u/DocEss

Met my wife when I was 22. A pair of rings, four kids, and 24 years later, I overhear our 17 year old say "Dad might not be the best in the world, but he doesn't deserve to be cheated on." (She later informed me that she really didn't love me for most of our entire relationship, she just thought she did.) (It's her *married* boss at work.)

She threw me out almost immediately, and had a lawyer calling me within days. I have my car, and a motel room for a month or so and I am struggling to get back into an apartment. Even if I am able to put myself back into an apartment, I am 46 years old. I had a very long career with Google, I gave it up so that we could move somewhere better to raise our kids. I stayed home with the kids for quite a while, did gig work and other things in order to help raise the kids because it seemed the most important thing to do.

So now I basically don't have jack or shit to offer another human being, and won't likely have anything to offer someone ever. I'm not trying to jump into something right now, but just looking at the reality of the situation, I am somebody who can't stand being alone and really doesn't do well without the support of a partner, facing a reality where I probably won't ever have one again and I don't know how to get over that. I'm not one that likes to be super free with my emotions, but the concept is actually kind of terrifying.

Any advice?

Edit: I should also point out that within about 36 to 48 hours of me finding out about the affair, I ended up contracting double pneumonia. I also experienced kidney failure, and a handful of other severe and life threatening medical emergencies all at the same time and spent 22 days in the ICU. so she didn't exactly throw me out when I found out she was cheating, she threw me out while I was intubated in the hospital. no, she did not visit.

Like the title says, I found out she was cheating. I then (unrelated) got double pneumonia and kidney failure, spent 22 days in the ICU. I got out to find she was refusing to let me in the house, changed the locks, and forced me into homelessness. I have my car, and one change of clothing. All my belongings are boxed and in the garage of the house.

I drove 800 miles to stay briefly with a relative until I was able to return to work. I then had to come back 800 miles. However, I don't get paid until the 21st.

There is a garbage motel in a garbage area of town that is $395/week + tax, I'm trying to raise enough to cover that for a week so I have somewhere to sleep and shower. I am otherwise sleeping in the parking lots of rest stops and Cracker Barrel. I get free coffee at work so I can probably count that as food until I get paid. I otherwise have not eaten in a week.

She originally offered to pay for the deposit on an apartment (500) but is now refusing outright, so it's parking lots or the motel if I can save enough.

Literally anything is better than nothing at this point. I just desperately need to come up with enough to have a bed until I get paid.

In a non-stop panic attack. Panting like a dog at all times, anything would help.

Zanesville, OH 43701 U.S.

I can post like cash app or whatever details in a private message or whatever is necessary, but I am just in a dead absolute rabbit panic and have no idea what I'm going to do.

My entire life ended in a flash. I'm honestly considering suicide.

Let me start out by saying, we still live together, and she says she has not told any of her friends. However, she doesn't wear her ring to work, and swears she's not having an affair with a coworker. That said, I can't make that make sense. If you haven't told any of your friends that you asked your spouse for a divorce, why did you stop wearing the ring at work? For the record, most of her co-workers know me, because I used to work there.

My wife is also a person that does not like to invite judgment based on appearance.

Now, to get to the bulk, I'm not going to lie, I spent a pretty big portion of our marriage being kind of awful. I'm insecure, a bit autistic, paranoid, and every single woman I've ever been with in my entire life has cheated. I am, at best, a very hard person to be with. However, I love my wife more than life itself. I honestly don't know where I end and she begins, and that's the way I like it.

One of my biggest problems in this relationship has always been the huge gulf between how deeply I feel for her, and my ability to convey it outwardly in ways that matter.

I have never been physically violent, I have never hit her, I have never cheated on her, let me just put that right out there. There is not a woman alive that could make me cheat on her, my devotion to her is such that if we ended up divorced, that would be it for me, I would just be single forever.

I have been trying to correct every single complaint she has ever had about me, and I think I have been frankly doing really well over the last month. She doesn't acknowledge any of it, she doesn't speak to me, when I try to talk to her she tells me to leave her alone.

I am somewhat cut adrift, because again, she won't talk to me.

Our relationship has survived a lot of things that would have destroyed other ones, and I am really deeply struggling with the thought that we should have survived all of that only to die here.

I don't want out, I want to save this with every fiber of my being. She just gives me so little that I don't even know if it's worth trying.

I sent her a fairly thorough email, because she ignores my texts, covering pretty much everything that needed to be said, and received nothing in return.

I don't even know if all of my efforts are falling on deaf ears, or if she is actually seeing my sincerity.

This is literally a woman I have talked to at length, every single day, for the last quarter of a century, and now I have spent 3 weeks barely talking to her at all. Just completely adrift.

I have offered counseling, therapy, you name it.

I am so without information that I don't even know if she checked out because she's having an affair and lying to me about it.

tl;dr wife took off ring after 16 years, I want to save marriage, she might not and might be having an affair, I don't want to give up, should I?

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