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My husband M29 recently lost his dad, and it’s absolutely breaking my heart watching him go through this especially that he’s just acting normal like nothing happened he was close to his dad and loved him he even mentioned he was always prepared for this moment because his dad was sick , which i understand we all grieve differently. We’re newlyweds, and I had grown very close to his dad as well.

My dad passed away when I was young, but I didn’t fully understand grief back then. Now, seeing my husband experience this loss, I just want to be there for him in the best way possible.

For those who’ve been through something similar, what helped? How can I support him without overwhelming him?

Hi salam ladies. I know marriage is about much more than weddings or bridal events, and Alhamdulillah I’m grateful for my relationship and our nikkah. I’m just struggling emotionally because ever since I got engaged/married, difficult circumstances kept happening back to back — family loss, the war back home delaying things and etc, not having my close family here with me. Not sure if this was the smartest move but we agreed to move in early to prevent more delays for our marriage we are both grown adults as well so I am obviously trying to be careful and be on birth control.

Because of all this, I feel like I never really got to experience or enjoy this stage of life the way I always imagined, even simple bridal moments or family celebrations. We agreed to have a party back home next year since all of our friends and family are there, but here we haven’t really gotten to experience anything bridal-related yet. So what would you guys recommend me to do here to atleast experience it? I’m not trying to even make this a huge deal but in my culture these things are heavily special for brides.

I know timing and patience are important, but emotionally I still feel sad and disconnected from it all sometimes. Has anyone gone through something similar? How did you cope with these feelings?

For those who moved away after marriage, was it difficult being far from your family, especially your mom, and missing them? How did you cope with the transition and homesickness?

For those who moved away after marriage, was it difficult being far from your family, especially your mom, and missing them? How did you cope with the transition and homesickness?

Hi everyone, I really need some honest advice because I feel emotionally torn and exhausted lately.

I recently got married and Alhamdulillah I am genuinely very happy, safe, and comfortable with my husband. Our relationship is good and I’m grateful for him every day. The issue is more everything surrounding this “bridal era” and wedding experience.

We originally wanted to have our wedding back home because most of my family is there, but because of the war and everything happening, plans completely changed. We ended up doing a very small celebration here with his family only, and since then it feels like one painful or stressful thing keeps happening after another.

There’s war happening back home, constant stress and uncertainty, and recently there was also a death in one of our families so everyone has been grieving. Because of all of this, every time we try to plan something bridal-related or wedding-related, it gets delayed again. At this point, I feel emotionally drained.

I honestly haven’t even been able to enjoy being a bride yet as it is my first time in life. I know that sounds selfish considering there are much bigger things happening in the world, which is why I almost feel guilty even talking about this. I am grateful for my marriage and everything I have, but emotionally I’ve been depressed these past few months because I feel like I never got to experience any joy around this chapter of my life without sadness interrupting it.

Now we’re debating if we should just postpone everything even more, maybe until next year. Part of me wants to stop forcing celebrations during such heavy times, but another part of me is scared I’ll keep waiting forever and never actually get to enjoy this moment in life.

Did anyone else go through something similar where life circumstances, grief, family issues, or world events affected your wedding/bridal experience?

Would you personally delay things more, or still try to create some happiness despite everything going on? Please deliver advice kindly as I tried my hardest to write this respectfully 🩷

Advice or perspectives would really mean a lot right now 🤍

Hi girlies does anyone have any good drama shows or girly shows recommendations?

Salam, I’m genuinely curious because I’m adjusting to being home more and sometimes I feel lost after the basic chores are done. Like once the cooking, cleaning, laundry, errands, etc. are finished… what fills your day?

How do you build hobbies, routines, or even a sense of purpose when you’re home alone a lot when husband is at work? Especially if you don’t really have a big social circle nearby yet.

I just got back from visiting a friend that’s 31Fand I’ve been processing the whole trip. It wasn’t a horrible experience—we had some genuinely fun moments—but there were enough things that happened that left me with a weird feeling I can’t shake.

I flew out to see her thinking it would be similar to the last time—just quality time, catching up, being present with each other. But this time felt different. When we were out, she would step away or get on the phone with her boyfriend here and there. It wasn’t constant, but it happened enough that it kept breaking the flow of us actually spending time together. It made me realize how much I value uninterrupted, present time when I’m with someone. I barely even called my husband because he wanted me to have a good time and when we called I was respectful enough to call when she wasn’t home.

There was one moment in particular that really threw me off. We were out that night , and I started not feeling well. I didn’t want to ruin the vibe, so I pushed through it, never complained, stayed, played games, and tried to keep things light. At one point, then she noticed I didn’t feel okay at the arcade she basically suggested that I could just Uber home… alone… at night… in a city I don’t even know. On top of that, I didn’t even have a key to get back in. That honestly made me pause because it felt like such basic awareness was missing. I didn’t make a scene, but internally I was like, “that’s kind of crazy to suggest.” In honestly a big girl I can do this alone no problem but why would you suggest that way?

On top of that, I saw some interactions between her and her bf that made me uncomfortable. There was a moment where she cried because he didn’t stick to his word to offer her stuff when she didn’t feel well and was scrolling on tiktok and he was talking over her, and it just left a bad impression on me. I didn’t say anything at the time because I didn’t want to create tension, but it stuck with me.

What really shifted things for me though was later on. After we had already talked and she apologized for some of the interruptions, she told me that her boyfriend thinks I “don’t want her to be happy.” That honestly confused me because I don’t feel like I did anything to give that impression. I flew out to see her, tried to be present, even pushed through not feeling well so I wouldn’t ruin anything. So hearing that felt off. And more than that, I didn’t understand why she would even repeat that to me instead of keeping that between them. Also she seems like an over sharer so I’m careful with what I share about my personal life she also mentioned how her man said he didn’t want her using the game card with me like excuse me ? What makes you think I can’t pay for my own stuff? He is honestly just rude as well and I feel like she talked behind my back to him because there was tension and awkwardness between us it’s so obvious that she did.

That’s the part that made me start looking at things differently. It made me feel like she didn’t really protect me as her friend in that moment, and it also made me question her judgment.

To her credit, we did have a calm conversation before I left. I explained how I felt, she listened, apologized, and said she understood. There wasn’t a blow-up or anything like that. But even with that, I still left feeling like something just didn’t sit right.

I ended up cutting my trip short and coming home early, and honestly I feel so much better being back in my own space. At the same time, I still have this lingering feeling about the whole situation, like it left a bad taste in my mouth.

I don’t think she had bad intentions. I just think she’s very wrapped up in her relationship right now and not fully aware of how it affects her friendships. But at the same time, I’m starting to question if we’re really aligned anymore. I’m going to start distancing my self and muting her stories I doubt she’d even notice that. It just feels icky!!

Am I overthinking this, or does this situation actually seem off?

hey girls… have you ever dealt with a male-centered friend? did it affect your friendship and what was your experience? 👀