was pretty worked up and not able to think of anything I want to say to her. I was just very nervous. But still I was able to answer her questions and calmed her down, as she was very nervous too. (But the calm part is what my sister told me). I don't know that for sure. But I think I did a good job answering her questions. However, I did a very bad job asking her mine.

Now, after a recent trip, I thought of many things she should know about me. Like whether I want kids, or that I'm not a perfect Muslim, things like that. We did discuss kids during the meetup but it was just normal: she said she wants kids, I said yes I also want kids. I didn't clarify that I don't want kids immediately after marriage. I don't want a dead bedroom. I want to enjoy spending time with my wife and build a good understanding before we have kids.

So I asked my sister to arrange a call or, if she's not agreed to a call, just get her email so I can send her my note. But what I got is she doesn't want to be in contact with me directly because it's forbidden. Her logic is there's no such thing as engagement in Islam, so no direct contact. Fair enough. But at least understand what I'm asking. I'm not asking her for a date, I'm not asking her to meetup, I'm not asking her to send me pics, I'm not asking her to get physical before marriage. I'm respecting her POV. I have no intention of doing any of that before marriage. All I'm asking is just one simple call to clarify these things so we'd be on the same page and she doesn't have unrealistic expectations about me. Instead, I got "You should ask what you want in the meetup, now there's no way of doing that. Islam prohibits this." Which is wrong too because I just asked a scholar and he said that if it's on a call it's fine. If it's a meetup then there should be a wali present. Isn't this religious extremism? I respect her and have no intention of pushing her. I will write a letter and give it to my sister to deliver to her. But was I right or wrong for asking that? I'm furious. I'm feeling like a creep or a predator, or someone who just forces himself on his fiancée. Did I do that? Please tell me. I had a fight last night with my best friend about this too. I said some pretty bad and hurtful things to her in anger because she was taking her side too much. I think our friendship is dead. I'm already broken and furious. Like why? I respect her. But why did she do this? I don't want to marry an extremist. My father is an extremist and I don't want another one in my life.

TLDR: Got engaged, fiancée refuses direct contact (calls/emails) before marriage on religious grounds even though OP just wants to discuss important life topics. OP consulted a scholar who said calls are fine. Frustrated and feeling like a creep for asking. Also lost a friendship over it. Wondering if he was wrong.

Context: Client had blank VAT dropdown on Vendor Bills for one of their subsidiary. Root cause was three inactive LR Tax Control Accounts. We activated them via a Suitelet using record.load on taxacct record type, setting isinactive = false and saving with ignoreMandatoryFields: true.

Problem: After running the script, all three LR tax codes were modified without our intent:

• UNDEF-[SUB NAME] → renamed to UNDEF-[SUB NAME] (Review)
• Z-[SUB NAME] → renamed to [SUB NAME]-NOTAX
• EX-[SUB NAME] → renamed to OLD EX-[SUB NAME] and inactivated

We never touched salestaxitem records in our script. There are no System Notes on Tax Codes so we can't audit what changed.

Questions:

1. Did activating Tax Control Accounts via taxacct record type trigger some NetSuite automation that modified the linked tax codes?
2. How do we safely revert the tax code names and reactivate EX-[SUB NAME] without causing further damage?

I am a developer and I have no idea what to do now. I am stuck.